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u/uberKookie · 10 pointsr/atheistparents

You could try How To Talk So Kids Will Listen & Listen So Kids Will Talk. There are separate versions for “Little Kids” and “Teens” as well. I’m not sure how old your kids are, but I also liked [1-2-3 Magic](1-2-3 Magic: 3-Step Discipline for Calm, Effective, and Happy Parenting https://www.amazon.com/dp/149262988X/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_88L2AbPWR1BCY) for my son it really helped. Good luck!

u/phoenix_silaqui · 6 pointsr/stepparents

I would physically hold her still, by the shoulders or holding her arms to her sides and not let her go until she had heard the entire request and repeated it back. Ideally, you would only need to do this for the first couple of weeks and then you can ease up.

It sounds like perhaps 1-2-3 Magic might work for her. Implement the counting and a clear consequence. "Every one else at the table is finished. The table will be cleared in 5 minutes and dinner will be over. Whatever is left on your plate will be put up and you can eat it at [next mealtime]. I suggest you swallow that bite and eat some more before we are finished for this meal." Set a timer. Follow through. Or, "You have until the count of 3 to buckle your seat belt or daddy is going to do it for you. If he has to you will be sitting out the birthday party/staying on the bench with me at the park/riding in the cart instead of walking at the store like a big girl." Ideally she will figure it out eventually, especially if you can figure out what motivates her. There has to be something. Have frequent conversations with her, "You know, if you just did X when we asked you would get to Y instead of having to endure punishment Z." Both when she is in the midst of a consequence and when she is being well behaved. Get her to start thinking critically about her behavior.

Is she seeing someone related to the ADHD diagnosis? A therapist or counselor might be able to help her connect the dots between what is acceptable behavior and what is not and how her behavior affects others.

u/missprecocious · 5 pointsr/AdviceAnimals

Have you checked out 1-2-3 Magic? It is the #1 most successful parenting strategy that doesn't involve spanking and all that nonsense. It's an option, and has worked for many frustrated parents who don't know where to turn.

Amazon's hundreds of 5-star reviews speak volumes, as well.

u/Ipaidmybuck_o_five · 4 pointsr/Parenting

Sounds like you have way too high expectations for a 2-year old. I say that because you imply multiple rules. Pick 1 or 2 things that could be life threatening and those are the rules. Everything else is just suggestions and you gotta help them along with it. 2 year olds don't really listen and they don't even know how to reason.

At 2 they really don't understand the concepts of cause and effect yet and you just appear to be going crazy on them.

Also stop hitting and yelling (i'm really bad at yelling). All you are teaching is that when you get angry you should yell at and hit people. You are setting yourself up for bigger problems in the future. Look to time outs and counting, etc.

I have a friend that was having major behavioral issues with his 5 year old. He swears that 123 magic fixed his issues. We started reading it for our kids, but I haven't started implementing it yet. Conceptually it is more about teaching self control, first to the parents then to the kids because when you step back and look at it when the parents yells and hits it is typically the parent having a temper tantrum and just teaching bad habits.

u/cheesesmysavior · 2 pointsr/toddlers

I found the audiobook at my local library. 1-2-3 Magic: 3-Step Discipline for Calm, Effective, and Happy Parenting https://www.amazon.com/dp/149262988X/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_i_-HqUDbG049VMY

u/Werewolfdad · 2 pointsr/Parenting
u/emilystarr · 2 pointsr/IFParents

I got this one.

u/SeaTurtlesCanFly · 2 pointsr/RBNChildcare

I really like 1-2-3 Magic for parenting younger kids. My son is 3 years-old and it has helped me so much with him.

It doesn't address parents who had bad parents, but it does give you solid strategies for parenting and gives good tips to avoid yelling or things like that.

u/Amandasboobs · 1 pointr/breakingmom

I found 1-2-3 magic was a good start for us.

u/Lil_MsPerfect · 1 pointr/breakingmom

The very best book I've read for discipline is 1-2-3 Magic (which someone here recommended to me) and combine that with the supernanny time out technique (put them in time out for 1 minute per year of age, if they leave the spot, quietly take them back and deposit them again until they learn to stay). It keeps us all calm and the kid knows we're not fucking around just a couple days after implementing it. It also works with my teenager except instead of time out he's getting a chore or losing a privilege/going to bed early depending on the transgression.

u/MiaAlgia · 1 pointr/TwoXChromosomes

I had a crappy father, but he pressed me to work hard at math. That was good.

He was a construction worker and every time he fixed something around, he made me stand there and hands his tools to him, so I can fix just about anything around the house.

Here's a book on how to raise a smart and happy child.
https://www.amazon.com/Brain-Rules-Baby-Updated-Expanded/dp/0983263388

Now that my daughter is a toddler, the pediatrician recommended this book
https://www.amazon.com/1-2-3-Magic-Discipline-Effective-Parenting/dp/149262988X

Don't let her watch Disney princess movies if you can help it, except Brave is probably good http://national.deseretnews.com/article/20551/disney-princess-culture-may-not-be-great-for-the-future-of-little-girls.html

I play the Winnie the Pooh educational videos for her, so that's what she likes: 123's, Shapes and Sizes, ABC's.

In order to deal with talking to her about sex, which you may need to do as early as age six, read this book https://www.amazon.com/Girls-Sex-Navigating-Complicated-Landscape-ebook/dp/B0111YAT0Y

I am so deeply disturbed by what girls have to deal with now days. It's so much worse than when I was a teen. Worrying about my daughters keeps me up at night.

u/John_Farrier · 0 pointsr/AskMen

For general outlook, I found Fred Rogers's Many Ways to Say I Love You: Wisdom for Parents and Children from Mister Rogers to be helpful.

For a practical guide to discipline, I recommend 1-2-3 Magic by Thomas Phelan.

u/jimbolaya · 0 pointsr/Parenting

I have a few ideas.

Read 123 Magic. It has helped immensely with my twin toddlers. You really need to get everyone in the house on board with discipline /rules. Your kid is learning that if she tantrums hard enough someone in the house will cave and she will get her way. If the answer to tablet usable is no, and your child throws a fit, you count, 1, then pause a few moments for compliance, 2 then pause, a finally 3. If they haven't calmed down after 3 opportunities , they get an age appropriate time out (~1 min per year of age). Leave emotion out, no reasoning or lengthy explanations. After the timeout give a hug and maybe a quick talk" No hitting, Okay".

Eating vegetables. My kids always seemed to like vegetables but we do involve them in the cooking process. Maybe have her help clean/prepare/cook some green beans. Cooking is a very engaging activity for our boys, talk about heat/cold/hot, raw/cooked, cookware, have them help flip/mix in the pan, add seasoning. Once they have helped make the food they are more interested in trying the food. Also having them add a little pinch of salt, or some pepper form a pepper mill, helps pique their interest.

My kids go to bed at 7:30pm and wake at 6:10am. It was a long and hard fight to get them sleeping like angels but it was mostly just not giving in to their tantrums. If it means leaving a party early to make that bedtime, so be it. If you gradually move her bed time earlier, your mom/sister/fiance will have more time to watch TV /internet/whatever with their guards down.

We let our twins watch TV and use their tablets, but we had to get more strict with their use. They used to be able to watch one episode of a cartoon before preschool in the morning, and maybe another after dinner. That has turned into no youtube/TV/tablets on M-F, Saturday they can do whatever they like, Sunday is a weaning from electronics day, maybe a cartoon or two in the morning. Viewing was getting out of hand needed to be reined in.

You need to get your mom/sister to stop letting her have way, it totally undermines you and your fiance.

>But yesterday she dropped one tiny piece of snack on the floor and I kept going (she was in her stroller)

My kids will do this sometimes. It's the end of the world when a whole cracker is now two! If it happens I generally will help them right what's wrong. With the cracker I would acknowledge their frustration/disappointment and would show them that eating the "broken" piece fixes the two cracker issue. In your case I would have circled back and helped look for the missing snack, you could make a game of it, "IS that the snack" pointing at something obviously not the snack, repeat until they no longer remember why they are upset.

Good luck.