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Like queeraspie said, we're not mentally ill. Hopefully you take something from your experience in this subreddit.
Here's some books which may help you and your brother. If he won't/can't read them, you read them and use the information you gain to assist him figure things out. Some are geared toward Asperger's, but will be a good read regardless.
http://www.amazon.com/The-Unwritten-Rules-Social-Relationships/dp/193256506X/
http://www.amazon.com/Social-Success-Workbook-Teens-Skill-Building/dp/1572246537/
http://www.amazon.com/Full-Life-Autism-Relationships-Independence/dp/0230112463/
http://www.amazon.com/Alone-Together-Making-Asperger-Marriage/dp/1843105373/
http://www.amazon.com/The-Journal-Best-Practices-Marriage/dp/1439189714/
http://www.amazon.com/Asperger-Syndrome-Long-Term-Relationships-Stanford/dp/1843107341/
http://www.amazon.com/Aspergers-Love-Couple-Relationships-Affairs/dp/1843101157/
I really enjoyed the book Asperger Syndrome and Long-Term Relationships, written by an NT wife of an AS husband.
Granted, I've not seen the advice and insights in the book put into practice, being an aspie who has never been in any romantic relationship of note, so I'm not entirely sure of how valuable my judgment on such a book is. But I thought that the author's attitude and writing style was very respectful, positive, and encouraging, in contrast to some other literature I've read that I felt was less positive or constructive, or was subtly dismissive or disrespectful toward one or the other party in a mixed NT/AS relationship.
I found these two pretty interesting - http://smile.amazon.com/The-Complete-Guide-Aspergers-Syndrome/dp/1843106698/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1405361257&sr=8-1&keywords=aspergers
http://smile.amazon.com/Look-Me-Eye-Life-Aspergers/dp/0307396185/ref=sr_1_5?ie=UTF8&qid=1405361257&sr=8-5&keywords=aspergers
I gave this one to my g/f to read - http://smile.amazon.com/Asperger-Syndrome-Long-Term-Relationships-Stanford/dp/1843107341/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1405361368&sr=8-1&keywords=aspergers+relationships
> I'm unable to even try to get a diagnosis. Yes, try to get.
You won't actually be able to get a diagnosis of Asperger Syndrome (AS), it doesn't exist anymore. AS was removed from the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM) in May 2013, I covered some of this in a reply to the post on WHO removing some gender based disorders from the ICD.
In Australia the removal of AS has led to people who would be otherwise diagnosed with AS be diagnosed as having social communication disorder. As social communication disorder isn't recognised as an autism spectrum disorder, there isn't any funding or additional support available to those diagnosed as having it.
> Oh and, the HUGE absence of resources for aspies over 18. It's as if the system assumes it's a "kid thing" and that you either die as a kid (like a lot of orphan diseases) or that symptoms no longer exist as adults.
As someone who wasn't diagnosed with AS until I was 30, this is a big issue. While I am successsfully able to manage without needing professional support, there are aother people I know who can't.
That said, there are a lot of good books and other resources out there. Two that I have found invaluable are Tony Attwood's The Complete Guide to Asperger's Syndrome and Ashley Stanford's Asperger Syndrome and Long-Term Relationships. Being a partner and parent with AS has it's challenges but being a good partner and great father is well worth the effort.
For a more light hearted look at things, David Finch's The Journal of Best Practices: A Memoir of Marriage, Asperger Syndrome, and One Man's Quest to Be a Better Husband is a great autobiography which I also learned a great deal from.
If you have any questions or want someone to talk to, you just need to ask.
Wow, lots of similarities!! As far as getting an "official" diagnosis, that's sort of the point we were at...it would've been a lot of money for not a lot of benefit. Honestly, it's been a while since I've looked at the books we have so, I can't remember which were most helpful (sorry) but, here's the ones that we do have:
book #1
book #2
book #3
book #4
If I do recall correctly I believe Book #3 Aspergers In Love by Maxine Aston was most helpful...but, I can't promise.
Also, if you didn't see it already, check out the link for the 5 Love Languages, we found that to be really helpful.
Edit...did the link formatting wrong!