Reddit reviews Building the Bonds of Attachment: Awakening Love in Deeply Troubled Children

I just wanted to say: thank you for what you are doing. I've studied RAD in school and it can be devastating. I admire that you are making sure you are engaging in self-care as well as parenting a child in circumstances that would be a challenge for anyone.

I'm not sure if you would find this useful, but in my graduate studies I was introduced to this book: Building the Bonds of Attachment: Awakening Love in Deeply Troubled Children that specifically focused on RAD and is not only very informative, but is written in a style that makes it very easy to read as well. It oscillates between narrative story and treatment options and analysis and is an amazing gold mine of useful and practical information for both clinicians and parents. If you would like an additional resource, check out the reviews on the link above and see if you think it might be worthwhile in your situation.

But seriously, thank you for what you are doing. :)

Building the Bonds of Attachment: Awakening Love in Deeply Troubled Children https://www.amazon.com/dp/0765704048/ref=cm_sw_r_other_apa_Gr-sxbQQRP83T

PsychologyToday isn't that great as well, on an in depth level. For me, I've found myself aimlessly surfing through the oversimplified/summaried articles, that only veers on the surface level of things.

• "Emotionally instability" -- but what does that explain?
  
  Honestly, the pathology spreads across so many different disciplines/schools of thought, that I had to go through many different academic literature to grasp a conceptual understanding; attachment psychology, complex traumatic stress, neuroscience, developmental psychology, developmental trauma, object-relations, intrapsychic ego (impulsiveness/ego management/emotional-pull-push with people), dissociation, as well as marital therapy and sociological Asian American (to understand the cultural barriers/friction with mental health, then I'm looking towards understanding MBT and DBT, as a way to empathize.
  
  I've pretty much have most of the "mainstream" BPD books out there, and I think the Borderline Personality Disorder Demystified does a fairly good job providing a detailed overview of the prognosis of those with BPD. However, I've come across Borderline Personality Disorder: New Reasons for Hope again, and I think it may be more promising after skimming through it. I passed on it when I first forayed into BPD literature, instead opting for simpler books; however, I've come to realize that has only lead to the surface level of things as well.
  
  
  As for Randi, her book does more oversimplification which is consequently harmful, than the righteousness of doing good it wistfully intends. It also seems that she is using/projecting the book and her participation in the BPD community as a collective coping mechanism for her past. IDK
  
  Your website is great. I feel research/literature wise, we're reaching a point where we have a good amount research/literature on BPD that provides contemporary answers, but it's still fragmented across cross-topics/disciplines. We have top-experts in their own specialization like Otto Von in PTSD that usually have a chapter on BPD in their textbooks, and I reckon there should be more work from everyone into encompassing a collaborative comprehensive text for this highly niche subject of BPD, that entails not just one sole disciplinary focus.

Have you talked to his case worker/social worker/treatment team about these concerns? They are going to be a better resource than reddit, I'm afraid.

There are certification classes you can take on therapeutic restraint and other tactics for handling rages and meltdowns - consider checking those out.

Is there a crisis team you could call? Check to see if your area, agency, county, etc. has support groups or other resources for foster families. There are often church-connected or nonprofit ones as well. It may feel like you are alone, but you are not!

Consider reading "Building the Bonds of Attachment" by David Hughes (https://www.amazon.com/Building-Bonds-Attachment-Awakening-Troubled/dp/0765704048/ref=sr_1_2?ie=UTF8&qid=1496171891&sr=8-2&keywords=building+the+bonds+of+attachment). It covers a really similar situation - a child who has violent and destructive rages as a result of trauma, and discusses therapeutic interventions (including holding). It looks like a really dry, dense, inaccessible book from the cover and title but it is actually really readable and really useful. Work by Karyn Purvis (http://empoweredtoconnect.org/) also has a lot of strategies for managing and healing this kind of behavior.

And, as always, document, document, document!