Reddit reviews Celebrate Your Body (and Its Changes, Too!): The Ultimate Puberty Book for Girls
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>The thing is I was hoping I didn't have to be the one to have this conversation.
Yeah, none of us do.
>It will be much easier with my son but he's only 8 and doesn't need to know about sex yet.
You sure? I mean about both parts. He's probably not interested in sex, but it's 2019, and it's /everywhere/ in our society.
There are four things your daughter needs to know about sex:
(note that my wife is still very much in the picture, but I don't outsource work because it's unpleasant).
My approach to these issues was to start talking about them a little at a time early, to the degree that my daughter could understand these issues (I don't do this just with sex, I do it with everything).
#1 is fairly easy, this is the one you CAN outsource. We got spawn Celebrate your body (And it's changes too!), and there's other good books that deal with the same sorts of things. Let her read the book in private, but make VERY sure she knows she can come to you with *any* questions.
#2. You're on your own for this one, but I think that getting kids to think about their actions within the context of whatever moral framework you have is better than decreeing "this is bad, that is bad" from on high. It is very easy to build arguments both for "traditional" morality, and for more contemporary attitudes, but you need to be careful when doing it.
#3 We have dealt with several ways, one is that she's been in martial arts off and on since she was 5. She wasn't doing so good in the Krav school (my first choice for people who don't want to make martial arts a lifestyle) near our house, so we have her in Jujitsu. I'm not so fond of Jujitsu as a self-defense art, but for 12 year old and up women it's not a bad idea--knowing how to use locks and your body to unmount someone trying to hurt you. The other things we've discussed are *no one* gets to touch you if you don't want them to[1]. I have made it clear over and over that I'll have her back as long as she was attacked. This, of course, means that I have to trust her, and we're going through a dishonest phase at the moment which is angry making.
#4 I can't even imagine talking to my daughter about that. Dunno how to handle that one. I don't really want her to learn the way I did--from "Penthouse Letters" and fumbling around on couches and other places, but I don't want to encourage her to start before she's ready. In fact I want her to delay it until she's out of highschool.
#5. Make sure she's had the HPV vaccine. My SIL was recently diagnosed with cervical cancer, and is angry with herself because she only got the first HPV shot, not the second. Make sure she understands her options where birth control and STD prevention are concerned.
I think it helps a lot if you can relate your discussions to other things going on in the world and/or her life. For example, I don't know *why* your wife isn't in the picture, but there's a reason, no? You don't really want to talk down a kids mother, but is there a lesson in there your kids need to learn?
All of these discussions have to be developmentally appropriate, and (to reiterate) I think it's best if they're presented in such a way as to cause the child to think.
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[1] My daughter has two rules: Never hit first, *always* hit back. It's also been made clear to her that a legitimate KO gets her ice cream