Reddit reviews Dealing with People You Can’t Stand, Revised and Expanded Third Edition: How to Bring Out the Best in People at Their Worst
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I also like Dealing With People You Can't Stand.
Do not read these at work!
Buy this book: Dealing with People You Can't Stand It helped me get through ten horrible years with a complete set of assholes, jerks, and really horrible people.
Your boyfriend doesn't have to like your friend.
He needs to be polite and have a functional roommate relationship with her. If he is doing that, then that is good.
You say he isn't speaking to her... and I'm not sure if that means that he is being snide and rude to her or simply not engaging her in conversations.
If he is being rude to her, he needs to stop. Adults get along in relationships with people they hate all the time. It is the way the world works. There are techniques he can look in to (I recommend the book Dealing With People You Can't Stand).
He needs to respect your relationship with your friend and not try to drive a wedge in between you two.
You shouldn't have to tell your friend anything. HE should tell the roommate something. It doesn't have to be rude or hurtful. He could just say that he wants to preserve the roommate situation and he respects your friendship with the roommate. So, he is no longer engaging in conversation because he realizes that he was getting stressed out and angry about the negative stuff. He could say he just wants to relax at home and the negative conversations and venting are stressing him out. So, if he is quiet or leaves the room, that is why.
You could say this to the roommate, but really, he should.
She might get irrational about it... but, really, ROOMMATES DON'T HAVE TO HANG OUT AND TALK WITH EACH OTHER!!! Seriously, my SO has friends I don't particularly like talking to or hanging out with... so I DON'T. I wouldn't if we lived together either.
I've had roomies that I've barely seen. Those were the best roommates ever, IMO.
TL;DR: Your boyfriend just needs to explain to your roomie that he needs no-stress, complaint-free conversation at home... so he is going to be quiet or absent from conversation that upsets him. He doesn't have to engage her, but he does have to be an adult and have a roommate relationship and not get in the way of your friendship.
Oh... and you can be friends with someone your SO doesn't like hanging around. Adults do this all the time. Seriously.
Get this book......
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https://www.amazon.com/Dealing-People-Stand-Revised-Expanded/dp/0071785728
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You don't even need to read it just make sure they see you holding it. When someone asks you a question say, "Wait a minute" and then page through the book before giving them an answer.
There are a few more good ones:
The No Asshole Rule
Dealing with Difficult People
It took me two downsizes to figure out what I was doing wrong. I thought it was just my vocational skills that were terrible. Not so.
This can be useful:
https://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/0071785728/ref=mp_s_a_1_fkmr2_1?ie=UTF8