Reddit reviews Douglas Kent's Complete Shibari: Land: 1

Use your imagination!

But seriously, there are tonnes of ideas you can get from porn or from searching around. Once you start thinking kinky, the dollar store can be a treasure trove of pervertables.

I'm not sure about swimsuits and latex, but if you're into the same tight feeling of mummification with plastic you can buy rolls of plastic wrap. Check out pallet wrap as well.

Scarves can be found for very cheap and make for great restraints or blindfolds.

Good quality rope is a bit more expensive, but worth it. Research your rope beforehand:

• Hemp and jute are the "classic" tan-coloured rope you see in most bondage shoots for good reason: it's solid, doesn't stretch much, and holds a knot really well while not being impossible to untie. Good for all levels.
  
  
• Cotton rope can be comfortable for light bondage, but it stretches, making some knots very difficult to get undone if struggled against. Good for begining and very light bondage.
  
  
• MFP (Multi-filament-polypropylene) is comfortable like cotton but holds its' shape like hemp or jute. It's a good beginning material, but more expensive.
  
  
• Polypropylene rope (the kind you might find on a dock) is very uncomfortable, painful, and difficult to undo knots (this stuff: http://www.dingocroft.co.uk/acatalog/ropeyelow6m.jpg ). Do not use (unless you're a sadistic bastard)
  
  For rope bondage, here is an excellent introduction pdf: http://www.kinkfriendly.org/wp-content/uploads/2010/12/kinkfriendly_org_rope_101_compressed.pdf
  
  Here are some other valuable rope/bondage resources:
  
  
• Two Knotty Boys - http://www.knottyboys.com/code/downloads.php - Hundreds of instructional videos for rope bondage
  
  
• The Better Built Bondage Book - http://www.tbbbb.com/ - Do It Yourself guide to bondage furniture and accessories; a fantastic book
  
  
• Complete Shibari Volume 1 - http://www.amazon.com/Complete-Shibari-Volume-1-Land/dp/0973668814/ref=pd_bxgy_b_img_y - Japanese-style rope bondage instructional book.
  
  
• Complete Shibari Volume 2 - http://www.amazon.com/Complete-Shibari-Volume-2-Sky/dp/0973668822 - Volume 2 of the above, with suspensions
  
  Hope that helps!
  
  EDIT: Formatting.

Most harnesses can be worn under clothing fairly well for a how to with harnesses:

>Twisted Monk has a few basic harneses you should probably start out with. Two Knotty Boys has a TON of videos and a whole section for harnesses. Additionally I highly recommend Complete Shibari Volume 1: Land and Complete Shibari Volume 2: Sky for your reading and instruction.

Also, here's a basic harness how to for putting one on under clothing.

So... I assume those are numbered 1 to 4.

1. Depend on what kind of rope you have in the first place.
   
   
2. Depend on what kind of rope you have in the first place.
   
   
3. Twisted Monk has a few basic harneses you should probably start out with. Two Knotty Boys has a TON of videos and a whole section for harnesses. Additionally I highly recommend Complete Shibari Volume 1: Land and Complete Shibari Volume 2: Sky for your reading and instruction.
   
   
4. Quoting Dan of the Two Knotty Boys: Source
   
   >Q: What kind of rope do you use or recommend, and where do you get it?
   
   >A: This is by far the most popular question we receive. The short answer is we usually use nylon solid braid rope 7/16" (11mm) or 3/8" (9mm) for harnesses and wraps, with 1/8" (3mm) nylon for the finer, decorative stuff.
   

I am a rope bondage instructor. I would highly suggest Complete Shibari Volume 1: Land
I wish I had this book when I was starting out. In my opinion it is the best shibari instruction book out to date. He has an advanced follow up book called Sky that is for rope suspension.

Link dump!

Threads:
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2,
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4.

Instructionals: Two Knotty Boys,
Twisted Monk.

Books: Showing you the Ropes,
Back On the Ropes, Complete Shibari,
Erotic Bondage Handbook.

Must Know Knots: One Comlun Tie,
Two Column Tie.

Subreddits: /r/bondage, /r/kinbaku+shibari, /r/bdsmdiy

That should be a good start. Also, look for any related posts to this one, there are about a million (This question is asked every few days, and there are some great answers in the logs.)

As far as free online videos, Twisted Monk has some very basic videos, and I learned a lot from the Two Knotty Boys videos as well. They're both very helpful when starting out.

For Shibari information specifically, Midori's classic book is a good place to start. After that, I suggest moving on to Douglas Kent's excellent Shibari books, both the first and the second volume.

I can go on for a while about other good rope books if you're looking for more general information, so feel free to ask if you need more info. Of course, sticking your head over in /r/BDSMcommunity is a good move as well.

Quick notes on rope.

• Climbing rope can be great, but be aware that especially if using thicker rope it can be harder to do safe, comfortable ties; also in an emergency it may be harder to cut. Most of the time (personal opinion) it doesn't look as sexy as --
  
  
• Hemp rope, normally 6 or 8mm, is ultimately the most versatile, sexiest feeling, and tends to be the choice of enthusiasts, and a few cotton and jute ropes are quite nice (avoid the red/black synthetic crap that manufacturers always market as something like 'japanese silk', which is a) slippery, b) ugly and c) not that much cheaper than good rope).
  
  
• If you're doing rope bondage, get yourself a pair of safety shears with a flat edge just in case you ever need them. You'll probably never need them, but imagine if you did and didn't have any! Or actually, don't imagine that, just buy some!
  
  
• The videos that usually get recommended for beginners over on /r/BDSMcommunity are twistedmonk's and they have some excellent basic tips.
  
  
• When trying out ties, start off leaving lots of slack. Better escapable than dangerous: you'll get a feel for rope as you play with it more.
  
  
• Practise on yourself! Try column ties on your legs till you can do them blindfolded.
  
  
• Want to go further and explore shibari? Douglas Kent's book is a great provocative coffee table addition.
  
  A final note, not on rope: when using other bondage materials, please, please, think of safety too. Some examples of safe thinking: handcuffs and irons are rigid, and harder than your body, so keep them loose(ish) and don't apply pressure; gags are great, but they remove one easy layer of communication and consent, so have a system (finger clicking, e.g.) to get around safe words; some things (cable ties, e.g.) are never acceptable, even in extremis: think about the properties of stuff you use.
  
  Just as importantly, have lots of fun! /r/BDSMcommunity is great for any further questions.

TL;DR

Here are some great videos to get you started.

Here is a free online class when you have time and want to dive deeper.

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ONLINE RESOURCES - COURSES

Crash Restraint an extensive, free, online rope bondage course. It can be a little tricky to navigate, and you need to make a free account, but once you understand how the site is laid out, it's really an incredible resource. If you wanted just one resource to take you from beginner to expert, this would be a great choice.

The Duchy, a chill rope bondage resource with free content, and paid content that costs $3-$5

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ONLINE RESOURCES - VIDEOS

Twisted Monk's How-To Videos Talks you through the ties out loud, which I find really helpful. (Also on youtube here.)

Two Knotty Boys How-To Videos Great basics, but a lot of the videos don't have verbal instruction, which I personally don't prefer.

Zed Ropework has a handful of good, clear videos on youtube

Watts The Safeword is a little goofy -- but that can be good! And their videos are simple and straightforward.

MorganThorneBDSM has some good beginner bondage videos (and a ton of other non-bondage BDSM content)

Epic Rope is low-key and enjoyable.

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BOOKS

(Note, I linked to amazon but a lot of the books can be found MUCH cheaper elsewhere)

Douglas Kent's Complete Shibari: Land: 1 is my favorite, I think the instructions and photos are the clearest and most detailed, and there are a ton of useful ties.

Seductive Art of Japanese Bondage a beautiful book you could put on a coffee table, with tons of useful stuff, and steeped in history and culture, which I love. The line illustrations are, in my opinion, not as clear as a ton of photos would be.

Green Candy Press Two Knotty Boys Showing You The Ropes, a chill, fun, approachable book. The choice of ties is a little all-over-the-place, and it doesn't feel like an extensive course so much as a small buffet of options.

I have this book and it's pretty good. Those should be covered in there.

http://www.amazon.com/Complete-Shibari-Volume-1-Land/dp/0973668814

There are a ton of infographics. I think bdsmgeek(.tumblr.com) has links to a good number of them. Honestly, you should just get either Lee's book or Doug's book

We got some from TwistedMonk in their Statutory Grape color, but we also make our own. It's 100% organic hemp with vegan oil. Hemp is the best due to the toothiness of the rope, and the high burn temperature.

Check out Monk's videos section for some great starter stuff, but I also highly recommend TKB's Showing You The Ropes and Douglas Kent's Complete Shibari Vol 1. If you need any more tips or pointers or whatever, feel free to message. My partner does this stuff professionally for photoshoots, kink events, and the like.

Rope suspension is one of the few things that I really encourage people to learn one-on-one with someone who does it well. That said, I like Douglas Kent's books on the subject. The first book establishes the basics of rope bondage and his particular way of describing the ties. The second book takes that into the air.

Book 1, Book 2

Books that may help:

• S&M 101
  
• The Masters Manual
  
• The New Topping Book (I haven't read this one, yet, but I've gotten quality reviews from bottoms whose opinions I trust on the subject)
  
• Complete Shibari
  
• Shibari You Can Use

Check out Two Knotty Boys lots of vids on how to tie.

If you wanna get a book I highly recommend Complete Shibari Volume 1: Land. Very good full color photos step by step guide.

I love xeromag's intro and especially the intro for 'nice guys'.

Love the pervocracy although Cliff's more blogger par excellence than resource. Lot's of resource-y links on there.

Not specifically BDSM, but since consent is discussed amongst kinksters more than at the world at large (which is a tragic shame for the world at large), I recommend some yes means yes.

Since shopping comes up a lot, the stockroom, the collar factory, both highly recommended. Also /r/bdsmDIY for those who don't have the money for the high end stuff, or want to try out a new style of play before investing a couple hundred bucks on it.

Paper books I love:

• Douglas Kent's series on Shibari is the best intro-to-tying-up I've ever seen. TKB aren't shabby at all, but Kent teaches you much more in the way of fundamentals, and less made-to-order harnesses/wraps that are only usable in total or not at all (Kent's books tend to have a very long section at the beginning teach all of the basics, not just specific knots, then the harnesses he suggests are merely combinations of those smaller building blocks).
  
  
• Taramino's Ultimate Guide to Kink has a great sampler platter of kinks - I haven't met someone yet that didn't find something in there they haven't tried / wanted to know more about / found exciting enough to bring up with a partner. It's a great read, and informative.
  
  That a start?

Be wary of surprises in BDSM as they frequently go badly.

That being said, your best tie would be a basic box tie / takata kote with cinches in the middle and sides to better squeeze/isolate each breast. You might want to get an instruction manual and practice on a pillow for a while before trying this or the big surprise you are both going to get is how hard it is to make a nice looking tie that stays in place.

Some links to videos and books. But definitely head to FetLife and look for learning opportunities in your local community or the nearest larger town/city if you're 18+.

https://www.twistedmonk.com/pages/how-to-videos

https://www.youtube.com/user/EsinemShibari

https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCwx8uy7nxohWLwnaPocLsyg

https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCnDMxfncrhNeN4XtkaN3aMw

https://www.stockroom.com/two-knotty-boys-showing-you-the-ropes.html

https://www.stockroom.com/back-on-the-ropes-two-knotty-boys.html

https://www.stockroom.com/the-seductive-art-of-japanese-bondage-midori.html

https://www.stockroom.com/erotic-bondage-handbook-jay-wiseman.html

https://www.amazon.com/Complete-Shibari-1-Douglas-Kent/dp/0973668814/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1518034874&sr=1-1&keywords=douglas+kent

https://www.amazon.com/Douglas-Kents-Rogue-Hojojutsu-DOUGLAS/dp/0973668857/ref=sr_1_3?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1518034874&sr=1-3&keywords=douglas+kent

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Douglas Kent's "Complete Shibari", book one. It's part of a series.

The book gets lots of flack from some people for using only femme presenting, traditionally attractive models. But if you're logical like I am, and work best from clear pictures, it's got a lot of value. Definitely try to get a peek inside before purchasing.

There are some great intro videos on twisted monk to get you started. I really recommend the complete shibari book. This book has great full colour images that are easy to follow. This book has been a favourite for new riggers in my area because of the ease of use.

Invest in some shears to keep close by as well, never know when you might need them.

Thank you! One of my favorites resources is The Complete Shibari books. http://www.amazon.com/Complete-Shibari-Volume-1-Land/dp/0973668814

If you don't think you know how to do it properly, you need to tell her a head of time, and talk about how to proceed. Maybe make it a practice before you get deep into a scene. You can always focus on the other kinky stuff that you feel more confident about. Explore safely, sanely and consensually. And means being honest about your skill level.

There are a lot of books out there.
https://www.amazon.com/Shibari-You-Can-Use-Japanese-ebook/dp/B00S46RMNK/ref=mp_s_a_1_1?keywords=shibari+ebook&qid=1572969064&sr=8-1

https://www.amazon.com/Knotty-Showing-Ropes-Step-Step/dp/193116049X/ref=mp_s_a_1_1?keywords=shibari+books&qid=1572969143&sprefix=shibari+book&sr=8-1

https://www.amazon.com/Complete-Shibari-1-Douglas-Kent/dp/0973668814/ref=pd_aw_fbt_14_img_3/191-1189122-4871707?_encoding=UTF8&pd_rd_i=0973668814&pd_rd_r=3406f48b-63f6-4e69-9654-39f9dc5dd2ea&pd_rd_w=W7vb5&pd_rd_wg=cRP8r&pf_rd_p=6e6afc8a-fbbd-4649-97cf-4e08f5113612&pf_rd_r=7DX6V5JHWKR1S99KCEQ1&psc=1&refRID=7DX6V5JHWKR1S99KCEQ1

Be safe and have fun

camgnostic wrote:

I love xeromag's intro and especially the intro for 'nice guys'.

Love the pervocracy although Cliff's more blogger par excellence than resource. Lot's of resource-y links on there.

Not specifically BDSM, but since consent is discussed amongst kinksters more than at the world at large (which is a tragic shame for the world at large), I recommend some yes means yes.

Since shopping comes up a lot, the stockroom, the collar factory, both highly recommended. Also /r/bdsmDIY for those who don't have the money for the high end stuff, or want to try out a new style of play before investing a couple hundred bucks on it.

Paper books I love:

• Douglas Kent's series on Shibari is the best intro-to-tying-up I've ever seen. TKB aren't shabby at all, but Kent teaches you much more in the way of fundamentals, and less made-to-order harnesses/wraps that are only usable in total or not at all (Kent's books tend to have a very long section at the beginning teach all of the basics, not just specific knots, then the harnesses he suggests are merely combinations of those smaller building blocks).
  
  
  
• Taramino's Ultimate Guide to Kink has a great sampler platter of kinks - I haven't met someone yet that didn't find something in there they haven't tried / wanted to know more about / found exciting enough to bring up with a partner. It's a great read, and informative.
  
  That a start?
  
  

Douglas Kent has 2 great shibari books with illustrations. Here's the first one called "land" and the second one is called "air."

Damn auto correct... Douglas Kent. Here is a link to the book I was thinking of. Douglas Kent's Complete Shibari: Land: 1 https://www.amazon.com/dp/0973668814/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_i_JwixCb23JVNQ9

Just as an FYI, 30 is the longest I use but also 20 feet since double the up so I am only dealing with a shorter amount when ties. For two reasons 1 I'm not pulling rope forever through itself and 2 it's easier to control a shorter amount underfoot. If I need longer I will put a knot at the end I'm working with and use a slip hitch to attach the next rope to it.

I got a great story when I was starting out about rope getting tangled around the cat that was chasing it...

Also depends on the type of rope you are using will depend on which and how many knots you will need to hold the rope in place.

/r/bdsmcommunity would be a good place to check out. Also, I'd say a lot of bondage video stuff online is super crazy hardcore, you don't have to get that deep into it right off the bat, or ever for that matter. Maybe start with a beginners restraint setup and see if you like it. Or look into Shibari <classy rope bondage>