Reddit reviews Dude, You’re a Fag: Masculinity and Sexuality in High School
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> a male having shaved legs is subject to ridicule
That's because of a societal mistrust and ridicule of femininity. In a society where male is default, and masculinity is praised, the idea of a man being 'reduced' to a state of femininity is offensive.
There's a fantastic book that serves as a great introduction to this topic called Dude You're A Fag by C.J. Pascoe: http://www.amazon.com/Dude-Youre-Fag-Masculinity-Sexuality/dp/0520252306
If you're actually interested at all in WHY men are ridiculed for being feminine, and the reasons and evidence for the root of the problem, then please give that book a chance.
The book "Dude, You're a Fag" by CJ Pascoe is an in-depth ethnography of how high school boys conceptualize masculinity, with added emphasis on the use of fag as a slur. I would really recommend it if you're interested in the topic - chapter is available free by PDF here.
She also researches youth and digitial media for those into that sort of thing.
More Pascoe goodness:
Interesting interview with Pascoe on Feministing
Pascoe's faculty page with more information
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>how can I combat someone who says things like this around me
Get smart. Read some books on the topic. This is primarily of benefit to yourself, but it will also help you argue against ignorance. Start with something easy like this looks cool for example.
> What is it about these men that make them feel like they have to threaten someone who just paid them a compliment?
Read this book.