Reddit reviews Emotional Intelligence 2.0

Building off of this, I think OP can do well in an interview. Given the diversity of your experience (which I am unfamiliar with), you have the opportunity to act confidently in an entry level interview and actually guide the conversation in your favor. Here is an example of what your interview might go like if you can keep things positive.

Interviewer: So tell me about yourself
You: well I am from , currently have lived in for quite a while and currently am studying . I have worked at (list various experiences and the amounts of experience.) I ended up finding the time at most fulfilling because of . (even if it is a clerk job, enthusiasm at low level positions shows that you will have that enthusiasm in your "real job". There has got to be something you have enjoyed in your previous work right?)

Interviewer: Why do you want to leave your current job to come work here?

You: I feel like as much as I have learned, I am ready for more responsibility and feel like I have learned as much as I can at my current job. (not lying, and showing a desire to move up).

Interviewer: We are looking for someone that has skillset, is that something that you have?
You: (important that you don't get nervous here if you don't have it) While I do not have a lot of experience with this, I am familiar with it and a fast learner and will be capable of learning on the job. (A google search of keywords on the skillset requirements is usually good for this)

Interviewer: So tell me more about ___ on your resume.
You: This was an interesting experience for me because I got to do (list what you did). I found this kind of thing particularly interesting because it allowed me to (learn new things all of the time, work with people, work as many hours as I wanted, had a great group of coworkers), which I enjoy doing. (Some things about work are entirely universal, so you can probably find something that works for this).

What you want to work towards is an opportunity to say this, as it has been helpful in all of my more recent interviews "I can do anything you want me to, but I want to get an idea of what you need so I can be the most useful to you". (This communicates everything that is true for you without sounding desperate: You will take any job, you have the ability to pick up skills, and a genuine interest to improve yourself.)

From my experience, unless you are working in a very specific field, most entry level career positions can be done by high school graduates (education inflation, amiright?). So you are not lying by saying you can do anything they give you. So long as you are willing to learn and have an understanding of how to interact with people, you should be fine anywhere you start. Just like JamesTheGodMason said, they are going to pick the person who is more confident, possibly even if the other person is more qualified. This is because even if the person is not ideal, this recruiter has one mission "find someone capable of plugging the hole" and usually by the time they look externally, they only might be looking for 60-80% match of what is actually on the requirements (depending on the role/industry).
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Something I wish someone had told me about was developing my emotional intelligence (EQ) and there is a bunch of material on the subject. While this might seem like "soft-science" BS, (and in some cases, maybe it is). It has helped me tremendously in human interaction.

This is the book I started with and is written for the working professional, so it might be a good start. Just don't do the online quiz stuff.. it was kind of a ripoff.
http://www.amazon.com/Emotional-Intelligence-2-0-Travis-Bradberry/dp/0974320625

TLDR: Interview is not about impressing the person with your knowledge, but by proving you can interact with people and that you have not lied about what is on your resume. Just have an honest conversation with the person and let them know you have the desire to do whatever they throw at you. Also, EQ helps a lot.

Credentials: 2 year working professional as an IT consultant, tanked my first 5 interviews, then have gotten an offer on every subsequent interview.

Edit: sorry for the weird formatting, don't know what that's about.

Yup that makes three of us, I'm sure there's more people in this subreddit like this.

I know I have lost friends and relationships over this thing, so here's the conclusions that I have reached, please correct me if I'm wrong because I also need the feedback:

• It's all about being social nowadays isn't it? social media, social networks, everything is SOCIAL now, the internet used to be the one public place where we could hide in but not anymore, we're living in introvert's hell in a way, good thing there's places where we can meet where we don't have to take pictures of ourselves and can just write anonymously right? (thank you for this reddit)
  
  
• I think all introverts at some point realize that even though we have been like this since we were born, the world as it is right now is not made for the introvert but for the extrovert. Being social is seen as a quality whereas being withdrawn is seen as a defect of character, I never knew what the world was like for left-handed people until now.
  
  
• We are introverts till the day we die, we are never going to like being social as much as the next guy but that's ok because we hold a lot of wonderful and amazing things in higher regard than becoming socialites. That being said I don't think introverts want to be stigmatized as social outcasts (everyone wants to feel included) so until people become more tolerant about it we have to work on our social skills but without straining ourselves unnecessarily.
  
• As it is pointed out in this neat little article right there on the right hand side of the screen there's a difference between being introverted and being shy, so we have to work on dealing with the shyness (if we have it) as much as possible, perhaps it is a matter of raising self-esteem or as it is now more aptly called: self-compassion.
  
  
• In some other cases it may be a matter of learning how to trust people more, even strangers (I know it takes me a while to warm up to people) so we can talk to them as easily as we do to the people that we have known for years.
  
  
• We have to work on our people skills, social etiquette, emotional intelligence, perhaps learn how small talk even if we hate it (I know, I know, boring conversations we can't relate to, etc.)
  
  
• BUT we also have to learn the limits of this: first and foremost that we cannot ever become extroverts, so if we can't get it 100% right in social situations and can never learn to enjoy socialization as much as the rest of society THAT IS OK, if we can educate the people that love us into understanding us, they will eventually learn to tolerate what they may perceive as shortcomings. Socialization is not our biggest strength but we have many others and we have bigger fish to fry.
  
  
• Finally, I believe it is important to present yourself as you are, yes "faking it till you make it" is an invaluable tool that can take you very very far, especially if avoiding social situations is becoming an obstacle in your career or love life, but if you fake it all the time (especially with people you are intimate with) and create a false persona, eventually you're gonna get tired and the mask is going to fall off and although it is unfair, people are going to be disappointed.
  
  Better to be with people that know you are an introvert and know that you are trying your best, than with people that only like you because they think you're an extrovert and as years go by, come to realize that you are not.
  
  THAT being said, I wouldn't begin courting someone by stating that I'm an introvert, I might as well say that I'm shy weirdo, not very sexy (of course, this may change in the future).
  
  (I brought enough grammatical errors for everyone, please don't get excited about pointing them out, English is my second language and I'm at work so I can't proofread what I just wrote)

It is possible to agree with the transition and also to be emphathetic to those that are impacted. Not everyone will find a job that pays a 12% higher salary. Senior leadership may find themselves working for less money and have to adjust their life style. Not everyone will find a job that keeps them in their current locale, in the place they call home. You may not be aware that that the word "but," and the following words, completely nullified your statement about it being "terrible that people will be transitioned off." If you are a reader, you might consider getting a copy of Emotional Intelligence.

• https://www.amazon.com/Emotional-Intelligence-2-0-Travis-Bradberry/dp/0974320625/

I’m also doing this EQ workbook in conjunction. Emotional Intelligence 2.0

Paying back the money she invested in her PhD. is not sufficient by a long shot.

To OP: If this story is real, it is mind-boggling to me. I find it hard to believe that anyone can believe deleting their daughter's dissertation would somehow turn her away from what she believes. And even if it did, how could you ever be content with how she ended up having that belief? Don't you want your daughter to be able to make the right decisions for herself?

You violated her privacy, possibly robbed years of her life and perhaps (even worse) her ambition in a field she might really be passionate about.

The worst part of it all is that you think "she's overreacting and this is not a big deal"[*].

If I were you I would:

1. Do everything I can to try to still recover the data from her computer, go above and beyond (best in the world techniques) price-wise or spend months if I have to learning those techniques myself if there was no way I could pay for it.
   
2. Do everything I can to pay her the money she lost on her dissertation, this includes the estimated cost to sustain herself (food + housing bills) from when she started her dissertation or even from when she started her studies depending on how much it damaged her .
   
3. Attend discussion groups about ethics.
   
4. Make a serious attempt to understand what intellectual honesty means.
   
5. Do an emotional intelligence test like the one that comes with this book.
   
6. Go to a counsellor to figure out how in the world I was able to make such a 'rash' decision to delete her dissertation. I would consider having a serious cognitive problem and possibly serious anger issues. If I am not able to make any progress I would consider going to a mental institution and getting a sterilization.
   
7. Offer my unconditional apology to my daughter, not expect her to ever forgive me and hope she is one day able to.
   
   In short every shred of at least twice the amount of time my daughter spent on her dissertation would go into trying to minimize the damage I did.
   
   I've never heard about a person so seemingly strong-willed and intelligent as your daughter who was brought up by such an ignorant and controlling father like you, it makes me hopeful for the human race. If there ever was such a thing as a miracle, this would be one.
   
   Start thinking for yourself instead of (mis)using statements in a book that got written thousands of years ago by humans just as yourself in every context you see fit to justify your actions. Understanding that doesn't mean that there aren't necessarily any wise insights in the bible nor does not using the bible mean that you admit that there isn't a god.
   
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   [*] Which does not mean that I don't believe everybody makes poor decisions and is selfish to some degree at least some of the time, but the decision you made is so astonishingly poor and the ease with which you justify it is menacing.

I haven't read, but have heard a lot of good things about Emotional Intelligence 2.0.

Emotional Intelligence 2.0: https://www.amazon.com/Emotional-Intelligence-2-0-Travis-Bradberry/dp/0974320625/ref=sr_1_3?crid=2HFWA26F1J87Z&keywords=emotional+intelligence+2.0&qid=1572892064&sprefix=emotional+int%2Caps%2C206&sr=8-3

Absolutely one of the best reads when it comes to interacting with others and dealing with your emotions.

This book is a good introduction to emotional intelligence

Some basic recommendations:

https://www.amazon.com/Definitive-Book-Body-Language-Expressions/dp/0553804723/ref=cm_cr_srp_d_product_top?ie=UTF8

https://www.amazon.com/What-Every-BODY-Saying-Speed-Reading/dp/0061438294/ref=as_li_ss_tl?ie=UTF8&linkCode=ll1&linkId=bd2c9af18031113249e398f82105631e&tag=mysoccom-20

Understanding body language is extremely important. Being able to read other people will give you a tremendous advantage in communication. It can also help you to police your own body language so you're not doing stuff that puts people off, and also so that you communicate in ways that makes them feel comfortable.

As for direct communication... Honestly, I learned most of that from a very good teacher of speech (as in, giving speeches) and from a friend who is quite ugly but does extremely well with women. Self-perception is a lot more important than people think. How you perceive yourself translates into you how present yourself. That takes more work, of course, but knowing this is a good place to start with that.

I also got a great deal from a book on emotional intelligence, but I can't remember what it was called and it was a library loan, so I don't even have it on my bookself to look it up. But I'd say look for books on that topic, as well. I did a quick look and found this one is highly recommended:

https://www.amazon.com/dp/0974320625/ref=sspa_dk_detail_1?psc=1

As for websites, there's a lot out there. I'd just Google and see what strikes your fancy.

Good luck with it. In my personal estimation, the body language was the single most helpful thing I've studied. I use it constantly now, and it's just second nature to "read" people.

Hello there! I recently started cooking (never really did it before) and I'm LOVING it! Trying new dishes for dinner makes me super happy (especially when they come out yummy. There are those that come not so great, but, eh, practice)!

The best thing under $15 would Emotional Intelligence 2.0 by Travis Bradberry, Jean Greaves (Hardcover). Reading is always great!

I have some more books that I personally like:

Influence: https://www.amazon.com/Influence-Psychology-Persuasion-Robert-Cialdini/dp/006124189X/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1467738215&sr=8-1&keywords=influence

What everybody is saying: https://www.amazon.com/What-Every-BODY-Saying-Speed-Reading/dp/0061438294/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1467738244&sr=8-1&keywords=body+language

Body Language: https://www.amazon.com/Definitive-Book-Body-Language/dp/0553804723/ref=sr_1_4?ie=UTF8&qid=1467738244&sr=8-4&keywords=body+language

Emotional intelligence:
https://www.amazon.com/Emotional-Intelligence-2-0-Travis-Bradberry/dp/0974320625/ref=sr_1_sc_2?ie=UTF8&qid=1467738330&sr=8-2-spell&keywords=emtionall+intelligence

>I know that I'll feel at least marginally better after I finish crying, but the truth is the situation won't have changed at all.

No, but your emotional state will be closer to equilibrium, which makes you better equipped to deal with the real-world situation.

The need for the release you're feeling is pretty straightforwardly a physiological phenomenon and you're trying to rule one part of your brain (the limbic system) with a completely different part of your brain, your rational mind (the prefrontal cortex), which might work over time, but it will make things much easier if you just let off the emotional steam that's building up. You're better off thinking of these two systems within your brain as two different people. The one having the problem has its own mechanisms for dealing with stress, but you're preventing it from using them. Step back from that, get out of the way, let the catharsis happen, and then see how much clearer you'll be able to think.

Emotional Intelligence 2.0 is a great book on the subject if you're interested in delving into this in a scientifically grounded way that's still practically applicable, not just to pent up emotions, but to all aspects of life, essentially developing higher Emotional Intelligence (EQ), which is closely associated with intuitive cognitive processes, which account for much more of our behavior than conscious thought.

Personally, I think this is an area that all individuals can and should always actively be working to improve regardless of how great they feel their EQ is. I just recently purchased this test/book after taking the strength finder version. You may find it useful as well https://www.amazon.com/Emotional-Intelligence-2-0-Travis-Bradberry/dp/0974320625. :]

Here you go https://www.amazon.com/Emotional-Intelligence-2-0-Travis-Bradberry/dp/0974320625

Oh man! I'm taking care of my dad with dementia full time and half the time I want to murder him. It is HARD.

I strongly suggest that you find a psychotherapist to talk to and work this out with. It will take a few years but the earlier you start working through your emotions and feelings, the sooner you can move on with your life.

There are things worse than death. Anybody telling you "at least she's still alive," is not speaking through experience. They have no idea... Forgive them. And try not to let their words affect you. They are speaking through ignorance.

I cannot imagine being raised by a parent with dementia... Your feelings are valid. In case you cannot afford a therapist (totally plausible in our country), I suggest reading books. These suggestions may seem off topic, but i have found them to be very helpful in learning how people should interact, how the brain develops, and that there are people out there who interact with the people in their lives with empathy and compassion. You may find it empowering to educate yourself about brain development and psychology.

Parenting from the Inside Out: How a Deeper Self-Understanding Can Help You Raise Children Who Thrive, Dan Siegel

Beyond Behaviors: Using Brain Science and Compassion to Understand and Solve Children's Behavioral Challenges

Emotional Intelligence 2.0

I wish you luck in life!

https://www.amazon.com/Emotional-Intelligence-2-0-Travis-Bradberry/dp/0974320625/ref=sr_1_4?ie=UTF8&qid=1518408834&sr=8-4&keywords=emotional+intelligence

Start with this book. If you can buy it, buy it. If you cant buy it, ask your librarian. If they don't have the book, ask them to buy it for the collection (they do that.)

You sound like you are a younger person, so I'm really going to suggest you start paying attention to this now.

I wish I could go back in time and pelt my High School self with copies of this book.

Emotional intelligence is one of the major reasons why millennials don't make it into the professional sector.