Reddit reviews Erotic Massage for Couples: Head to Toe Techniques to Arouse and Gratify Your Partner
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> This is my favorite form of foreplay these days, I think. I enjoy the way he uses his fingers, and he got me off this way recently.
Mine too! My SO is a genius at what we call "yoni worship" and tantric massage, and it's SOOO nice! 🔥💥⚡️🌋 🥰
There are many different ways to go about fingering and women differ a lot in what they like and need, so couples often need to do a lot of experimentation to figure out what works best. (I think that's one reason most men aren't very good at giving female handies.)
We do a lot of edging, which is extending the arousal phase while delaying the orgasm. It increases the amount of sensual pleasure and also makes the orgasms last longer and feel stronger. In our case, we have found that about an 80:20 mix of fingers and oral is about optimal for both of us, although we vary it quite a bit. We've found that mixing up different approaches helps the edging process last longer and it also keeps us from falling into a rut.
In addition to using oral and a variety of fingering techniques, we also mix in occasional uses of a vibrator on my clit to get me up to (or back up to) a high plateau level before he switches back to fingers or oral. Not everyone likes it, but it's definitely worth a try as you both learn more about managing your arousal pattern!
> I don't hear much talk of this online though.
Actually, there are whole communities devoted to tantric sex and erotic massage, where those of us who love giving and receiving this kind of sex tend to congregate. Try r/tantricsex for starters. The sidebar has links to some good online resources for a beginner.
This is my review of a website that provides tutorials on dozens of different techniques for using fingers. It's a paysite, but definitely worth it:
Here are some books you might want to check out:
This is a collection of articles I wrote that includes several articles on erotic massage, including reviews of videos that demonstrate excellent technique:
If you are interested in going beyond erotic massage, this article is an overview of the secular (non-religious) kind of tantric sex:
...and this is a book-length instruction manual that is online and free:
Here are some other perspectives on tantric sex:
Have fun exploring!
We started doing something called Sensate Focus Therapy. Then we got a couple of books on sensual and erotic massage. These are both good:
The Art of Sensual Massage: Book and 2 DVD Set, 40th Anniversary Edition
Erotic Massage for Couples, by Sylvia Patterson
Then we started learning tantric massage from u/ShaktiAmarantha. I really recommend her online guide
The techniques we practice are a combination of all of those.