Reddit reviews Essential Judaism: A Complete Guide to Beliefs, Customs & Rituals

Dont feel bad about not knowing. I spent more than a year doing research before I even first approached a Rabbi. For us learning is a life long process.

Books:

• Jews, God and History will give you a good understanding of our history as a people. Many major empires have tried to destroy us, by all rights we should not be here any more but our oppressors end up consigned to museums and history books.
  
  
• Basic Judaism seems to be good
  
  
• To Be a Jew is highly recommend by many.
  
  
• Becoming A Jew also popular regarding Orthodox conversion.
  
  
• Essential Judaism seems to be Reform oriented but may contain a more broad oversight than just that viewpoint.
  
  
• Being Jewish was one I read that I thought offered lots of good information overall.
  
  Possibly most importantly I'd say you need a Jewish bible with commentary. I'd recommend the Stone Chumash. I also keep a JPS Hebrew/English Tanakh on my desk. The "chumash" (AKA the Torah) is the five books of Moses. The "Tanakh" is the Torah, Prophets and Writings, the entire Hebrew bible .I say a "Jewish Bible" because 1) the translation is more direct from Hebrew, without the distortions of the KJV/NIV/etc. 2) you also get commentary on the text from key Jewish scholars throughout the ages to help you understand the meaning of the text, this part is very important.
  
  All above book links are to Amazon but I am not an affiliate and do not gain in any way. You can probably find all those and more at a specialty Judaica shop like http://www.judaism.com or another similar site.
  
  BTW you probably want to go over this site entirely http://www.jewfaq.org/ It is written by an Orthodox guy so is slanted that way but the information is all good.

We don't really proselytize, so you wouldn't be "sold" necessarily. Also, are you thinking of an academic primer or something more basic?

There's the [Idiot's Guide to Jewish History and Culture] (http://www.amazon.com/Complete-Idiots-History-Culture-Edition/dp/1592572405/ref=sr_1_2?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1341422012&sr=1-2&keywords=Idiot%27s+guide+to+judaism) and Essential Judaism. Those are both pretty good books. Also, Chabad has an excellent and very informative website, though in person they're a bit too much for me.

On a tangential note, I highly recommend From Beirut to Jerusalem and Orientalism if you're interested in the Middle East.

NB: While I'm expecting to catch some flack for the idiot's guide link, it is basically an "Explain Like I'm Five" book series.

Are you looking to go to a Reform synagogue? From your use of the word "Temple", this is what I assumed. In any case: yes, you can definitely just show up, in most cases-- though not on the High Holidays. Friday night would be a good one to start with. Different congregations have different standards, but a good rule of thumb would be to wear something at least business-casual if you're a man, and a modest skirt and 3/4 length or longer sleeves if you're a woman. Modest dress may not be the standard at a given congregation, but better safe than sorry for your first time.

One thing to know is that if it's your father who is Jewish rather than your mother, you may have to formally convert, depending on which branch of Judaism appeals to you. However, I believe this is not the case in Reform Judaism. And in any case, you can most certainly participate in many aspects of religious life without converting, so there's no reason to worry about that yet.

As for books: Essential Judaism might be a great one to start with.

One final thing: if you feel comfortable saying, what city are you in? Perhaps someone in this sub-reddit can invite you along with him/her:).