Reddit reviews Every Man's Battle: Winning the War on Sexual Temptation One Victory at a Time (The Every Man Series)

As men we are visual creatures. If we look at an attractive woman we tend to start thinking about "things". :)

I read in a book that I can't remember the title of (scumbag brain is failing me) some advice that helped me and still helps me as I try to kill my sinful nature.

Any woman that you are not married to should be looked at as you would look at your mother or your sister. That assumes of course you aren't struggling with some sort of family lust. :)

Another thing that has helped me has been to train my eyes to look at women only from the neck up. If I catch myself look at a woman's butt as she walks by, I refocus my eyes to only look at her head. It is usually the second look or the prolonged look that becomes sinful.

I remember the book now: "Every Man's Battle"

http://www.amazon.com/Every-Mans-Battle-Winning-Temptation/dp/0307457974/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1342059751&sr=8-1&keywords=everymans+battle

This was an awesome book on the subject. Everyone should read it, not just men. My wife was shocked. She had no idea this is what it's like for us.

https://www.amazon.com/Every-Mans-Battle-Winning-Temptation/dp/0307457974

I'd say the book "Every Man's Battle" ( Amazon )and maybe a small gift card to something. I'm reading the book now and its great so far.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hfa3GZOEb38

So you've been in this for a while. I think a majority of us have, at least here. Do you have a Celebrate Recovery near you? Go find one here http://grouplocator.crgroups.info/
I'm in my 30s, and had an experience like yours. Very young, by accident. I know this is going to sound like something you've read before, but Proverbs 24:16 "for though the righteous fall seven times, they rise again, but the wicked stumble when calamity strikes." Keep going. Do you have a filter on your internet access? No? Get one. Covenant Eyes is what I have. It's not perfect, but it does what it needs to when I don't love the Lord like I should.

Two books I recommend: Every Man's Battle
http://www.amazon.com/Every-Mans-Battle-Winning-Temptation/dp/0307457974

The Game Plan
http://www.amazon.com/Game-Plan-Strategy-Attaining-Integrity/dp/0849906334/ref=sr_1_2?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1462081040&sr=1-2&keywords=the+game+plan

Anyway, let us know if any of this helps.

I've heard good things about this book Every Man's Battle, though I haven't read it myself.

As /u/average650 said, you sound very normal for a Christian teenager! I went through (and still do) those same struggles. Aside from prayer and reading scripture, there are specific books out there that can help you.

For pornography, I've heard from this subreddit that Every Man's Battle is very helpful. It takes a Christian approach to the struggle with pornography, something 99% of Christian men can relate to. I've been meaning to check it out for about two years now.

For ADD, Your Life Can Be Better is a great read. I started it but didn't finish it (someone with ADHD not finishing something? You don't say!).

I think these two books could probably help you quite a bit. Lastly, don't forget that not only can you lean on God, but your friends (especially at Church) as well. It sounds like you don't have the most supportive home, which I'm sorry to hear. Also, you said your youth pastor might facepalm if you come to him with these struggles - hopefully that isn't really the case. Just open up your heart to him, and see if he can help. Don't be afraid to be vulnerable with those you love, and those who love you.

Since I haven’t seen this book recommended yet I feel like this would be an excellent resource for you both. I’m working through this myself and I’ll be going over it again with my wife once I finish.

The Way to Love Your Wife: Creating Greater Love and Passion in the Bedroom (Focus on the Family Books) https://www.amazon.com/dp/158997445X/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_wxy6BbA3YHJ1A

If you want to know what it’s like for a guy to struggle with lust pick this one up as well.

Every Man's Battle: Winning the War on Sexual Temptation One Victory at a Time (The Every Man Series) https://www.amazon.com/dp/0307457974/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_9zy6BbJR8SQX5

I would also like to say that you shouldn’t have much to worry about. If your boyfriend is being honest with you about his struggles and if he really wants to get better then he WILL understand when you say you’re not comfortable doing something that he wants to do, wether it’s an idea from porn or not. If you both read the first book together and take notes, discuss personally important chapters, and find a marriage councilor, then you’re setting yourselves up for success.

Ps. I think there’s a companion book for women (for both books) but if I link to to many books someone will start thinking I work for amazon... 😇

Well it looks like this book is NOT Christian based. Here is a link to it if you are interested. It's an 8-week long program I think.
Every Man's Battle

>I wish I was
Why not start learning about it today? You seem sad about that. Let me know if I can answer any questions or help you.

I recommend this book, my local library carries it:

http://www.amazon.com/Every-Mans-Battle-Winning-Temptation/dp/0307457974/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1342534443&sr=8-1&keywords=every+man%27s+battle

I admire your courage to ask a tough question like this.

Here's the deal. It comes down to what is sin. The catholic church may call it a mortal sin but I would argue its not the sin of ejaculation that gets you in trouble.... it's the sin of lust. Jesus says to go as far as cutting your hand off or gouging out your eye. He wasn't serious about this (or there should be a lot more Christians waling around with the 'ol 1-eye, 1-hand physique) but it highlights was a destructive sin lust is.

Something that really helped me put it in perspective was the article called 3 Lies That Kept Me Trapped By Porn
. It talks about how we've all been taught to believe the wrong thing about sexual attraction.

As one person mentioned, there are some people who can masturbate without lusting. This may be you. As weird as it sounds, masturbation can even be worshipful. Ejaculation is by far one of the most intense physical experiences we have on earth.

If you are seriously committed to getting it under control, Paul has a simple answer for you.... get married (1 Corinthians 7:9). It's at least better than maiming yourself.

There are also good books on the topic. Every Man's Battle is a popular one although I haven't read it.

Again, I total respect you for reaching out for support regarding this issue in your life. When things are brought out into the light, we can defeat them.

I presume this book is mentioned in this sub frequently, but I highly recommend "Every Man's Battle" by Steve Arterburn.

I'm a late-30s man and I still frequently go back to this book.

This book really helped me a lot. Also, having someone for accountability is crucial.