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this is the friends-and-family book generally recommended by most of the SMART literature I've come across:
Get Your Loved One Sober: Alternatives to Nagging, Pleading, and Threatening
I can relate to what you are saying. What kills me is the not knowing, so yes I do wish my BF would just spit it out and say it. I'm still figuring out my approach to everything so I can be a bit awkward and withdrawn when I think he has relapsed or is high so I just kind of stop talking to him and never ask. I think he is starting to catch on to my mood changes that he will just say that he isn't using.
We have been together for 3 years and I never knew he was using either for the longest time until my roommate said something, so don't feel bad. If you aren't used to the effects of drugs on people it's difficult to tell. Alcohol is much more obvious.
What has helped me deal with everything are two things. [https://www.amazon.com/Get-Your-Loved-One-Sober/dp/1592850812](Get Your Loved One Sober Book) and SMART forum and online meetings.
PM if you ever need to chat.
Sorry to be so blunt but that stuck out to me. Another option besides nar-anon, which is a good option, is to find a professional who does Community Reinforcement and Family Therapy (CRAFT). There's a book too - I have no financial ties to these people; I just think it's a good approach for people who want something different than the 12-step stuff. Here's the link to the book: http://www.amazon.com/Get-Your-Loved-One-Sober/dp/1592850812/ref=pd_sim_14_2?ie=UTF8&dpID=51x%2BjUuTrVL&dpSrc=sims&preST=_AC_UL160_SR102%2C160_&refRID=15CF19FP801AR1607VPA
My mother is still abusing alcohol. My loved one is trying to control her drinking. One thing is for certain: Until your mother decides she needs to stop, she is going to keep drinking. If you are attempting to see her change, then you must be willing to change aspects of yourself to allow change to occur around you. This includes how you respond, how you react, and how you manage your time and priorities.
Get Your Loved One Sober has plenty of suggestions for how to interact with a person abusing alcohol and to take care of yourself. It is so important to keep taking care of you because it is so easy to get sucked into their world and let it slowly destroy your world. This book goes through aspects of the Community Reinforcement and Family Training (CRAFT) program. A place that you could share what is happening is through the SMART Family and Friends meetings.
The pain is temporary. You are strong and you will get through this. I believe in you! ❤️
Do you and him ever go together to any of these four places?:
If not, is he willing to go there with you?
If he seems reluctant, please see the 20 Minute Guide website for advice. Then, if you wish, buy and read Beyond Addiction and maybe also Get Your Loved One Sober.
SMART Recovery Family & Friends is an alternative to Alanon and Johnson-style intervention.
It's based on CRAFT (Community Reinforcement And Family Training) which was developed by Dr. Bob Meyers.
CRAFT was one of the methods featured on the HBO series 'Addiction'.
There are online meetings available, a discussion board, and face to face meetings have started in some locations.
Most of the material centers around a book "Get Your Loved One Sober", which was co-authored by Bob Meyers, but there are other materials used as well.
The groups put a lot of focus on what you can do for yourself, first... and then how you can reinforce your loved one's good behavior while detaching yourself from their addictive behavior.
I've been a volunteer meeting facilitator for SMART Recovery for over 10 years, and I've heard a lot of positive feedback from the people using Family & Friends.