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Gift of Fear: Survival Signals That Protect Us from Violence
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4 Reddit comments about Gift of Fear: Survival Signals That Protect Us from Violence:

u/La_Fee_Verte · 29 pointsr/LetsNotMeet

being afraid of your reactions and 'making a scene' gets people killed, as they end up being afraid to run away or shout for help.

The biggest lesson that the parents rarely teach is - trust your gut. If something seems wrong, then 99.9% it is. It's amazing that you listened to your instinct that day.

check out this book!

u/Lordica · 6 pointsr/TwoXChromosomes

Get this book. Your library probably has it. Do daily affirmations to replace the ones your abuser programmed into you. Yes, it's Stuart Smalley-ish, but they do work. Do not respond to your abuser in any way. Do not read any messages he sends to you, in fact, consider a restraining order.

u/KlutchAtStraws · 2 pointsr/SelfDefense

You need to get the right mindset first. Read these books:

https://www.amazon.co.uk/Gift-Fear-Survival-Signals-Violence/dp/0747538352

https://www.amazon.co.uk/Left-Bang-Marine-Combat-Program/dp/1936891301/ref=pd_lpo_sbs_14_t_1?_encoding=UTF8&psc=1&refRID=ZN8XMPW7T6FE7KKCX5Q3

https://www.amazon.co.uk/Dead-Alive-Self-Protection-Summersdale-Self-protection/dp/1840242795/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1543165627&sr=1-1&keywords=dead+or+alive+geoff+thompson

Anything written by Rory Miller should be on your list too.

You can probably find PDFs, youtube summaries or reviews covering the main lessons if you don't have the cash for the books.

Also check out this site:

https://www.nononsenseselfdefense.com/

Understanding a predator mindset, understanding how predators select victims, understanding pre-incident indicators and understanding how to make yourself a harder target is 99% of self protection. The 1% is the physical response when you've screwed up the rest.

Most violent criminals aren't trained fighters or martial artists. They just have fewer qualms about doing violence to another person and will stack the odds against you first. That's what makes them a threat.

You need to research how this happens - youtube, liveleak etc have an archive of violent assaults you can view. It never ceases to amaze me how many so-called 'self defence' teachers seem to be basing their curriculum on movies and TV rather than actually finding out how violent assault occurs and preparing for that.

If you filter your physical training through the above you will be on the right path. Styles which include a lot of resistant training (BJJ, Judo, Boxing, Kickboxing etc) are good for that and will help build your confidence but don't mistake sparring, rolling, randori etc for violent assault.

What are the free classes in your area?

u/RBNaccount4 · 2 pointsr/rape

The Gift of Fear is pretty good. Plus, although not a book, loveisrespect.org have an "is my relationship healthy?" quiz which is a handy checklist to see if you've found yourself in an unhealthy relationship.