Reddit reviews Half and Half: Writers on Growing Up Biracial and Bicultural

I know this is not a direct answer to your question, but you may be interested to know about two books: Mixed and Half and Half. So it seems there's a market for something similar. I'm working on a photography project about mixed race identity, and I've been pleasantly surprised at how enthusiastic people are about it - mixed families can be quite different, so I think your topic is one well worth exploring!

> I know there’s a problem here with my anger.

Admitting it is the first big step. There's no greater truth! Now you just have to apply some wisdom and drop your 'old' habits that aren't working for you any more. That's what wisdom is all about.

Read When Anger Hurts starting on chapter 8 for very good advice for dealing with anger. You can skip the first few chapters because they are just a sales pitch. But it has solid techniques for dealing with anger.

Getting Together and Staying Together is a good book for checking ourselves in our relationships. It's an alternative to CBT called choice theory. If you decide to see a therapist (which I completely support) take some notes and bring them with you to help keep you on-point with your discussions.

If you have a hard time remembering how you are approaching your own anger you can keep a thought diary. Write down short, concise notes about your emotions related to anger, from the most subtle to the extreme. But the point is to become aware early on what is bothering you. You want to identify your triggers and manage your response. If you've never used a journal before the bullet journal system is very practical and minimalist. It's a little expensive but if you want to learn to control your emotions it's a worthwhile investment.

Ilm a book person so another reading recommendation I can make is Half and Half, Writers on Growing up Biracial and Bicultural.

> her business has acquired mine

I love this! This is my situation also, but I'm grateful it happened. My business sense is non-existent so I'm glad to have a little capitalism in my life.

Money is ALWAYS a problem. It's not unique to you two. Every single couple deals with it. Sometimes we have to let go of the LOTR hard-cover box set. (I did.) And instead get the leather couch we can both enjoy and both agree it's gorgeous and fits perfectly in our living room. (Maybe LOTR can still come later. Keep hope alive!)

Its ok to have conflicting views. But maybe alter it slightly. We are all unique. She has her lineage and upbringing and you have yours. Instead of trying to be right, try to negotiate an agreeable outcome. Work for the win-win. You can both benefit from the outcome.

Please see this advice I wrote for lowering your overall stress levels. Some of the advice is so practical as to seem silly. But there's a lot of common sense here. I personally had anger problems for years. This advice is from the books I have read and about 10+ years of therapy. So I sincerely hope it helps. A little effort can go a long way. Drop your current techniques that aren't working and just focus on picking up a few new ones.

Hang in there! You can feel better soon if you can apply these techniques diligently.