Reddit reviews Heaven Massage Two Fold Burgundy Portable Massage Table - PU Leather High Quality

I purchase one of these a few years back so I could work on my husband at home. It works great, but is a tad narrow. 100% worth the money and when I bought it, it was $130. https://www.amazon.com/dp/B00IXWE1HK/ref=twister_B00PHK1G5Q?_encoding=UTF8&psc=1

Check EBay for massage tables, I got one for around $120 and it's great! It folds away for easy storage and has really upped my massage game. Massaging each other on the bed is fine but you can't get the real traction needed for real kneading and stroking. When I know my wife has had a long day you have to see her eyes light up when she comes home and sees the bedroom all set up with candles and the table is out and set up. She can't climb on fast enough. Since you both are into it you can take turns treating each other to a good massage and other things as well. Wink Wink Nudge Nudge! My advice is go to different spas and talk about the massage you just had, what you liked and didn't like. Also you can start going to the Spa shows that pop up around the country and see the things they have going on there. Here's a link http://www.iecsc.com/ We go and picked up the towels, oils as well as a ton of other stuff they offer there. These are the vendors where the nail salons and spas get their stuff from. We picked up a hot towel steamer for $100 bucks and had to buy the special towels that go with it online but it was so worth it. On a cold morning I go to the bathroom first press a button and in less that ten minutes we have hot towels and they are so refreshing on a cold winters morning. Wow I wrote alot but if you have any questions just reply. Good luck. I just checked and wow they got cheaper https://www.amazon.com/Heaven-Massage-Burgundy-Portable-Table/dp/B00IXWE1HK/ref=sr_1_5_s_it?s=beauty&ie=UTF8&qid=1504572073&sr=1-5&keywords=massage%2Btables&th=1

Babysitters. Relatives. A "Mom's Night Out" evening childcare program at a neighborhood church/temple/synagogue. Or send them to daycare and then play hooky from work.

Or find a single mom or another couple with kids around the same age and exchange sitting/playdates. Maybe you take their kids on Friday night and they take yours on Saturday morning.

But you NEED to make 3-4 hours entirely for each other, without the kids. Weekly if you can, but at least 1-2 times a month. This is particularly true if you had two or more kids less than four years apart. Otherwise you risk losing the close bond that helps you get through the parenting trials, which results in getting even more stressed out and being forced to try to resurrect your marriage when the kids are much older.

I have seen so many young parents try to power through the infant and toddler years without attending to their connection with each other, and far too many of them regret it.

Another good way to handle it: Get a good, inexpensive massage table and some coconut oil, and learn to give each other long sensual massages. It does most of the same things in terms of the chemistry of the pair bond, and a massage is far easier and less frustrating to interrupt if a kid needs attention.

At the end, assuming all is peaceful, head for bed. It's not a quickie if you just spent an hour making her feel loved and appreciated, and getting her relaxed and turned on. (Or vice versa. Giving a sexy massage is almost as much of a turn on as getting one.)

Keep in mind that when we talk about longer, more leisurely sex, we're not talking about extending the PiV part of sex. We're mostly talking about the extent of the buildup and foreplay that gets people aroused and in the mood. And a lot of that can be stuff like kissing, cuddling, and giving massages that doesn't have to be kid-proofed.

The problem that most women (and a surprising number of men) have in LTRs comes from compressing or eliminating the preliminaries and starting penetration before both people are completely aroused and ready.