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> I think the "real" preoccupied ex out-preoccupied me [...] I'd forgo my need for space to comfort him.
From attachment perspective, this is precisely the thing that would send an avoidant running. Like, do not pass go. Do not collect whatever. The act of actually physically comforting another, with demonstrable "care", wouldn't be possible because the entire attachment system would be offline.
If you have a good library/ever run out of books to read, there's a great chapter on this in:
How People Change: Relationships and Neuroplasticity in Psychotherapy