Reddit reviews How to Be Single and Happy: Science-Based Strategies for Keeping Your Sanity While Looking for a Soul Mate
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Yes, in some ways. Yet, in the long run, it hurts you much more than the person. You will suffer from anger and depression etc. When we continually manifest negative energy with negative thoughts, we walk around with negative vibe. People won't want to get close to us. That will also prevent you from meeting a partner who is kind and caring. So.... Letting go of the person who was not there for you. Forgive the person and yourself. Understand that not every relationship works. Not everyone we meet will stay.
During tough times, self compassion helps me a lot. self-compassion.org
I also really like this book. How to Be Single and Happy: Science-Based Strategies for Keeping Your Sanity While Looking for a Soul Mate
https://www.amazon.com/dp/0143130994/ref=cm_sw_em_r_mt_dp_U_XHUHDb4EW1NHZ
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I wish you the best :)
I'm sorry.
Chalk it up to a learning experience and move on.
I went back and read the other posts you wrote on this guy and it's not like I'm the big expert or anything but from the first date it just sounded like he just wasn't that into you (paraphrasing Greg Behrendt, btw I have recommended his book so many times it's like a broken record now...)
Notwithstanding all the guys here who are stating how much they would LOVE it if the girl made the first move and was proactive and aggressive... I'm here in my mid 50s to tell you that they might LOVE it if the girl made the first move and so on, there are outliers for sure, but bottom line is that males are hard wired to be the pursuers when it comes to women. They don't want the low hanging fruit - they want the shiny apple at the top of the tree.
I cringed as I read your posts because I've made the same mistakes too.
Buying him gifts when we aren't exclusive. Yup.
Proactively texting or reaching out - BTDT
Agonizing and ruminating about some breadcrumb guy for weeks.
Stalking him on his SM and obsessively checking to see if he's logged in to whatever dating app he's on. (Of course it goes without saying that he never did send me a friend request and at least I was smart enough not to send HIM one.)
If I hadn't been kissed by Date 2, I would move on.
Clearly he was fine spending time with you, but you weren't his oyster. But he didn't have the balls to tell you. Rejecting someone is even more difficult than being rejected. IMO that's why so many people ghost. I used to ghost too, but I realized that it's far kinder to tell the guy, often face to face, thanking him for meeting me but I'm just not feeling a romantic connection.
While you're on your dating sabbatical, you might want to do a bit of reading. I love recommending books that I've found personally helpful!
https://www.amazon.com/How-Single-Happy-Science-Based-Strategies/dp/0143130994
Good luck to you!