Reddit reviews How to Heal a Broken Heart in 30 Days: A Day-by-Day Guide to Saying Good-bye and Getting On With Your Life

:( I'm sorry! That's terrible! I don't think you're over-reacting at all. Really.

I'm just gonna go ahead and chime in here in the hopes that my boyfriend will check out my reddit comments when he wakes up in his hometown tomorrow: If I caught him doing that (and no matter how I discovered it, mind you) we would be over before he even knew what hit him. (also, I installed keylogger over thanksgiving and private browsing mode doesn't cover up shit...) ;) (kidding)

I wish I knew what to say to make you feel better, but I'm at a loss... "Dump him and find someone who treats you the way you deserve to be treated" sounds so insensitive (to your feelings, fuck him, seriously), but it's the only thing I have to offer. I feel sick to my stomach for you, especially knowing a few other details about your long-term relationship with this guy... :(

Is he a little on the slow side? Because that is THE ONLY WAY I can imagine that he would think this would be ok with you... If not? He simply doesn't care about your feelings as much as his own satisfaction, and the guys in this thread are right; you sound like WAY too much of a catch, and are WAY too young to have to put up with this for one second longer...

If you guys break up over this, PM me your address and I'll send you my copy of How To Heal A Broken Heart In 30 Days that was just returned to me a few weeks ago by a very grateful friend that I was really worried was going to hurt themselves after their breakup...

I just got broken up with by my gf of 5+ years last weekend, so I have even less experience than your 30 days, but I have just a few pieces of advice. 1. This book has so far been a wonderful tool. It is a no-nonsense, unisex guide to healing. It has helped me turn all my feelings into motivations and useful thoughts. If you're like me, you're incredibly lost right now, and this book is the literary equivalent of a big sister (or someone similar) grabbing you by the wrist, smacking you in the face, forcing you to take steps to get better, and letting you see the forest for the trees. 2. If you don't want to go the book route, I'll give you the cliff notes version, and that is this: Feel your feelings, they're normal and they're ok, and you basically can't control them. Learn to love yourself, take the love you had for your ex, and turn that love upon yourself. Use that feeling and make yourself an even better person. You are currently in a state of personal development, it is just disguised by grieving. 3. Remember that "this, too, shall pass".

also, this book is highly recommended.

I'm 2.5 years past the worst break-up I've ever experienced. Worse than my divorce... I was dumped; no warning signs, no changes in mood, nothing to tell me it was coming. Valentine's weekend- he stayed for 2 nights, we had great sex, went to breakfast, good conversation... then The Talk. I stayed in bed for about 2 weeks. Showers were few, crying was always, it was the worst pain. 4 weeks in, I realized I need someone to literally tell me how to get out from under the cloud. I bought a book to help me. I hate reading, but it promised to be helpful and I needed HELP. With that... I offer this link to you, with best wishes and the promise of better days ahead. There's a rule of thumb, 1 week of sadness for every month together. Unfortunately, that's not usually the case for the one who did the breaking up. ----> https://www.amazon.com/Heal-Broken-Heart-Days-Day-/dp/0767909089/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1474522908&sr=8-1&keywords=how+to+heal+a+broken+heart+in+30+days

Yeah, darkness is stifling and tends to fester. Also, as a mild suggestion, the following book has been a great help to a few of my buddies post breakup, both from wifes and girlfriends. It's written by two guys, which is a huge advantage as most books are a female perspective and usually for females. My two buddies that read it, along with some short stints of counseling came through the breakups much better guys in the end. Either way, still good on ya for 3 years and reaching out for help! http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0767909089/ref=oh_details_o09_s00_i00?ie=UTF8&psc=1

It may be hokey but I have felt much better since I started reading this book. I like that it's just a day by day read, and it has helped me find value in myself independent of my STBXW. Good luck to you, I know this sucks. Congrats on POST, celebrate that and look forward to your new career. https://www.amazon.com/Heal-Broken-Heart-Days-Day/dp/0767909089

Very sorry to hear about your breakup :(

Breakups can really suck, especially if you didn't want it to happen or you tried hard to save it.

I have some personal experience recovering from a nasty breakup (we had been married for 7 years). I found the book How to Heal a Broken Heart in 30 Days by Howard Bronson to be really helpful for me. Pretty much the first line in the book is "it's going to take longer than 30 days". But I found the process of letting go that it walks you through to be very therapeutic.

The pain will eventually end, and you'll be happy again. There will be another person for you with whom your love will be so much stronger and more meaningful that this past relationship will completely pale in comparison.

Read this https://www.amazon.com/Survive-Loss-Love-Peter-McWilliams/dp/0931580439/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1330641753&sr=1-1 or this https://www.amazon.com/Heal-Broken-Heart-Days-Day-/dp/0767909089/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1330641711&sr=1-1