Reddit reviews How To Raise An Adult

My wife and I also suffer from a bit of helicopter parenting, so I've been through this myself. Let's be honest here - they probably identified her as a helicopter parent from day one, and her questions are probably annoying or even offensive to them because they reveal her inherent distrust and skepticism of their abilities or professionalism. But because it's their job, they try to soldier through it. The jump to kindergarten, which I am just making myself, is tough because the teachers are focused on educational targets, not satiating overzealous parents.

Your wife sounds well meaning, but we all need to learn to not over-parent. We are going to create a generation of neurotic young adults who need constant hand-holding and assistance. It's really unhealthy.

I would recommend you buy your wife the book How to Raise an Adult. It's written by the Stanford Dean of Admissions, and is required reading for every helicopter parent out there.

1. Watch Dr. Barkley's videos for parents of children with ADHD. They can give you great insight on how you need to adjust what you are doing to promote her success.
   
   
2. Read the book "How to Raise an Adult". While it isn't specific to ADHD, it's an absolutely incredible book on setting boundaries, structuring environments and moving children toward mature thinking and independent task completion.
   
   
3. Read about positive behavioral support systems and functional communication training. This website has a lot of good information, but a quick google search will provide you with wonderful information.
   
   
4. Don't be afraid to reach out for help. Not sure where you live, but most cities have at least one person who is an expert on positive behavioral support or a parenting coach.

Good job with Bright Futures and National Merit - those two with a couple of other small scholarships and some part-time work at best buy let me pay for my Bachelors degree without taking student loans.

$12,000 a year for housing seems kind of high. Are you living on campus? If not, you may want to shop around a bit for different housing options.


Maybe buy a copy of "How to Raise an Adult" and leave it on your parent's night stand or coffee table if they're the kind that are capable of taking hints.

Good parenting. Allowing children to make mistakes and suffer the consequences is part of their growth. Just follow up with a discussion, where you ask questions about what choices she made and what she needs to change. Also, may want to suggest she discuss her mistake with the teacher.

Book on point called How to Raise an Adult.