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Read How to Win Friends and Influence People. Really, pick it up. It's a book I make sure to read cover-to-cover every 6 months.
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How to Win Friends and Influence People
The Magic of Believing
This book is about $20 on kindle:
The same book is about $8 in paper format:
Simon and schuster are a despicable publisher who conspired with apple to price fix and raise ebook prices. They can suck on a bag.
Complicated answer that depends on context.
I would go read "How to win friends and influence people"
But heres also a quick step by step guide
> I am so guilty of trying to plan ahead what I'm going to say!
That was a big piece for me. I was so focused on coming up with a response that would make someone like me that I wasn't truly listening and then reacting honestly to what they were saying.
A good book that helps with understanding classic back-and-forth of conversation is the classic "How to Win Friends and Influence People" by Dale Carnegie (link goes to Kindle edition). Some of the examples are a little dated (he refers to people who were celebrities at the time he wrote his book in the 1930s), but the advice is rock-solid useful.
And while I haven't done this, a friend of mine with social anxiety joined her local Toastmasters chapter a few years back so she could to learn to cope with public speaking. She swears it changed her life. Certainly all of her friends noticed the change--more confidence and easy-going with strangers. You might consider it.
Yessir, that's a good way of putting it.
>May I ask how you worked on your social skills and networking?
Absolutely! First I read a bunch of books and articles, which I'll list for you below. Second I got a job that requires a lot of social interaction. And third I made a very dedicated effort to do more social things.
(Wow, I didn't realize how large this list was going to be. So I'm going to very highly recommend the first three books and just say that everything else is going to be beneficial, but not really necessary. You don't have to go nearly as deep as I did to get good results.)
How to Win Friends and Influence People
How to Talk to Anyone
What EveryBODY is Saying
Never Eat Alone
The Gentle Art of Verbal Self Defense
Argumentation and Debate
What to Say When You're Dying on the Platform
The Quick and Easy Way to Effective Speaking
The Art of Framing
This documentary on body language
This video on body language
A lot of Craig Ferguson interviews (especially the lady ones)
Maybe over the summer, hit some books over leadership. Band really is a great place to learn and apply leadership skills.
Some books I recommend:
Extreme Ownership by Jocko Willink
How To Win Friends And Influence People by Dale Carnegie
I can't recommend Extreme Ownership enough, though. If you take extreme ownership of your section they'll respect you a million times more than they already do. When they respect you that much more, they're that much more likely to not put you in bad positions anymore.
I've gotta add that it'd be good to listen to some podcasts and videos by leaders, too. Since I'm already talking about Jocko Willink, he has a TED talk, too. Here's a link.
Practice, practice, practice. It's going to be so much easier to do now than it will later.
If you want to read, this book and this book are useful. Forget the stupid titles. They're handbooks of social skills written for people like us.
This book is also helpful, it's based on the MBTI, and although it's business-related you can apply it to any social interaction.
Try Dale Carnegie's How to Win Friends and Influence People.
You should be more specific about what you're hoping to learn. There are thousands of resources out there in regards to entrepreneurship, marketing, website development & eCommerce. You could find pretty much anything you want if you phrase it correctly.
talk to people. Listen to them. Hear why they think the way they do -- hear what they want. Then persuade them that what you want is what they want also.
I'm currently about 10% of the way through https://www.amazon.com/How-Heard-Powerful-Speaking-Listening/dp/1633536718 and it has exercises you can do to get better at being heard (it requires lots of listening)
Another great source of useful techniques is https://www.amazon.com/How-Win-Friends-Influence-People-ebook/dp/B003WEAI4E/ref=tmm_kin_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&amp;qid=&amp;sr=
The big thing to remember is there are no short fixes, and nothing is easy (edit:nothing that's worth while atleast). It's easy to get angry and frustrated -- it's more effective to listen, be thoughtful, and win friends
The very old/boring recommendation---but many people still swear by it: https://www.amazon.com/How-Win-Friends-Influence-People-ebook/dp/B003WEAI4E/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1543055550&sr=8-1&keywords=carnegie Can probably get it for FREE/ $0.00 at your local library. Good luck friend!!!
Just be cool. Whoever this girl--or anyone you ever know--wants to introduce to you, just say hi and talk to them. A great book for you to read maybe is How to Win Friends and Influence People. Contains very basic info/suggestions about how to treat people like they matter. It's no great mystery. Just takes practice. And comfort with yourself.
As an ESTP, man, you gotta practice that E. Kinda funny you'd be asking introverts about how to be an extrovert. :)
I've never read it but I've heard good things about this [book](
Take a day or two an read, "How to Win Friends and Influence People" by Dale Carnegie
Read these books:
No More Mr. Nice Guy
How to Win Friends and Influence People
While you do that, just make small talk to people. Not necessarily to people you're attracted to. You can keep it short, "nice bike", "nice dress", "do you have the time?", "do you know the way to x?", "know any good coffeeshop around here?"
Look people in the eye, don't break eye contact first, genuine smile.
You'll see that people are generally good. There'll always be assholes, you don't need them.
This actually works, don't tell the libs
Pretty much the standard when it comes to social interaction is How to Win Friends and Influence People
You are a Bad ass is another self help book that you maaay be interested in
JBP can be a bit divisive to people but I think this book is worth a look too.
Two great books on this very topic, but the short answer is you have the best chance to change someone's mind when they see you as someone "on their side" or in their group/tribe. If they perceive you as someone from the "opposition" then they will get defensive and no amount of convincing, facts, or persuasion is likely to have an impact on their point of view.
The Righteous Mind by Jonathan Haidt
How to Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie
This is a classic: https://www.amazon.com/How-Win-Friends-Influence-People-ebook/dp/B003WEAI4E
Not perfect, but it's a good start.
I like u/BobbyMckee's answer. I would also add that rather than address any perceived aggression directly, why not just strike up a conversation and get to know these two guys a bit?
This would also help you hone your social skills - if they are not a threat, you will have gained some insight into yourself and your perceptions. If they are a threat, then you will know, and you will be able to trust your gut more. It seems to me that you may be rushing to judgment over what you perceive to be a threat. Of course, you could also be correct.
Have you read How to Win Friends and Influence People? You can read a short summary here to give you an idea of what it's about, but you should read the whole book (with Christian discernment, of course). I think it will help you.
Yup! They are super simple and useful. If you are interested in that book, I would definitely check out this book.
So far, it is my favorite book on social etiquette!
Well, it just so happens that I have a list prepared to tweet out—figured I'd share here as well :)
How to Win Friends & influence People
Never Eat Alone
The E-Myth Revisited
Jab, Jab, Jab, Right Hook
A Whole New Mind
The Neatest Little Guide to Stock Market Investing
The millionaire Next Door
Why We Want you to be Rich
The 4 Hour Work Week
Thou Shalt Prosper
How to Get Ideas
Learn to talk, and how to see their perspective (this is a must read for everyone who is in any way a professional):
Recently I started also reading some books from McKinsey. Super great stuff. What I love about them is they really emphasise how to structure your thoughts, separate yourself from ideas, and to do what's best for the project.
Finally, some of your trouble might be that they're questioning your "strategy". They might be right!
EDIT: one more actually, and this is NOT a must read, but for some of us... it can be. Some of us need to learn how to get over ourselves:
Dating is a skill, just like any other.
The Dummies books are actually very, very good. Dating for Dummies http://amzn.com/B004HD69O2
A classic: http://amzn.com/B003WEAI4E
There is also a Relationships for Dummies, but I would start with dating.
I was looking into a book about social skills years ago and ended up getting "How To Win Friends and Influence People" by Dale Carnegie, because it seemed to be more "good-natured" and less manipulative compared to some other books (not sure if it's entirely true, just seemed that way when I was looking it up).
I'm not sure if that is what you are looking for though, it sounds like you want a book that "forcefully whips yourself into shape socially"!
In any case I never finished that book anyways because I got to a chapter where it said something like "you should care about the person you are talking to", and I realized that I in most cases don't really do even that, and got kind of discouraged. Strange thing is that I tried quickly looking through the book now, and I can't even find or remember what passage it was that I read. Should probably try reading the book again...
Edit: The link in the sidebar, "Improve Your Social Skills", looks interesting too.
This book has some interesting principles that I used unconsciously. It taught me to be more aware of what I was doing in certain situations. I've never had problems manipulating people(that sounds bad, doesn't it? I promise I only use my powers for good!), but this book improved my ability to recognize when I am actively applying a principle detailed within. So yea, you could say It changed my life.
I've been pretty eager to read this book, it's been on my WL for a while now :)
Not a video but the book Persuasion, The Psychology of Persuasion is a great read to understand how these non-verbal cues persuade people to act.
There's also the classic How To Win Friends and Influence People which discusses human nature and how to get on people's "good side."
Step 1) Buy this book. Dale Carnegie's "How to win Friends and Influence People" http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B003WEAI4E/ref=dp-kindle-redirect?ie=UTF8&amp;btkr=1
Step 2) Read this book
Step 3) put this book into practice
Step 4) Repeat steps 2-4 as often as needed
When I read the book and took the class there are a couple things i took from it.
Be warned, this will be very long, however i wanted to share my experiences up to this point and some ideas on what you could do. I hope this does help you, and anyone else whom is reading.
Definitely join clubs. you may want to look into Student Government since it's a great way to meat people and get involved with your school. Also, if you have a Student Center, hang out there often. If you're commuting, make sure you get to school probably an hour or two early. Also, perhaps a Cafe would be a good idea as well. One issue that I have is that there isn't a whole lot of recreational clubs in College, or Community college for that matter. Find something that can pertain to your field. Aside from College, when i'm usually at Comic Con's, I will see advertisements for a few groups that meet up occasionally. You may also want to try the whole Speed dating thing I mentioned earlier that is usually held at Comic Con... just be warned there will be a few interesting characters however.
You may also want to check in with any Mom and pop cafe's if you have any near you. They may host events. There's one down the street from where I live that does a Chess night which i'm interested in. You're also going to need to set goals. My goal for now is to try to get a girlfriend before my 20th Birthday, and that's only 6 months away, but it will hopefully motivate myself to work very very hard. People say that the moment you "stop caring" or "stop trying" is the moment you find a girlfriend. Even though I have no experience with women beyond asking them out and being rejected unfortunately, you do have to try. What's helped me is to think of dating as if you would look for a job. You can't put all your eggs in one basket. You can't focus on only one employer to hire you, as much as you can't focus on only one girl to go out with you. Dating is very much so a numbers game. Luck does seem to play a part.
I've gone from shaking like crazy at the thought of talking to a girl, I always rationalized myself out of approaching women. I trained myself to be a bit more "brave" I guess you could call it. At first i just started complimenting girls weather it be customers at my job, peers, anyone, and at first i was extremely nervous with that whole idea. I even tried rationalizing not to even tell a girl that I like her eyes, or her hair, or her clothes, but eventually I got myself to a point where I don't feel excruciatingly nervous when talking to a girl. I still feel awkward at times when I give out a compliment, but I usually leave with some feelings of satisfaction. Another thing I really started doing is cold approaching. Now instead of just complimenting someone, I tried to strike up a conversation.
Now it didn't go too bad, but it didn't end great but I feel as though it did prepare me for other things in some level. Over the last year and a half, or even perhaps the last 4 years, I've asked out over 30 girls. None of which were interested in me, many of which rejected me on the spot, others which led me on and used me quite a lot. One thing you should be aware of is that, you're not going to leave this unscathed. You're going to have some baggage accumulated over the years, and you're going to be fighting a lot to not feel burnt out, to not become bitter, to not become resentful. It's going to be hard work trying to stay positive, especially when it's a lot easier to give the world the middle finger and sit in front of your computer, but I hope for your sake, and mine that we'll get out of this hell of which we call Forever alone and I fucking hope this will be all worth it.
EDIT: You may also want to look at these resources as they have helped me to a degree:
No More MR Nice guy
How to win friends and influence people
Stephan Erdman; Dating Coach
A lot of people talk about Dale Carnegie's "How to win friends and influence people". I still need to give it a try.
Edit: amazon link
Just to give some more context, let me list out what I've tried so far:
Or essentially these ideas.
Be a nice person
People always want to talk about themselves - ask them leading questions and let them talk.
Hey man, I did a video for you, i hope you can take a minute to watch it!
Here's the book I talked about in the video.
Maybe this will help
Read this book. There's a reason it's been a bestseller since the 1930s. So much solid advice on how to be likeable and persuasive.
Dear Mr. Trump,
[Here you go.] (https://smile.amazon.com/dp/B003WEAI4E)
Those of us who remember being a great country.
There are a few books that may help, How To Win Friends and Influence People, How to Talk to Anyone, People Styles at Work
Other than that, you might try some relaxing apps or apps that deal with social anxiety.
Yup. Read How to Win Friends and Influence People if you haven't already, changed my perspective on people, and I can actually say I have an easier time talking to girls after reading it.
Even better: Go to the Whispersync-enabled Kindle version on Amazon ($11.99), and under the "Buy Now" button, check the box "Add Audible narration for $12.99" so you get both for $24.98 as a non-subscriber.
It's so astoundingly stupid, if you're a monthly subscriber there's no way to add the e-book when you buy the audio with a credit. And if you do buy the e-book and try to add the audio as above, it pays for the audio part ($12.99 above, but often as low as $2-3 for other books) with your $14.95 credit (edit: unless you check a box to not use the credit). Mind-boggling.
Cheap, simple, and will help you for years to come.
How To Win Friends and Influence People
If human connection is what you want more than anything, what is stopping you? Perhaps psychedelics can help you find some answers to that.
A different take on it but a great book! [Link] (http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B003WEAI4E/ref=as_li_qf_sp_asin_il_tl?ie=UTF8&amp;camp=1789&amp;creative=9325&amp;creativeASIN=B003WEAI4E&amp;linkCode=as2&amp;tag=themodmarar00-20&amp;linkId=MB4K4GCLQ5SXFNFB) for the lazy.
Actually, /u/blee3k didn't call Gilbert an idiot, I did, and it was a mostly tongue-in-cheek reference to his horrible television commentating, not his book (which I have not personally read)
However, since you are so quick to take offense and resort to childish name calling, might I suggest another book for you?
I have no specific idea, but am very interested in the answer. The best I can suggest is to read books like How to Win Friends and Influence People and Difficult Conversations. But I don't really know how to specifically change people's minds on that.
Iknow you are trying to be funny but It's a typo not a misspelling. I should recommend a book on social skills. You are certainly not funny. And for the joke to hit it should be true shouldn't it?