Reddit reviews Introvert Power: Why Your Inner Life Is Your Hidden Strength

Quiet by Susan Cain

Party of One by Anneli S. Rufus

But the book that really hit it home for me was Introvert Power by Laurie A. Helgoe

"how other societies (particularly in Japan and Scandinavia) are more compatible with and accepting of introversion."

That quote is from the product description rather than the book which i originally got the idea from. I would find the exact phrasing from the book but the idea is what matters. If you deem this to be flaky evidence then i have no other sources.

Something from earlier this week and a book I think is suggested reading in this subreddit

Almost everything here is great advice, so much so that I'm probably going to send my wife a copy of this thread so she can finally 'get it.' Just my two cents on the topic as well:

As you can probably guess, I'm introverted, my wife of eleven years is an extrovert. She's a talker. Loves to talk to people, anyone. At length. She wouldn't know concise if it landed on her head and crapped in her hair. (She's also very (ugh) touchy-feely. Still love her, though.)

She's had many of the same complaints that you're expressing in your post: Physical contact (like holding hands, little touches out in public, PDA's, etc) and communication (or the lack thereof, in her opinion). I tell her the same thing, everytime:

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I'm just not geared the same way you are.

It's not that I don't like social situations, it's just that they are mentally and physically draining for me. Small talk sucks. Especially if I don't know anyone there, those are the worst. Having a few 'go-to' friends around helps. Making sure there is someplace I can retreat off to, even if it's just a chair in the corner, to recover a bit, helps. Understanding if I tell you I need a break for 5-10 minutes to recharge the batteries, and noticing if I do need to take a break (body language and if I'm getting cranky), helps. Please don't get mad at me when I do these things, it's just what I need.

Conversation-wise, I'm not a big talker, unless I'm with close friends or family. Even then, I tend to only say what I think is needed. I'm not big on small talk; I'm fine with silence, I don't need to fill every space in a conversation with, IMHO, unnecessary noise. That being said, please don't take my silence for being cold, or distant, or me ignoring you. I choose my words carefully, and unfortunately that takes a few moments in my head. If you're asking a question, please give me time to contemplate my answer. It's important, because I value your understanding.

I absolutely need me time, with no one else around a lot so I can enjoy some of the things I love doing and clear the clutter and the noise and all the flotsam and jetsam of sound and light that accumulates in my head; it brings me clarity and peace, and allows me to feel so much better. Please don't be offended if I ask for time alone, or if I shoo you away when I'm in the middle of one of my solitary tasks; instead, support me with understanding. I need time to myself just as much as you need time out being social. Support me and who I am, and you will discover yourself receiving more than you give in return.

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I think the biggest thing is understanding. He's probably got similar complaints about the strange 'crazy extroverted woman' that he's going out with, and trying to figure you out as well.

This last year, I read a couple of good books that helped me understand my own introversion better:

The Introvert Advantage: How to Thrive in an Extrovert World, and
Introvert Power: Why Your Inner Life Is Your Hidden Strength. I found them at my local library, just linked them to Amazon for pictures. They definitely gave me a deeper understanding of why I am how I am, and much better knowing that there were a lot of people just like me. If you can find one or the other, give it a skim, or even sit down and read it through with him. Might just help.

[Edit: Just found my copy of The Introvert Advantage here. I'm done with it, and would be happy to throw it in the mail to you. Just have to promise to pass it on to anyone else here in /r/introvert when you're done.]

Introvert fist-bump. (plus /r/introvert). Mie mi-a placut mult Introvert Power, o sa incerc si Confessions. Ce carti de design ai citit pe kindle? Ca formatul e cam limitat...

You should also check out Introvert Power.

Despite its terrible name, it really actually did an awesome job making me realize that introversion was a positive thing, not a negative thing. And it helps give ideas on how to handle social situations and structure your life in a way that caters to your introverted side... I feel like I'm much better at making sure I get my necessary alone time now.

Introverts in the Church

The Introvert Advantage

The Introverts Way - Living a quiet life...

Introvert Power - Why Your Inner Life is Hidden Strength

Networking for People who hate Networking

There you go. Just a few. Read all of these on Kindle.

25 Best-Paying jobs for Introverts

Fuck yeah Astronomer. I might start taking a hobby more seriously.

The book Introvert Power by Laurie Helgoe is also an interesting read for us introverts. It's very insightful, it made me feel better about needing time alone. There's a chapter on good jobs for introverts. I really recommend it :)