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u/WaffleFoxes · 267 pointsr/tifu

Adding in, a great book for young children is It's not the stork. It talks about everything from anatomy to where babies come from in an age appropriate manner. It also has sections on ok and not OK touch, how to say no, and what to do if something happens.

One passage in particular hit me hard, saying essentially "if you tell and adult in your life and they don't believe or help you, keep telling other adults such as a teacher, doctor, or police. Most adults want to help.". It broke my heart to think of kids who report and aren't believed :-(

u/rebelkitty · 34 pointsr/Parenting
  1. I drew penises and vaginas on ALL of my pictures at the same age. I don't know if what she's drawing is actually a penis... She may actually be attempting to draw a vagina (or a "butt"). Just because it looks like it's sticking down from the body doesn't mean anything - children are awful at drawing perspective. They tend to draw symbolically.

  2. Looking at the picture you shared: I do not see anything to be concerned about. What I see is an intelligent child who is interested in ALL the parts of the body - nipples, belly buttons, and hey - she's got the correct number of fingers on almost every hand! How awesome is that?

  3. Your childminder needs to chill. If she makes a big deal about it, your daughter will become MORE curious, and you're going to have her drawing "penises" on everything in sight. Nothing engages kids more than a strong reaction.

  4. It's high time you actually taught your daughter something about the human body - male and female. She's interested in anatomy, and she's young enough that conversations about this haven't become terribly awkward yet. Seize the moment and teach her! Ignorance won't protect her, and good solid information will help satisfy her curiosity and make it a lot less likely she'll innocently do something awkward and embarrassing (like ask a little boy to drop his pants, so she can see the differences).

    Your local library is full of wonderful books you can share with your daughter. One of the best is:

    It's Not the Stork: A Book About Girls, Boys, Babies, Bodies, Families and Friends

    As for your other concerns:

    It's normal for a child her age to want to sleep with their parent. Allow it, or don't allow it, as you choose. It's not symptomatic of anything, other than the fact that human beings need to be trained to feel comfortable sleeping alone. You're not hurting her, no matter where you decide to have her sleep.

    And her mirror writing is also very, very common in ambidextrous and left-handed children. Just keep (gently) encouraging her to use her right hand, and eventually she'll stop. It's a cool party trick, nothing more. My son is a lefty, and used to do the same thing.

u/marilyn_morose · 25 pointsr/funny

WTF are you on about? Any age is appropriate for teaching children how the human body works. Any time kids have questions they should be answered truthfully and in an age appropriate manner.

Here’s a link:

u/BathtubJim · 19 pointsr/Parenting

Hilarious! Incidentally, my 5yo loves this book:
It's Not the Stork!: A Book About Girls, Boys, Babies, Bodies, Families and Friends (The Family Library)

u/MableXeno · 17 pointsr/Parenting

There are age appropriate ways for kids to learn this stuff. The first thing I always do when I'm caught off guard is to ask, "How do you think you were made?" I just turn it around to see where they are at...and why they might be asking. (Obviously this is a comedy thing played for the laugh, but you wouldn't believe how similar some other stories of 'my kid asked' are to this exact thing.)

A book like this: It's Not the Stork! would also help with future explanations.

u/40below · 12 pointsr/Mommit

Don't ever lie. If he's mature enough to ask the question, he's mature enough for some sort of honest answer. What bad would possibly happen if you said, "Dad's piece, the sperm, got into my body through a special kind of very close hug during which his penis went into my vagina"? A version of that is the statement made in this very excellent book, which also gives honest and non-judging discussions of anatomy in general.

(Also, I understand why you said your egg was empty, but it wasn't! You're not a garden plot in which your husband's child grows. You contributed 50% of the genetic material!)

u/Colorado_Jackaroe · 11 pointsr/Parenting

We have tried to talk about private parts just as they are, another body part. We also started reading this to our daughter when she was 3 1/2:

Very factual but in a kid-friendly format. As others said, we just talk about these things casually whenever they come up rather then having a "big talk".

As an aside, my daughter, now 4 1/2, understands way more about reproduction than I did at 12, but sometimes misses some key details. I have very curly hair and she has curly hair. A Safeway cashier once asked her "where did you get such beautiful hair/" Of course, she replied quite factually "from my daddy's penis."

u/Lorosaurus · 7 pointsr/Parenting

This three book series is really great when she’s ready. The first book is for ages 4 & up, but my 8 year old still found it really interesting. It’s very well written and she could read it on her own. They have it in most libraries. The second book is a little more advanced for 7 & up, then the last one is focused on puberty and is for 10 & up.

As the only female in your house, please watch how you and the other boys talk about women in front of her. Regular boy talk can really hurt her self esteem. Make sure the talk is respectful when she’s around so she doesn’t doubt her worth.

u/wanderer333 · 7 pointsr/Parenting

I was just about to recommend those! Who Has What?: All About Girls' Bodies and Boys' Bodies and The Bare Naked Book are good introductions to body parts, and It's Not the Stork discusses where babies come from as well.

u/Grim-Sleeper · 7 pointsr/legaladvice

If you posted this exact same question on /r/Parenting you would be told that your ex-wife is doing an amazing job.

Sex-ed isn't something that you do with a single awkward conversation that you have with your kids when they are teenagers. It is an ongoing process that starts when they are really young. If you want them to ultimately have a healthy attitude towards their own sexual identity and towards how to appropriately interact with others, you need to start the conversation early. What your ex-wife is doing is exactly how you would do so. Don't make it a taboo, and explain things in kid-appropriate terms when questions arise.

I can't speak for any particular CPS agent as ultimately they have to make their own assessment. But I'd honestly be surprised if CPS at all cared about this situation.

It might be just a little early at this stage, but I'd suggest you invest in a couple of books that can help with having a conversation once your child asks you. My 5 year old is particularly excited about "It's not the Stork". I bought at when he was four and just kept it around until he showed interest.

u/Eternally_Blue · 6 pointsr/Parenting

When my son began asking questions about sex (around age 4) I read It's Not the Stork to him. We took our time and went through it over the course of about a week. I answered any questions he had as honestly as possible. I didn't volunteer anymore information than what was covered in the book. I found that that was enough for his curiosity, which is totally normal for children to be curious about BTW.

When he was a few years older I started reading the next book in the series with him, It's So Amazing. That book goes into more detail about the science of conceiving and I found it to be a little too mature for him, so we re-read It's Not the Stork as a refresher and I'll wait a year or so to try again with the second one.

Sex is confusing and it's only natural for children to have questions. They need to be told the correct names for their body parts and be aware that sex is only for adults. This will help in protecting them against sexual abuse.

I'm also surprised that you're only now realizing little boys get erections. Of course he enjoys playing with an it, it feels funny in a good way! He needs to know that is completely normal but only to be done in private.

Good luck to you!

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u/DonutPlains · 6 pointsr/BabyBumps
u/ally-saurus · 6 pointsr/Parenting

6 is a pretty common age for having questions about these things! Don't worry.

My stepson started asking me questions when he was late 6 and early 7. He went with a more direct route - he just asked how babies get in the mommy's tummy - and I was very casual and upfront about it. My parents were very open with me and they basically answered any question we had, from "how does the sperm get to the egg" when we were little to "what's a blowjob" and "what's an orgasm" when we were in middle school. So I just did the same - I answered his questions without being silly or embarrassed and let the conversation grow from there. (Some of this I am c/p-ing from a previous thread because it's long, sorry!)

I never had "the talk" as a kid and have not gone that way as a parent. My basic philosophy - which was also my parents' - is that if you ask a question, you get an answer. That answer is accurate and true, but not necessarily completely comprehensive. When my stepson asked, "What makes a baby?" I talked about sperm, and eggs, and how the daddy has the sperm and the mommy has the egg, and when the two meet, it is the beginning of a baby. He then asked how the two meet, so I talked about penises and vaginas, said the man and woman get so close to each other that the penis goes into the vagina, and the sperm come from the penis and travels to the egg, etc. After that he surprised me by going a completely different route and asking about the word "sexy" and if what people mean when they say "sexy" is that they want to have a baby, and I said it can be really confusing, because lots of times people don't use the right word for what they really mean. Like, in songs, people sometimes say "sexy" when they mean "pretty" or "smart," or if someone says a car looks really sexy, they obviously don't want to have a baby with a car - they mean it looks really cool. We thought of some times that people have used the word sexy and brainstormed words we thought they might have been able to use instead, to be more clear. etc.

Some weeks later he heard someone talking about an accidental pregnancy in a TV plot and he asked how you could accidentally get pregnant. I said that people don't only have sex to make a baby - sex also feels good and that it is something that grown-ups do when they love each other very much, sort of like a very intense and intimate way of hugging someone. And so sometimes people have sex even if they don't mean to have a baby, but sex can always lead to a baby, and that's why it's important to not have sex until you are really a grown-up and you have met someone you love very much.

That sort of thing. I find that answering the question but not necessarily going in with complete and total disclosure from the get-go opens the door for a more conversational tone - an ask-and-answer format rather than a one-directional monologue - and also lets the kid decide how far the talk goes. Basically I leave room for silence and reflection in the conversation, instead of just filing the awkward space with more words. I think that few kids who ask where babies come from are necessarily interested in hearing about orgasms, accidents, birth control, STIs, whatever. Like, after I explained sex, I honestly never would have even thought to talk about the word "sexy" and its various uses in pop culture, but OF COURSE that was something my stepson already had a budding familiarity with, and so of course he was fitting this new information - what sex actually means - into that context. If I had just done a Wikipedia monologue he might never have gotten a chance in the rhythm of the conversation to ask about the word "sexy," and we never would have had that super awesome talk. For that reason I can't imagine just having "a talk" - I think that kids start being ready to hear some of this stuff so young, and then are ready to hear other parts so much later, that I can't imagine talking about it all at once - it would be way to early or way too late either way, and just miss the point entirely one way or the other. Usually in my experience if they are ready for more information, they will innately hear that my explanation only answers their question by making them think of more questions, and they will prompt me to keep going by asking the next question. If they do not "hear" the next question in themselves - the next how or why - then I usually figure that they are just not at that point yet. Sometimes I prompt it a little bit if I sense that they may be shy but if they don't bite I usually let it be.

This all, of course, relies heavily on the fact that your kid will ask you and not just google. To initiate the conversation yourself and prompt questions, books can be great. I am a huge fan of It's Not The Stork, which explains everything accurately - from bodies, to girls/boys, to puberty, to boys/men and girls/women, to sex, to fertilization, to gestation, to birth. There is also a section on adoption and non-traditional families, and a section on good/bad touches. It is not silly but it is also not clinical or embarrassing; it is illustrated but not dumb or condescending. It's actually the first of a three-part collection - the next two books are aimed at older children and have more detailed information - but this one is written for kids as young as 4 and IMO is totally appropriate for kids that young so it's a good one to start with.

We also have A Child Is Born, which has some truly amazing pictures of embryos and unborn babies at various stages of gestation. My step-son's interest in sex came heavily from a baby-interested place - sex, bodies, etc were just the explanation, for him - so this book is a total favorite; if your son is coming more from a body-curiosity place it may not be as relevant to him, but I know that the book gets a lot of flipping-through in our home so it's worth considering. It also has some pictures of the women that the babies are growing in, which can help contextualize the "boobies" that your son may be curious about.

When it comes to "tough questions," whatever they are, I try to always control my reaction and make it a casual conversation. No stammering, pet names, giggling, etc. We joke sometimes but only if it's a joke we would normally make - I mean, like, no laughing as you're explaining it, but also don't just turn into a robot. It's surprisingly easy and liberating to talk to a kid frankly about sex and bodies, I think, because a lot of times once they sense that you are not embarrassed to answer, they are not embarrassed to ask, and that can be a really sweet thing to see.

u/purplebarefoot · 5 pointsr/Parenting

It's Not the Stork!

Good book. I read it with my 4 year old.

u/jamiejew · 5 pointsr/Parenting

It depends on the 8 year old. I wouldn't say specifics of intercourse are inappropriate because it's basic biology. It's science! This book may help you out as well as this one. They offer very frank, honest, and educational information and it also gives your 8 year old something to look through on his own as well as alongside you. They're great teaching tools.

u/buggiegirl · 5 pointsr/Parenting

My kids are via IVF so I have a super easy out ("The doctor took a bit of daddy and a bit of mommy and made you, you grew in a little dish for a while, then the doctor put you inside mommy's belly!"), but this book has been recommended to me over and over:

u/fu_king · 5 pointsr/Parenting

I was eyeballing this book just earlier today.

u/kg51 · 4 pointsr/Parenting

We have What's the Big Secret and my 4.5 year old loves it. There's also It's Not the Stork, though I haven't read that one personally. I have The Care and Keeping of You saved for when she's older...not sure how much it covers where babies come from, though it felt related enough to bring up here :) We just go for honest age-appropriate answers to questions--trying not to give TOO much information and just answering what was asked (which is hard).

Edit to add: We also use proper anatomy terms. She knows she has a vulva, boys have a penis, dads have the sperm, mom has the egg, babies grow in the uterus. She also knows about fallopian tubes and vas deferens, but gets them mixed up, which I find hilarious.

u/zerobeat · 4 pointsr/Parenting

You get this book and read it to them. Worked really well for my five year old.

u/onebittercritter · 4 pointsr/Parenting

This is a good answer, I just want to add that the book It's Not the Stork is a great age-appropriate tool to use when having the talk.

u/turtlehana · 3 pointsr/Parenting

Books are a good way to teach children what they're curious about. Browse Amazon reviews or Google for books that you think would work.

u/CleverGirlDolores · 3 pointsr/AskParents

Why not be in charge of conversation, so that you have control over what your daughter begins to learn, instead of letting your daughter accidentally learn it from someone else, somewhere else? We (parents) were the ones who brought up birds and bees with our daughter and didn't wait for her to get curious. Just like we did with other topics - Hey kiddo, do you know why bears hibernate? Hey kiddo, how do you think babies are made? At first we'd let her tell us and then guide her towards the right answers. Not all at once of course, but with each conversation.

Don't wait, get your daughter It's not the stork, and The care and keeping of you and read the first few pages together. Then let her read the books by herself and let her know that you're always there if she has any questions. That's what we did with my oldest. Sex topics are as mundane in our household as discussing groceries and our 9 year old has 0 reservations coming to us with any questions.

Is it possible your daughters are not asking you anything because they don't feel comfortable asking you about such topics? Do they know that they can come to you and ask about anything under the sun?

How did the bra come about? Did your daughter go to your ex and told him she wanted a bra?

Did your ex just go out and buy one? In that case, I would thank him for being thoughtful, but remind him that perhaps she isn't ready for it yet. Obviously the best solution here is to be on the same page with your ex, so perhaps you can start a dialog where despite your differences you both want what's best for your kids and not trying to present yourself as a better parent while the other one sucks.

u/BurnBeautifully · 3 pointsr/Parenting

It's Not the Stork!
This book may help you to explain better. It’s age appropriate. There are 3 books in the series so they can help later down the line the older she gets.

u/ozyman · 3 pointsr/raisingkids

Sounds to me like you handled it well. Does she have any "appropriate" sources to consult when she is curious? Our daughter has these books:

u/lazzerini · 3 pointsr/Parenting

There's a great book called It's Not the Stork that's geared to ages 5-8.

u/workpuppy · 3 pointsr/Parenting

It takes time to make kids understand "Shame" and "Dirty" and "Disturbing", and those things need to be taught...But not about their own bodies.

There is nothing that a body does naturally that should be considered too risque to talk about. Sex is normal. It's a normal part of a relationship. How do you explain pregnancy without explaining sex?

My mother was too chicken to explain sex, but she bombarded me with books for every stage of curiosity and development, from picture books up to teen sexuality books. (When I was about 5, I remember huddling secretively with my friends reading some cute and cartoonish "how babies are made" book like it was a porno mag, so I suppose that fulfilled sex ed requirement for my Catholic school.)

You don't want it to be a mystery or a taboo, or some topic to get weird about. If you in your heart believe it to be normal, it's easy to talk to your kids about it. If not, at least buy them some books.

u/JustDiscoveredSex · 2 pointsr/TwoXChromosomes

The hell we shouldn’t give young kids the whole talk. I was giving the other kids in kindergarten sex Ed lessons. That’s what happens when you live on a farm...animals fuck, it’s unavoidably in your face. I had the mechanics down very early. And so did my kids.

Books to normalize talking about sex:

It's Not the Stork!: A Book About Girls, Boys, Babies, Bodies, Families and Friends (age 4+)

It's So Amazing!: A Book about Eggs, Sperm, Birth, Babies, and Families (age 7+)

It's Perfectly Normal: Changing Bodies, Growing Up, Sexual Health (age 9+)

u/gigglesmcbug · 2 pointsr/Parenting

Get a good comprehensive book, like this,

read through it, flag the things you want to make sure he understands. Talk about those things, then leave the book on the family bookshelf and let him know if he ever wants to read it, he can.

u/ShaktiAmarantha · 2 pointsr/sexover30

/u/JustDiscoveredSex recommended Its Not The Stork (K-grade 3) in an earlier thread, so I'm sticking it in here to get things collected in one place.

>Awesome book, good for the youngest kids ...and it also covers important things like "okay touches" and bodily autonomy.

u/MyTurtleDiedToday · 1 pointr/daddit

What's the Big Secret is a good one for that age. It's illustrated by Marc Brown (of Arthur fame).

It's Not the Stork is by the same author as It's So Amazing (another great book on this topic but for older kids).

Also by that author and age appropriate, Who Has What?.

Conversely, you could just go for a straight anatomy book. Perhaps something like this one. Which just covers body parts and system functions without getting into sex/puberty/reproduction.

u/peace-monger · 1 pointr/childrensbooks

It's Not the Stork is a great introduction to the topic of reproduction. Boy's Body Book looks good, but I haven't read through it yet.

u/adethia · 1 pointr/badwomensanatomy

Looks a bit like the book I got my kids. It's not the stork. I got this book when my toddlers started asking what their vulva was

u/Trisunflower · 1 pointr/Parenting

My answer at that age was 'a little bit of mommy and a little bit of daddy mixed together and made you.' When they asked for specifics, I checked to see what they were really curious about. They wanted to know what "a little bit" meant. We talked about DNA and eggs and sperm.

I also really love this book. Matter of fact, straight forward, enough facts to explain without giving too much detail for that age.

u/FoxyLoxy56 · 1 pointr/May2019Bumpers

There’s a really good book about this! it’s Not The Stork

u/paasaaplease · 1 pointr/exmormon

I think you need a trusted source for basic Sex Ed, that you probably missed. A source that you can go back and reference.

Some really good Sex Ed books, with lots of pictures/comics, (which are for teens, but I think they're really good) are written by Robie H. Harris. You can get them on

  • It's Perfectly Normal
  • It's So Amazing!
  • It's Not the Stork!

    Maybe you can find them at your local library?

    Other than that, I honestly learned a lot from good internet sources and wikipedia. Learn to think critically about what is a good source of information. Plus, you can always ask your family doctor or gynecologist; and therapy is a great idea too.