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Living Nonviolent Communication Practical Tools to Connect and Communicate Skillfully in Every Situation
Obviously, your gf is suffering greatly after this experience.
But clearly, you too are very stressed by this.
Take a look at the ring theory: comfort in, dump out
I truly commend your chivalrous instincts. But I strongly recommend against personally escalating any violence because the cost/benefit will likely be too damaging back at you, and also not effective in helping to heal your gf. To become more effective in getting through to people, check out: Marshall Rosenberg Communication
This used to be me.
First, I went to therapy. Depending on your culture, that might be a talk therapist, a psychiatrist, a shaman, a healer, a reiki master, a Zen Buddhist master, a rabbi or priest, a talk therapy phone line, or even a counselor.
One thing I realized in therapy was that I had TONS of pent up anger and resentment. So, whenever I would get into a situation that would cause me more anxiety than usual(I had pretty bad anxiety), everything would come spilling out in tears.
Once I started working with my therapist on
I began to see a huuuge improvement in how often I cried. It wasn't an overnight thing. It took a dedicated effort on my part to do the above things. During that time I also began to go through various therapy routes, some of which are mentioned there.
I remember one specific coping mechanism whenever I was furious was to either a)get a bat and go to town on a pillow b) do something physical like chop wood c) go out into the car with the windows up and scream.
I hope this helps you in some way!