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99% of sex therapists would listen to your story, ask some questions, and then if they think you're both serious about fixing the sexual side of your relationship, they'd do two things.

1. They'd tell you to find a much better solution to the contraception issue. Part of your wife's aversion to sex is almost certainly a deep-seated fear of getting pregnant again. She needs to get an implant (called Nexplanon). It's THE safest form of birth control, even safer than getting a vasectomy or getting her tubes tied. One brief doctor's visit every four years and she can forget about getting pregnant.
   
   
2. They'd hand you several pages of instruction for Sensate Focus Therapy and ask you to do the first set of activities at home before your next visit. And basically that would be your homework for the next 3 months, and your therapy sessions would be about your progress, and any issues that came up.
   
   But you can get the instructions online and the two of you can do them on your own of you prefer.
   
   SFT starts by taking sex completely off the agenda. It's about reconnecting with the simple pleasures of touch, and enjoying giving and receiving physical affection that ISN'T about sex
   
   Here are some links I just posted for someone else with a near-Dead Bedroom problem:
   
   

• A good intro to SFT: Sensate Focus: Getting Out of Your Head and Into Your Body During Sex.
  
  
• A good set of instructions for doing SFT at home.
  
  
• A good, sturdy massage table like this one. Under $90 on Amazon. It will make SFT much easier and more effective. Get a couple of beach towels or bath sheets, maybe a yoga mat, and a jar of coconut oil, and you're all set.
  
  
• The SO30 Wiki has some terrific posts that will help you when you get back into action.
  
  
• And this is a collection of really useful articles by one of our mods. It might help if you guys read through the relevant ones together.
  
  Enjoy!
  

I purchased this massage table for my wife for her birthday. It didn't cost much and we have used it at least 20 times in the last year.

When ever I feel like she had a hard day I will set it up, turn down the lights and have alexa play "spa music" (who knew there was such a thing) then call her into the bedroom for a massage. Best $82.00 I have spent, she really loves it.

I had a discussion a couple of years ago with a couple who did this in London on two occasions. Overall, they said it was a good experience and it motivated them to learn more, but they wished they had done it a bit differently the first time.

They said the massages were great, but that they found it distracting to have both massages happening side-by-side at the same time. They both said they spent too much time looking around and listening to what was going on on the other table, and that it interfered with the receptive meditation practice that is such an important part of getting a tantric massage.

Anyway, after working on doing it at home, they went back for a second session, but this time they asked to have it set up as hands-on instructions. The massages were given in sequence instead of simultaneously, with one person on the table and the other getting a one-on-one tutorial.

They said they learned a lot more from the second session, and that having a four-handed massage at times was even hotter than the original. They continued to exchange tantric massages at home after that, and eventually stumbled across my blog, which has an extended section on tantric massage, which is why they wrote to me about their experience.

They had some suggestions for other couples that I would interpret this way:

1. Get a good, inexpensive massage table (like this one and a book on sensual massage (like this one, and practice exchanging at least 4 or 5 full-body massages with your partner before you schedule anything.
   
   
2. Follow the directions in the tantra blog (see below) in terms of preparation and meditation.
   
   
3. Study some erotic massage videos like the ones mentioned in "Video tutorials for massage and oral techniques."
   
   
4. When you schedule your massages, ask the giver(s) to do one massage at a time, and teach you as they go.
   
   The point they wanted to emphasize was that they thought most couples will get MUCH more out of the paid session if they have already started learning the basics.
   
   Here's the link for the blog:
   
   

• Extraordinary Passion: The Art and Science of Modern Tantric Sex
  
  And these posts link directly to the sections on lingam and yoni massage:
  
  
• Giving and Receiving a Lingam Massage
  
  
• Giving and Receiving a Yoni Massage
  
  Also relevant:
  
  
• The Art of the Handjob
  
  
• OMG Yes!!!
  
  ... and the whole "Taking sex to the next level" section in:
  
  
• A Beginner's Guide to Good, Great, and Amazing Sex
  
  I hope this helps.
  
  tl;dr: I don't know if the massage place you're considering offers you the option of doing the massages as tutorials, but it's worth asking. Also, try to get started on learning both regular and tantric massage before your session.
  
  Have fun, and please report back afterward, either here or over on r/tantricsex!

Coconut or almond oil

Either put down some towels or a crappy blanket or buy a cheap massage table and enjoy.

Just an FYI, but check Amazon. We bought our table from there. It was like $75 and prime so 2-3 day delivery. My wife and I are "full figured" and it holds us no problem. Here's the link : https://www.amazon.com/dp/B00K0OW60I/ref=cm_sw_r_other_apa_xFPtybYHTVW77

i used this one that i bought on amazon.

https://www.amazon.com/Massage-Portable-Adjustable-Folding-Facial/dp/B00K0OW60I/ref=sr_1_3?crid=2ONVOV3YWN1O1&keywords=best+massage+table+portable&qid=1565619094&s=gateway&sprefix=best+massage%2Caps%2C196&sr=8-3

You wouldn't believe it, but they are almost an impulse purchase in the Internet age.

http://www.amazon.com/Portable-featured-economical-available-anywhere/dp/B00K0OW60I/ref=sr_1_4_s_it?s=beauty&ie=UTF8&qid=1465257985&sr=1-4&keywords=massage+table

Get this https://www.amazon.com/Black-Portable-Massage-Table-Facial/dp/B00K0OW60I/ref=sr_1_4_s_it?s=beauty&ie=UTF8&qid=1524883537&sr=1-4&keywords=massage+table and something like this https://www.amazon.com/Fractionated-Coconut-Oil-Massage-Oils/dp/B01LQSSSRG/ref=sr_1_17_s_it?s=beauty&ie=UTF8&qid=1524883667&sr=1-17&keywords=massage+oil and this https://www.amazon.com/Pro-Premium-Flannel-Sheet-Natural/dp/B00E3RYZF2/ref=sr_1_4_s_it?s=beauty&ie=UTF8&qid=1524883754&sr=1-4&keywords=massage+table+sheets and finally this https://www.amazon.com/Full-Body-Massage-Back-Massage/dp/B01MDMAS7I/ref=sr_1_4?s=movies-tv&ie=UTF8&qid=1524883822&sr=1-4&keywords=massage+video or this https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NFdQJx0FHDE and your all set. I bought one and my wife just loves it! When she tells me she's had a really bad day I ask if she wants the "treatment" and she can't come home fast enough. This can be something you both can get into and share with each other.