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u/LtPowers · 11 pointsr/etiquette

Miss Manners' Guide to Excruciatingly Correct Behavior is definitive as far as I'm concerned.

u/[deleted] · 11 pointsr/relationships

As a "social professional" I recommend you read the works of Miss. Manners. You can start with her column, or if you're so interested, her book on wedding etiquette.

The responsibility of a bridesmaid is to help the bride get dressed, throw her some fun pre-wedding parties, talk to her when she's nervous and jittery, and stand by her side when she gets married.

It does not include being an on-call, unpaid servant and going broke in the process. Telling her dear friends that they should be saving for her wedding-- as if they don't have other needs and financial obligations of their own-- is, at best, profoundly insensitive if not horrifically entitled.

u/AmazonRecommendation · 6 pointsr/self

Since when? I was raised with very traditional tea etiquette. That is actually quite rude and looks inelegant. I suppose when you stand from the table you also put your napkin beside you plate. Heathen.

http://www.amazon.com/Manners-Excruciatingly-Correct-Behavior-Freshly/dp/0393058743/ref=pd_sim_b_2

u/caecias · 6 pointsr/childfree

Get her a copy of Miss Manners next time, and highlight the part about gifts always being optional.

u/sethra007 · 5 pointsr/JUSTNOMIL

> I apparently have politeness Tourette's or something and I'm incapable of not extending hospitality to people I despise

You can still be polite and say no to people. I recommend Miss Manners' Guide to Excruciatingly Correct Behavior as a starting point on how to learn. One of the things she covers is how to politely say 'no' in all sorts of social situations.

Her all-purpose, get-out-of-Hell-free card is "I'm sorry, but it isn't possible" (or such variants as "I'm sorry, but it won't be possible", "I'm sorry, but that evening is impossible for me", and so forth). The trick to making the phase work is not to offer any excuse: “I’m so sorry, but we won’t be able to have you here for supper” should suffice. Should a JNMIL be so audacious as to demand why, Miss Manners recommends saying, “It’s just not convenient" and
do not add anything to that statement.

I work in sales. In sales training, I learned about something called
overcoming objections*. Basically, a customer comes in, expresses interest in something, but then hesitates. Your goal as a sales person is to find out what the customer's objection to buying is, so you can offer ways to overcome it. So for example, a customer might say: "I can't buy this car." The sales person asks why. "Oh, I can't afford a down payment right now." The sales person then offers a way to overcome the objection: "You're in luck--we're running financing specials with really good interest rates and no down payments. I can walk you through some options and get you in this car today."

When JNMILs and their ilk want something from you and you decline, they'll start probing to find out what your objection is so they can work to overcome it. Your best defense in that situation (and it works against sales people, too) is to not offer your objection at all.

Default to a pleasant 'no' ("I'm sorry, it's not possible"), and don't be afraid to repeat that statement exactly. Repeating the exact same words (aka the Broken Record Technique) engages the pattern recognition in the brain and mentally forces your JNMIL to pay attention to your no instead of blowing past it. Then they have to deal with your no without knowing how to overcome it.

Variations on the above technique include greyrocking and Don't JADE (Justify, Argue, Defend, Explain). Read up on those, experiment, maybe mash them up to meet your needs, and see how it works for you.

u/GnollBelle · 4 pointsr/DnD

I would actually page through Miss Manners Guide to Excrutiatingly Correct Behavior(http://www.amazon.com/Manners-Excruciatingly-Correct-Behavior-Freshly/dp/0393058743). You can probably get it from the library. I think she nails the right tone between helpful and scathing and witty. It will also give you some RP ideas for "things you character would do correctly / correct people on."

u/g1i · 3 pointsr/intj

Indeed I can. I especially enjoy Miss Manners' Guide to Excruciatingly Correct Behavior.

Edit: I recommend looking inside. Miss Manners will fuck a bitch up. It's great.

u/czei · 2 pointsr/OkCupid

Being socially awkward isn't something you have to live with. You don't say what age you are, but I started off that way and got much, much better with practice. Use your obsessive qualities and study how to interact with people:

https://www.amazon.com/Manners-Excruciatingly-Correct-Behavior-Freshly/dp/0393058743

I've basically developed a list of topics that cover just about anyone you might meet and need to interact with that serve as placeholders until you find out if there's anything more interesting you can talk about. You just have to carefully watch people's body language and vocal inflections to figure out how they are reacting.

The larger question is what's the point? Live your life doing the things you love and you'll find people with common interests. You want to find your own tribe where you don't have to pretend. Using language like "geeky/nerdy" and "socially awkward" just stigmatizes people for being their normal selves based on an arbitrary scale.

For example, I hang out at a Maker Space several times a week, and the place is littered with people who fit your description. I'm sure the group that hangs out at the country club bar has better social skills, but who the hell cares? Hell, I even got a date after a couple of months with someone who's much better looking than I'd ever have a shot at online.

u/xampl9 · 1 pointr/AirForce

Much of the military and military tradition has it's basis in the south, and in the south, you take your hat off when indoors. Also when the national anthem is played.

http://www.amazon.com/Manners-Excruciatingly-Correct-Behavior-Freshly/dp/0393058743

u/hipsterparalegal · 1 pointr/books

>Books have given me much wisdom, my eloquence, my patience, and so much more.

Not ENOUGH eloquence and patience, I see.

Oh, hey, I thought of something for you: http://www.amazon.com/Manners-Excruciatingly-Correct-Behavior-Freshly/dp/0393058743/