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Modern Romance
A hilarious, thoughtful, and in-depth exploration of the聽pleasures and perils of modern romance from one of this generation鈥檚 sharpest comedic voices
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9 Reddit comments about Modern Romance:

u/BundleOfHiss 路 15 pointsr/Portland

I'm putting this at the top so all y'alls see it. If you're dating, you should really read Aziz Ansari's book Modern Romance. I haven't finished it yet, but it's great and actually more serious than I was expecting (but still funny).

 

Dating in Portland sucks, but I assume that dating everywhere kinda sucks. That being said, I'm friends with some really smart and beautiful women and we've all had a waaay harder time dating than our male friends. I'm sure there will be guys on here that disagree, but in my experience they have a way easier time, but that could just be the social circles I run in. Like, they haven't had to lift a finger or do any relationship work because there's always another cute girl waiting in the wings that has left a note on their bike or baked them cookies or straight up asked them out. We, on the the hand get told we're "intimidating."


It seems like quality men that want to be in a relationship are already in one or they'd rather just play the field and sleep around a lot (which is fine, when they're upfront about what they're looking for). Sometimes it feels like I'm just waiting for people to start getting divorced and back on the market. At least it seems like guys in Portland are finally growing out of their Peter Pan Syndrome, but that probably has to do with being out of my 20s. It
does anecdotally seem to last longer here that what I hear from friends in SF, Seattle, etc.

 

Every couple of years I try my hand at online dating and it's absolutely great experience to go on a bunch of first dates, but geeez it's also exhausting. This certainly has value in and of itself, but it's always felt more like an exercise in socializing and small talk and learning how to keep a conversation going than anything romantic. One date the guy pretty much only looked over my left shoulder instead of making eye contact and it took a huge amount of will-power not to keep turning my head to see what the hell he was watching even though I knew it was only a blank wall.

The last online date I went on was such a disaster I actually got another drink to continue watching the trainwreck (heck, I had nowhere else to be). He repeatedly asked if I was a stripper which wouldn't have been quite so gross (although still inappropriate!) except he was obviously not some sex-positive guy. It was really weird. He was also very surprised that there are bars on the East side (!) and kept referring to Henry's (where we met up, his choice, not mine) as a hipster bar. HAAAA. You can bet the dudebros around us were starting to look mighty attractive compared to this asshole.

Sometimes I think I'll reboot my OKC profile or try Tinder, but it's just been feeling like too much work for not a lot gain or even fun.

 


No, I'm not setting any of you heathens up with them.

u/ShisaDog 路 4 pointsr/Random_Acts_Of_Amazon

[Dog of the day is Sheffield!] (http://imgur.com/m4Ad9XU)
Whenever he comes to work, I think of the nanny. Now all I want to do is watch The Nanny and Golden Girls when I get home from work.

Listening to [Modern Romance] (http://www.amazon.com/Modern-Romance-Aziz-Ansari/dp/1594206279) thanks to /u/doodlesandsuch

I love sociology and stats 馃槏

My guilty pleasure food is those mini cinnabon things at Taco Bell. I eat fast food often but when I do, I need those.

u/blastfromtheblue 路 3 pointsr/malefashionadvice
u/gamer3014 路 3 pointsr/Buddhism

I think Buddhism takes the whole phrase "the truth will set you free" very seriously.

It's difficult to get over something when you have limited knowledge about it, if you never get out of the bubble you're in then it's just the same old habits going around in circles.

This is a pretty funny read on the world of dating today, once you understand how silly it all is and that it's a problem for everyone, you become a lot less serious about it:

https://www.amazon.com/Modern-Romance-Aziz-Ansari/dp/1594206279

Something else I read recently that I thought was quite brilliant is this essay on "herbivore men" of Japan, but I think it's starting to apply in the west too:

http://www.lifestudies.org/press/rls0401.pdf

It's all quite hilarious if you think about it.

u/MoleMcHenry 路 2 pointsr/askgaybros

I didn't read as much this year as I normally do. A could that stand out are Husky by Justin Sayer.

Modern Romance by Aziz Ansari.

Yes Please by Amy Poehler

Think like a freak by Steven Levitt and Stephen Dunbar

u/Chocolate__Bear 路 2 pointsr/actuallesbians

Aziz recently published a book that is basically about this problem. Named Modern Romance

u/SennaSaysHi 路 1 pointr/booksuggestions

It's a bit specialist, but Modern Romance is funny and scientific and gives you a good idea on what is expected and what is not cool when interacting with others.

u/Wil-Himbi 路 1 pointr/tipofmytongue

Modern Romance by Aziz Ansari?

u/DickieTurquoise 路 -2 pointsr/todayilearned

Aziz consulted many professors and conducted focus groups in various parts of the world for Modern Romance. The book is really a bunch of professors' research reworded in a funny way by Aziz Ansari.