Reddit reviews Obsessive Love: When It Hurts Too Much to Let Go

There's more to this than ADHD. There's also fundamental relationship issues as well. Read a book called "Obsessive Love" by Susan Forward.

Please check out this book on Obsessive love. It's stalker psychology.

The restraining order is a great idea. Stalkers can turn violent when they finally understand they are being rejected or as a means for control. If that guy has any history of violence he is definitely dangerous (though it's possible he could turn to violence either way). The fact that you say his dad is very aggressive also sounds alarming, since it's possible he was physically abusive to the stalker (and a lot of times, people growing up with abusive parents become abusive themselves).

Was the stalker ever violent to anyone? Or did he show any signs of violence (even punching walls, smashing things and so on)?

Either way, don't hesitate to take any precautions. Get a restraining order and file complaints if he breaks it. Also, tell your sister to not talk to him under any circumstance, never answer texts or take calls, never agree to meet him (especially not alone), as this might send the message that she wasn't serious about the restraining order.

The smallest hint of kindness or friendship can be interpreted by him as a sign she wants to get back together.

Also, perhaps telling his parents about the restraining order might send a clear message. His mom might think they are destined to be together, but she might not want her son to go to jail.

All the best to you and your sister and please update.

you need to sort your head out and whilst you're doing that go NC

read the intro to this book- you'll get some self respect back

https://www.amazon.co.uk/Obsessive-Love-When-Hurts-Much/dp/0553381423

https://www.amazon.com/Obsessive-Love-When-Hurts-Much/dp/0553381423

I am going with Inksplotter on this one and saying that she isn't your best friend. I'd say it's likely you focused on only the good things and ignored signals that she doesn't feel the same way.

>In the meantime, I flipped the relationship status away from single (to blank) ...The problem arose when she saw it and assumed I was taking things too quickly.

If she says that you are taking things too quickly just because you changed your status it means she doesn't want to take them anywhere at all.

> which was when she admitted possibly falling for me

What were her exact words? As hard as it is, try to see things objectively. Did she really say she fell for you or did you interpret something she said that way?

This is just what I can say based on what you wrote. My advice would be to move on, also, check this out. You seem to fit the early stage of this and it might give you some insight.