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I read "Oh Crap! Potty Training". The author's recommendation is to not start until they are at least 20months and can sing their ABCs. My kid was speech delayed at that age and definitely couldn't sing her ABCs (and still can't, at 2.5yrs), but we dove in right at 20m and she trained super easily compared to most of my friends' kids, even training for naps and nights. It took us like 2w to get to where I felt like I could leave the house without accidents. And she learned to say "pee pee" when she had to use the bathroom, so that was a plus.
My second born will be 20m in 1 week and I can't decide if I want to dive in and go through 2 weeks of potty training accidents to get the sweetness of never needing diapers again. It's a tough call to make!
Anyways, we used the little separate training potty at first, so that she could put herself on her potty and go pee, and then eventually moved up to setting her on the toilet with an insert which was necessary for using the restroom during outings. By the time I potty trained her, she was also sleeping in a big kid bed already which was super helpful.. I would sit her little potty on a waterproof mat on her floor and if she woke up from her nap, she could quickly sit herself on her potty before I could even get in there. She rarely had accidents in bed.
We read a lot of books about toilets... "Everybody Poops", "Potty Time", and "Once Upon a Potty". Some other books I liked were "Diapers are Not Forever", "Potty", and "Let's Go Potty, Elmo!".
Read the book Oh Crap!. It is a super quick read, and dispels the myth of being 'ready '.
I recommend Oh, Crap! Potty Training. I used its methods for my almost 2 1/2 year old, and its been such a success! In fact, she just used her first public restroom yesterday. The process has taken a few weeks, and the first few days are very intensive, but it's overall been a positive experience for both of us. It was so much easier for me to go into it with a plan!
Good luck to you!
We just used this book, and it was amazing. Throughly dug this lady's approach. The gist of it is, if the kid is giving cues, you're ready. Go all in. There's a whole chapter on special cases, like fear of potty and partial training.
As a whole there are multiple stages:
You're also right at the sweet spot. The older they get, the more resistance.
My son is 3.5 and fully day-potty trained but we still do diapers at night just in case. Night training is different than daytime - its more of a brain maturity thing because the brain needs to wake the child up in order for them to attempt to go, and this just doesn't happen in some kids until later, sometimes as long as 6 or 7. I'm not aware of my son ever even waking up to go to the bathroom in the middle of the night yet. Oh Crap potty training book says its fine to wait longer for night training.
This website says 75% of kids have night control by age 4, so we are not going to even attempt until then.
One thing I've noticed as my son has gotten older is that he is moving around less at night. He used to be a karate ninja all over the place and now confines himself to the corner of the mattress, next to the wall, for the most part. So a training pad would probably work just fine by the time we're ready to night train.
Not diapering advice, but potty training method advice. We're finding the method in this book to be effective, and you completely stop using diapers (except for naps and night time, possibly) with this plan.
Oh Crap! Potty Training worked well for me, though my daughter was younger. That said, the book very explicitly addresses many of the things you brought up:
It is very adamant that you not use pull ups, since as far as the kid is concerned they are just diapers.
Do not just "wait" for the kid to come around. You gotta be active. The book has a really great plan that worked for us. About 2-3 weeks total to go from not using the potty at all to having almost no accidents. She's been solid since.
You shouldn't over prompt (every 30 min is probably too much) or put that much pressure on the kid.
No rewards.
Etc.
Honestly, I skimmed much of the book, but it's definitely worth the price and a quick read over.
This...
We stayed home the entire weekend, started Saturday and we got the peeing part done in 1 day, but still working on the poop. I kinda wished we had the third day but we both had to go back to work on Monday....
It's early, but some kids can do it at that age. I recommend the book Oh Crap! Potty Training by Jamie Glowacki.
Yes, it is probably the most widely recommended book on potty training.
Suggesting this book: Oh Crap! Potty Training
Mine wouldn't go on the potty either, he would just sit. I think it feels weird to them before they start to PT to not go in a diaper. They are used to the way it feels.
We PT'd our son around 2.5 and he did really well with it. We left him naked from the waist down for the first two days. We had to adjust the pants off/commando routine in the book because he's in daycare, but we were surprised that it clicked so well. I know some people do not have any luck with that book, but for under $10 we gave it a shot.
My daughter is 20 months too. I'm reading the Oh Crap potty training book and we've bought a potty, a toilet seat and a stepstool.
This method basically involves going diaper-less over a long weekend. If we haven't done it around her birthday in October, I think we'll look at the Christmas holidays as go time!
This one?
https://www.amazon.com/Crap-Potty-Training-Everything-Parenting/dp/1501122983
My only son turns 2 in a couple weeks and we haven't started potty training, so I don't speak from experience lol. But it still seems pretty early in the process if you've only gotten serious the past 3 days. Peeing in a potty is such a big change from everything they've previously experienced their entire life!
Whether you keep at it now or decide to put it off a couple more months, good luck! We plan to start after Halloween. I read the "Oh Crap" book and plan to use their method.
The method I use is very similar to the 'Oh Crap Potty Training' book, although the last time I potty trained was over 10 years ago before this was around. Basically, you spend 2 days entirely dedicated to potty training the kid and are then done with it. Since I usually had 5-8 foster kids at a time, I was never keen on letting the process drag out for weeks or months.
The above book details the process, but the bulk of the book is emotionally preparing the parents to potty train (which is usually the biggest hurdle in the process). The steps are basically take the diaper off your kid, and let them pee on themselves. Move them to the potty. Next time they start to go, move them to the potty. Repeat 100x. It has never once failed to potty train one of my kids. Some kids it really only takes an afternoon, others it takes the full 2 days with some accidents for a week or two after.
Kids also vary on the overnight aspect. I myself wet the bed until I was age 10... but obviously I was "potty trained". I put a paper diaper on my kids overnight until they were around 2, just to minimize mess from possible accidents. I'm usually awake until at least 11pm-midnight, and would take the kids to pee before I went to sleep, thus reducing the chance of them wetting overnight.
You can also train your kids to pee on command. It sounds funny but is very useful! While you're potty training, make some noise or say a word every single time they pee. I go "pssss" and laugh and the kids go "psss" as well and love it. Pretty quick they come to associate that sound with releasing urine. You can put them on the toilet before leaving the house, or in the middle of the night, or in the middle of a tantrum, go "psss" and they will pee without even thinking.
I've helped a lot of friends potty train their kids, and it really is the parents who need to be "ready", not the kid. Most of my foster kids were special needs and of course raised in very questionable circumstances, and also not necessarily bonded to me... yet I was able to potty train all of them, and even my sister's son who has cerebral palsy and somewhat limited bladder/bowel control.
Do it when your kids are young and it's just a function. Wait until they can reason/argue with you, and it becomes a battle of wills and emotions.
That's why I highly recommend reading the book linked above, because for most people it's more than just the methodology, it's a new mindset they need to develop.
We used this book and it was amazing: https://www.amazon.ca/Oh-Crap-Potty-Training-Everything/dp/1501122983/ref=sr_1_2?ie=UTF8&qid=1484518013&sr=8-2&keywords=potty+training
I highly recommend it and we were able to potty train our daughter in a few days.
We use the Oh Crap potty training method
Oh Crap! Potty Training: Everything Modern Parents Need to Know to Do It Once and Do It Right (1) (Oh Crap Parenting) https://www.amazon.com/dp/1501122983/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_i_ENY0DbNNDVR23
It involves taking a Friday and a Monday off and being covered in excrement for awhile but it's worked for us!
Hi! I, too, am looking for some help, though we're not at potty training she just yet. Is this the book you're referring to? Oh Crap! Potty Training: Everything Modern Parents Need to Know to Do It Once and Do It Right (Oh Crap Parenting) https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/1501122983/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_i_1rMODb0Y15RMD
At this age, you just need to sit him down at set times for long enough to sing the ABCs. Get rid of the diapers and the rewards. The reward for using the potty is not being covered in poop or pee. [Oh Crap! Potty Training] (https://www.amazon.com/Oh-Crap-Potty-Training-Everything/dp/1501122983) worked really well for my 5 year old. Even now, she still needs to sat down periodically sometimes if we're doing something exciting, like going to the zoo.
I've read this book. So go naked or bottomless for a whole day while you watch her intently. If she has an accident, just bring her to the potty to finish, and then have her help clean up(pee is sterile). If you've had a successful day, don't go back to undies yet, go commando. Undies contains the pee, so it's not as bad when you have an accident, but they don't want pee running down their leg, it's uncomfortable. Try to do commando for a week if you can. Skirts work great for girls.
Also, while naked, look out for the pee dance. It can be subtle, but I read everyone has a pee dance or indicator.
Information was taken from this book
I borrowed this from our local library and used it as a guide
Oh Crap! Potty Training: Everything Modern Parents Need to Know to Do It Once and Do It Right https://www.amazon.com/dp/1501122983/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_J9eFybACN09E1
And I read this book to her about a week before Day 1 of training
Potty Book for Girls, The https://www.amazon.com/dp/0764152319/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_H-eFybXQC3YPM
We started on a long weekend (Saturday to Monday) and she went back to daycare in undies with only about 2 accidents that week.
We still haven't night trained though.
Have they tried reward systems, buying her new panties she picks out, reading her books about kids using the potty? There’s a book called oh crap, https://www.amazon.com/Crap-Potty-Training-Everything-Parenting/dp/1501122983/ref=asc_df_1501122983/?tag=hyprod-20&linkCode=df0&hvadid=312154663427&hvpos=1o1&hvnetw=g&hvrand=11165367220882139930&hvpone=&hvptwo=&hvqmt=&hvdev=m&hvdvcmdl=&hvlocint=&hvlocphy=9011702&hvtargid=pla-426474776806&psc=1 I have several mom friends that swear by it.