Reddit reviews On Becoming Baby Wise: Giving Your Infant the Gift of Nighttime Sleep

First, if you are actually talking to a podiatrist that might explain why you feel that keeping her feet covered at night is some type of requirement... /humor

Seriously, do not take her to a psychologist. Children NEED boundaries and a routine in the same way you need to feel like you have a roof over your head. You need to stop negotiating with her and be the parent. I encourage you to re-read all of the constructive comments you got in your previous post -- there is an awful lot of good stuff there and it sounds like you only did the "easy" stuff. You turned off the TV and bought a blanket but it doesn't sound like you changed your behavior or the way you are treating your daughter.

Why is it so important to you that she is covered at night? Not everyone likes blankets or sheets -- my daughter NEVER leaves covers on her. We usually check on her after she's asleep and cover her back up, but she just flings them off again. She's almost three and perfectly healthy. Just because her feet are cold at night doesn't mean she is going to get pneumonia.

When we transitioned our daughter from a crib to a toddler bed at 2 she had similar issues staying in bed. We would put her in bed and explain to her like an adult that she had to sleep in her bed and why she had to sleep in her bed, give her a hug and kiss and leave. When she got out of bed we would not say anything to her, but pick her up and tuck her back in bed. This would go on and on over and over. She thought of it as a game until 30 or 40 minutes went by and she started getting tired. Eventually she would either stay in bed or start crying.

This took several days or weeks of following the routine until she just stayed in bed at night. Sometimes I would sit outside of her door with the door cracked, out of her sight but close enough that she knows I'm always near by. I think this helped her quite a bit. The key is that you have to be the enforcer of the rules. You can not get upset or angry, and switch off with your spouse as needed to stay sane. You do not negotiate with a toddler. You set the boundaries and they constantly push on them. I think engaging professional help for something like this would do more harm than good.

We subscribed to the Baby Wise methodology for our infant and try to follow our own version of Supernanny. I highly recommend both.

Since this is the internet and all I thought Id give you some unsolicited advise. Get this book, read it in one day, and follow it to the letter: https://www.amazon.com/Becoming-Baby-Wise-Giving-Nighttime/dp/1932740139/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1480529331&sr=8-1&keywords=babywise

We did it with all 3 of our boys (current 4.5, 2, and 6 months) and all 3 were sleeping through the night by 8 weeks. Seriously an amazing parenting book.

That and there is always room on the trump train for little patriots!

Not sure if you've tried sleep training, but this book was a life saver for us.

Baby Wise

We spent the first 4 months soothing him to sleep multiple times throughout the night, and during naps. After a few weeks of training, he now consistently sleeps through the night, and goes down easily during nap time.

We went with the Shenandoah University Childcare Center. It’s off of exit 315. You don’t have to be a student or faculty to get your child, but I believe you get a discount if you are, and you get to “cut in line” so to speak. We had to wait 6-9 months for an opening. I can’t really speak to any other daycare because this one was so highly recommended by family and we really liked the tour... so we never actually looked into any other daycare!

My son started when he was in the toddler class, so we didn’t see the infant or baby rooms, but in the toddler and 2’s classes he’s done very well. He eats so much better now because they (in a kind way!) tell your child basically “this is breakfast/lunch/snack, this is what you’re going to eat.” They’re always learning whether it’s about colors or numbers or just how to play together and share. You can call anytime and they always seem happy to chat about how your child is doing that day, and always take the time to talk to you about their day when picking them up. The classes especially in the youngest years are pretty small. I really love the teachers he’s had. Makayla (not sure how you spell her name...) and Katherine were both absolutely amazing in the toddler class. I felt very happy that Katherine was going to be working in the 2’s class a couple months before my son moved up to that one.

By the way, I’m sure you’ll get endless advice about parenting you never wanted, but... this book changed my life. The practices in it worked amazing with our son and he sleeps soooo well. Rest, my god.

For actual pregnancy, I loved the American college of obstetrics and gynecology's book and I know a lot of people loved the mayo clinic book.


Planning for Pregnancy, Birth And Beyond: Second Revised Edition https://www.amazon.com/dp/0525941401/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_PLZHAbPZ6V85C


Mayo Clinic Guide to a Healthy Pregnancy: From Doctors Who Are Parents, Too! https://www.amazon.com/dp/1561487171/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_tMZHAbRTF0RMQ


I also read what to expect when your expecting but it was a lot of the same info in my apps, except the actual birth and labor part. There was some helpful stuff in there!


For laboring I read Ina May's guide to Childbirth and I LOVED it. I feel SO prepared after reading it!


Ina May's Guide to Childbirth https://www.amazon.com/dp/0553381156/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_VNZHAbQ7T2S9D


I tried to read

Natural Childbirth the Bradley Way https://www.amazon.com/dp/0452276594/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_HOZHAbRC89D39


But I couldn't take it seriously!


And for breastfeeding I read


The American Academy of Pediatrics New Mother's Guide to Breastfeeding (Revised Edition): Completely Revised and Updated Third Edition https://www.amazon.com/dp/0399181989/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_9PZHAbSMPXVX9


And for baby feeding and sleeping I read


On Becoming Baby Wise: Giving Your Infant the Gift of Nighttime Sleep https://www.amazon.com/dp/1932740139/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_JQZHAbS5P7824

We didn't exactly do "cry it out" but we roughly followed the Baby Wise (https://www.amazon.com/Becoming-Baby-Wise-Giving-Nighttime/dp/1932740139) method for sleep training.

We're not fans of co-sleeping for the obvious "rolling on top of your infant" problem---especially since we both sleep so hard. But whatever works for you. My wife and I found that method worked well, but every little one is different. :-)

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As a pediatrician, lactation consultant and mother, please avoid:
Babywise it has been condemned by the American Academy of Pediatrics and La Leche League for its bizarre recommendation that newborns be put on a feeding and sleeping schedule that is pretty much designed to lead to breastfeeding failure, attachment issues, and failure to thrive. The reviews on amazon tell quite a story--some of the 1 star are former 5 star submitters who realized that their baby wasn't "good" or "obedient" or "quiet", they were starving like little Romanian orphans and had given up making noise because they were just ignored. If I could put every copy in an incenerator I would.
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I am a 29 year old with a 3 year old and a pair of twin 1 year olds. I can tell you that kids will flat wear her out to the point that she will go to bed earlier. Before kids my wife stayed up with me almost every night. After baby(ies) she knocks out at around 10pm. From 10pm on, the night is mine.


It might take some time but your first order of business is get that baby on a regular sleep schedule to where it is sleeping through the night. Here is my Holy Grail that got my twins sleeping 10 hours through the night by 8 weeks. Wife rejoiced. She got to sleep more and I got to play more.


It doesn't stop there. With all the sleeping she'll be doing, you better make up your lost time with her while she is awake by doing things that make her (or you both) happy. Happy wife = Happy life. It's taken a lot of work to get where I can balance game time with family time and still make a happy marriage, but it's definitely doable.


Bonus: when your toddler starts turning into Stewie (like mine has) and nags the wife non-stop, she'll sometimes just go upstairs to have alone mommy time. Game time for dad!

On Becoming Baby Wise: Giving Your Infant the Gift of Nighttime Sleep https://www.amazon.com/dp/1932740139/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_j2ChAb4P2ZRZH

Can't recommend it highly enough. It can be difficult at first, especially with your first child. It can be hard for Mom to hear the baby cry. But once you get in the routine it works like magic.

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I read, well skimmed, Baby Wise and while I thought the author was kinda smug, our kid got through sleep regression in 3 days. Highly recommend
Here’s the link on Amazon

On Becoming Baby Wise: Giving Your Infant the Gift of Nighttime Sleep https://www.amazon.com/dp/1932740139/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_i_0UqRDbT0KDYFA

Check out the book Babywise, which is where this routine comes from.

https://www.amazon.com/Becoming-Baby-Wise-Giving-Nighttime/dp/1932740139

It's very heteronormative/two parent centered but if you can ignore the kind of judge parts, I think it can be really helpful.

We have 2 little ones. A daughter that's 3 1/2 and a son who's 20 months.

I cannot recommend this book enough, especially if you don't have much experience dealing with babies. The suggested schedule they give you with feeding times was a huge help for my wife and I.

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Smart move on not getting used.

Unsolicited advice... Get them this book. It has saved us. Our babies are sleeping through the night (11:30pm-7am). Best thing ever.
https://www.amazon.com/Becoming-Baby-Wise-Giving-Nighttime/dp/1932740139

On Becoming Baby Wise: Giving Your Infant the Gift of Nighttime Sleep https://www.amazon.com/dp/1932740139/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_0khEAbHVSJA9E here is the amazon link! I started giving a nightly bath and then a bottle before bed. I did everything at the same time every night. Babywise goes into a lot of better detail and had a lot more stuff you can do. I ended up not needing to do any of what they suggested cuz my kids responded to the routine.

Hey! Yeah it has kinda become a series, but that is just someone piggy backing if its success. Here are the originals.

Here is the one for infants

Here is 5-12 months

I can sum up one of the most important principles for you if you don't want to buy them. Though I highly suggest you do.

At around 5-6 weeks you allow your baby to cry it out for 15 minutes max. After that you can go in and comfort the baby. This is mostly for the mother, as it is hard for the mom to do this.

Then every night you will eventually watch that 15 minutes of screaming drop to 12, then 10, then 5. Then only a minute.

This same principle then applies for older kids as they grow up and more challenges arise, like toddlers who won't stay in bed. In our experience we had to allow for them to cry and learn that they can do it and it will be ok. Eventually allowing for themselves to calm down and sleep.

Ok you are mistaken if you think i'm recommending the same CIO for a 3-month old versus a 3-week old.

I cited Feber merely as a general term but obviously the technique you used on a 3-month old is not going ot be the same on a 3-week old.

The book baby-wise https://www.amazon.ca/Becoming-Baby-Wise-One/dp/1932740139?th=1&psc=1&source=googleshopping&locale=en-CA&tag=googcana-20&ref=pd_sl_34cj9m9b1t_e
describes an approach which involves a combination of CIO + close observation. The book coined a term for this method which i can't recall, but that's the method i'm advocating.

In fact, the book STRONGLY criticizes parents who hug their babies to sleep, including 3-week old newborns.

Baby Wise infant sleep training. It works.

Get this book and start sleep training. It's gonna be rough starting at 1 year, but the sooner you get on it the better. The basic idea is that you develop regular schedule and your kid learns when it's time to eat and when it's time to sleep. We started at birth and both of my kids have been sleeping through the night since 3 months old. They can sleep anywhere, and even adjust to time zone changes no problem. It's going to be rough and there is going to be some amount of letting your child cry for a short, non-emotionally-scarring amount of time as they get used to the new schedule and learn to self soothe - but at the end you and baby BOTH get the gift of sleep!

EDIT: Don't listen to the CULT of attachment parenting that thinks this book is pure evil. If you actually read past the first page you'll see that it's all about moderation and gently nudging your child towards an eat/sleep schedule that results in sleeping through the night. There seems to be an organized group of whackos whose sole mission in life is to steer people clear of a book that has helped me and MANY others experience the joy of happy, healthy children who sleep through the night.