Reddit Reddit reviews Overcoming Borderline Personality Disorder: A Family Guide for Healing and Change

We found 6 Reddit comments about Overcoming Borderline Personality Disorder: A Family Guide for Healing and Change. Here are the top ones, ranked by their Reddit score.

Health, Fitness & Dieting
Books
Mental Health
Personality Disorders
Overcoming Borderline Personality Disorder: A Family Guide for Healing and Change
Oxford University Press USA
Check price on Amazon

6 Reddit comments about Overcoming Borderline Personality Disorder: A Family Guide for Healing and Change:

u/sugar_bottom · 26 pointsr/TumblrInAction

Stable BPD here. Yes, I was abusive to my SO when I was undiagnosed and untreated. However, that doesn't mean I'm some sort of heartless evil human being.

See, the problem is, SJWs see abusers as evil. They live in a black or white world, where you're either good or evil. This is not accurate- the world is shades of grey.

It wasn't my fault I was abusive to my SO. I was extremely sick and dealing with extreme, chronic emotional pain the only way I knew how. I did not intend to hurt anyone and was reacting to what I perceived my reality to be. That also doesn't mean I didn't hurt people.

The dialectic! Things can be good and bad at the same time.

Stop Walking On Eggshells was a very difficult read and I do not recommend it to anyone. It was updated recently to be less discriminatory towards BPD (the older version perpetrated the myth that BPD is untreatable and incurable). I still don't like it much. I Hate You - Don't Leave Me and Sometimes I Act Crazy are much better alternatives.


This is the best book on BPD I've ever read.

u/wanttohelpher503 · 8 pointsr/relationships

I'm engaged to a woman with BPD, so I know where you're coming from. If she's looking for ways to treat it, definitely DBT is a great option that will help her learn to regulate her emotions. There are also other clinically-validated treatment options, including Mindfulness-Based Therapy, Schema Therapy, Mentalization-Based Therapy, and Transferance-Based Therapy.

As for your end, a little bit of reading up can be invaluable. I would start by reading When Hope is Not Enough, then check out Stop Walking on Eggshells and Overcoming Borderline Personality Disorder. All three are geared toward family/friends of people with BPD, and will give you great advice on:

  1. using validation, normalization, and other techniques to ease her emotional pain

  2. setting boundaries and other techniques to make sure you don't become overwhelmed by her moods and behaviors

  3. understanding the underlying psychological mechanisms to avoid triggering/invalidating her
u/dsquard · 2 pointsr/BPD

I can't thank you enough for your insights. As always, she has shown the most emphatic and genuine remorse after the fact, and I still love her more every day. I've read Overcoming Borderline Personality Disorder and it has been immeasurably helpful for me to understand that the hurtful things that are coming out of her mouth aren't actually coming from her... that she's not trying to manipulate me.

I can't tell you how sad it makes me to hear that you are struggling to find and maintain long-term relationships. My girlfriend is in a treatment program at the UCLA BPD clinic that emphasizes Mentalization Based Therapy, and in the year and half that we've dated, I have seen palpable improvements in her ability to control and face her emotions. In fact, just this past Christmas, she spent an entire week with her family without any single fight or outburst.

I know that we're both incredibly fortunate to have resources like the UCLA BPD clinic at our disposal, and even more fortunate that she is in such a cutting-edge program, but I just wanted to share with you the incredible progress she's made with this therapy. I strongly, strongly encourage you to seek out psychiatrists in your area that specialize in metallization-based therapy. It is incredibly difficult and unbelievably taxing emotionally, but the results speak for themselves. It will take time for your brain to be able to fully develop the necessary neural pathways from your Amygdala to your prefrontal cortex.

If nothing else, read that book. Seriously. It's given me relationship-saving insights, and I think it will be incredibly helpful in giving you the knowledge-base necessary to accurately and empathetically explain your condition to your loved ones. Mental illness is a fucking bitch, but it is not your fault. I suffer from periodic depression, so I know first hand what mental illness is and how fucking powerless it makes you feel.

I wish you nothing but the best of luck and all the future happiness that you deserve. If you ever need advice from someone who is totally committed to someone with BPD, please don't hesitate to PM me.

u/HorseWithPropane · 2 pointsr/BPD

this book is excellent.

u/jujubeanzzzz · 1 pointr/mentalhealth

I'm so sorry you're going through this. Here's a link to a book that might help, it's helped me understand my borderline but it's written for the perspective of people close to someone with bpd.
overcoming borderline

u/[deleted] · 1 pointr/BPD