Reddit reviews Overcoming the Rating Game

"In this illuminating book, Ellis provides a lively and insightful explanation of the differences between conditional self-esteem and unconditional self-acceptance. Emphasizing the importance of unconditional self-acceptance, he examines this theme in the thinking of religious teachers, philosophers, and psychologists. He then provides exercises for training oneself to change self-defeating habits to the healthy, positive approach of unconditional self-acceptance." The Myth of Self Esteem by Albert Ellis

https://www.amazon.com/Myth-Self-esteem-Rational-Behavior-Psychology/dp/1591023548

The book also uses insights from Overcoming the Rating Game by Paul Hauck

"Feelings of inferiority are as universal as the common cold, and cause as many problems with health and happiness, says Paul Hauck. To help combat these negative feelings, he discourages individuals from rating themselves and encourages raising self-acceptance."

https://www.amazon.com/Overcoming-Rating-Game-Self-Love-Beyond-Self-Esteem/dp/0664253105

No problem. Good luck.

I highly recommend "The Myth of Self-Esteem" by Albert Ellis and "Overcoming the Rating Game" by Paul Hauck for good advice on liberating yourself from letting others have too much control over the direction of your life. It's a challenge everyone faces, but it can be done and, based on my experience, it's one of the best things a person can do to increase their well-being.

https://www.amazon.com/Overcoming-Rating-Game-Self-Love-Beyond-Self-Esteem/dp/0664253105

https://www.amazon.com/Myth-Self-esteem-Rational-Behavior-Psychology/dp/1591023548