Reddit reviews Parenting the Hurt Child: Helping Adoptive Families Heal and Grow
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It's only been three months. She's probably lost more than one caregiver, and she doesn't know if you're sticking around either. I mean, you still have work to do re: attachment, but don't stress too much, because this isn't that unusual.
I don't have personal experience with getting a child to attach, but I've heard of some books that are pretty good: Attaching in Adoption, Parenting the Hurt Child. Hopefully you get some tips from adoptive parents here!
This book has been pretty helpful for our family: http://www.amazon.com/Parenting-Hurt-Child-Adoptive-Families/dp/1600062903
It basically addresses the attachment issue through the lens of a child's desire for control - and gives some very effective strategies for creating a better dynamic. I highly recommend it.
Look into foster/adoption parent resources
I would start with http://www.amazon.com/Parenting-Hurt-Child-Adoptive-Hollywood/dp/1600062903
-- edit -- congrats for being there for your new child and wanting to help her more.
We found Parenting the Hurt Child quite good, even though our son did not experience any abuse or neglect.