Reddit reviews Pet Fit For Life Retractable Wand with 2 Feathers For Your Cat and Kitten - Cat Toy Interactive Cat Wand

I can tell by your title you know the nature of cats make BIFL toys hard. That said theres a few options that have survived our cats first year of kitten hood (much play)

1. definitely a laser pointer.
   
2. Primary toy we have one of these https://www.amazon.com/Pet-Fit-Life-Retractable-Feathers/dp/B01ANUU12I.
   
   Theres a couple different models, we find this one with the screw connection work the best. While it’s not fully BIFL, the handle has lived up to its sturdy claim and we can easily replace parts that broke or are used up. We have to buy or make replacement attachments because my cats love killing them with bites. I’ve also tied string, ribbon and random garbage on the end. The lobster clasp at the end has been replaced once and I expect to have to replace the string at some point. This was infinitely better than the jackson galaxy models that don’t have replaceable parts. We went through 3 of them before we found this one.
   
   
3. https://www.chewy.com/cat-dancer-original-cat-toy/dp/49382 This one drives our cats crazy. Because its hard to catch, they haven’t really had a chance to destroy the little cardboard bits. Once they do I plan to replace it with cut bag handles or little slivers of cardboard.
   
   
4. Bouncy balls, only 1 of my cats likes these and they like to chase/bat them not chew so I expect to keep them as long as I can find them. I usually discover them under furniture while cleaning.
   
   
5. Things you make. I’ve recycled old shirts into tshirt yarn, cardboard, bits of ribbon and bags and random shit to test out on my cats. They don’t last and most of them aren’t hits and at least I’m not buying them!
   
   Good-luck making your kitties BIFL! The last advice is to have a local cat owners group where you can trade toys. Some of our toys have been such duds with our cats, we pass them around to the cat owners at work and usually there’s a cat who loves it.
   
   Edit: noticed your comment on automated balls. It really depends on your cat. We tried that and a few other automated toys and in general they got bored fast. They never seem fast enough or random enough. We’ve given them away since they just take up space but it might be different for you.

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Also this feather toy looks nice 🐈💕

Keep giving her lots and lots of patience and love, she'll eventually come around. Remember, though, cats all have their own personalities, it's possible she may never be a cuddly "lap cat". We have four cats, and each are different when it comes to how they interact with us. If you don't already, be sure to set aside play time with both cats. Find toys that will hold her interest, that will really get her active and jumping around, such as: https://www.amazon.com/Pet-Fit-Life-Retractable-Feathers/dp/B01ANUU12I/ref=sr_1_7?s=pet-supplies&ie=UTF8&qid=1492094563&sr=1-7&keywords=jackson+galaxy+cat+toys
After play time, give some special treats that you know she'll love. After a while, especially when she sees her brother interacting in play time and treat time with you, I think you'll see an improvement. Just be patient and loving (as I'm sure you are!) ;)

You don't need to play with him for very long. Just try to get him panting before a meal at least once a day. Use one of these and it should take like 15 minutes. It's really fun too.