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u/SnuggleKing · 10 pointsr/houston
u/napjerks · 6 pointsr/Anger

The real trick is to take a walk or at least just separate himself and let himself cool off for a few minutes before he gets super mad. You can try and notice his body language or style of speech and say, you seem like you're mad already, are you? And have a conversation with him about that. When you say he seems mad you're not judging him. You're just trying to help maintain a calm discussion for both of you and you can only guess if he's mad by his behavior. He should work on recognizing when he's not able to control what he does or says and take a break as soon as he starts to feel agitated or worked up.

When was he diagnosed with IED? Was the medication prescribed specifically for that?

If CBD is legal where you are he might be able to legally do gummy candies or CBD oil.

This article is for you, When you love an angry person.

If he doesn't get much exercise that's the first thing he could start. Doing any kind of exercise four or five times a week helps. Walking or riding a stationary bike at a slow pace are still good ways to exercise for half an hour if he has anything preventing it. If he doesn't have any way to burn off steam that's part of the problem. He shouldn't think, "I'm doing this to lower my anger" while he's doing it. Just do it to make himself feel better and improve his health.

To address the anger directly this book Rage is very good and it's also on audiobook if he's more likely to listen than to read. Even 20 minutes a day he could listen and gain some skills. Do you think he would read/listen to it?

In addition to that, it helps to have a worksheet to evaluate what happens when he gets mad. If he can recognize patterns in his anger he can start to predict/anticipate when it will happen again. And that helps us intervene and do something about it. Here is a typical worksheet. This same kind of sheet is used for anger, depression, anxiety, etc. I like this one because the explanation is very good.

He should take five minutes to fill one out every time he gets mad. He can even use it to reflect on past events. You can ask him, "What happened at such-and-such event when you got mad?" And he can work through the sheet. It helps us get an outside look at our "anger episodes" so we can figure out at what point we could intervene with ourselves so we can have a better outcome. When could he have just said, "ok I'm going to take a walk to cool off and we can talk more about this late, but I need to take a break." And then you guys can continue talking later. The important thing is to break at the right time, earlier than he usually does up to now. But also to come back and keep working through difficult conversations.

The order things happen in is helpful. Was he in a bad mood already? Did he have any interactions with other people? What was happening when he was getting angry? A conversation? Wishing something particular would happen? Or hoping something specific wouldn't happen? These wishes/hopes are tied to our expectations. And when we don't speak what we are thinking, the right communication isn't happening. Often we get mad because we've forgotten to share and be assertive about our feelings in a positive way. Or we feel like we already know what someone else is thinking without asking. Sharing is beneficial for both parties if we can do it in a positive style.

It can be helpful to have a stack of ten copies ready to go and just sit down for a minute to evaluate what happened. But you have to want to do it or it is only a superficial exercise. That's the hard part. We can't do it for him. Early on the first several times we (an angry person) fill out this sheet it seems like everyone else and factors outside us are to blame. But the more we practice filling it out the more we realize it's our expectations and assumptions about how we wish things were different than what actually happened that is the problem. The real cause of the anger we finally discover is in how we are expecting certain outcomes and when they don't happen the way we want, that's when we blowup. If we can see that, we can really start to get a handle on it because we start looking at our assumptions and slowing down our automatic angry response.

Similar to the worksheet there are resources like The Anger Management Workbook for Men. He can just grab a pen and start on the exercises and it teaches anger management skills. The exercises help make it personal and he can use it to pick and choose what works for him in his own experience. Hope this helps.

u/Debaucherizer · 5 pointsr/Watchexchange

Great job making your post easier to read!

Also, I suggest looking into this

Good luck

u/OhSirrah · 3 pointsr/Anger

As far as your head injury, if you know where you got stitches, maybe contact that doctor and ask for a copy of records. Maybe that would help you understand if it was a big deal.

For changing your anger, a good place to start is reading a book about anger. https://www.amazon.com/Rage-Step-Step-Overcoming-Explosive/dp/1572244623/ref=nodl_
That one is written by a psychologist, and gives advice for different kinds of anger.

u/youwantmetoeatawhat · 1 pointr/mallninjashit

> I should have expected you'd be really well versed in fantasy.

I don't know what you are implying.

>was surprised you attempted to inflict insult using, what, 18th century(? 17th century?) fairytales?

I made a pun and you lost your shit. You are making a point or sense at all.

You do need to read a book