Reddit reviews Search Inside Yourself: The Unexpected Path to Achieving Success, Happiness (and World Peace)

I know it's a bit counterintuitive suggesting books for social skills (the solution is ultimately in doing rather than knowing),
but these books are accessible, credible, and practical - each one has exercises to practice and master: Charisma Myth
and Search Inside Yourself both helped me understand myself and how to relate to others. Hope they help you.

Search Inside Yourself: The Unexpected Path to Achieving Success, Happiness (and World Peace) by Chade-Meng Tan. This was a great book on the importance of mindfulness and emotional intelligence.

The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up: The Japanese Art of Decluttering and Organizing by Marie Kondo. Helped me get on the path to decluttering my life.

No More Mr. Nice Guy by Robert Glover helped me to stop seeking approval from others and insuring my own needs are met.

Influence: The Psychology of Persuasion by Robert B. Cialdini. A good introduction to social psychology.

These are just a few I've read in the past few years that have helped me. Good luck!

It sounds like you really want to be an excellent parent. Props.

I recommend that you study mindfulness and equanimity.

I am currently the parent of two young children. It can be very, very stressful at times. What I have found most valuable is an ability to keep myself emotionally on an even keel. I have found a mindfulness practice to be extremely valuable in this regard.

Things are going to happen that will be very trying. You might have a kid with colic, who screams and cries for twelve or more hours of the day. You will almost certainly be sleep deprived. You may have difficulty finding time to do the things you like doing now. You need to be able to maintain a calm emotional state in the face of some events that will really test you. Ideally, you need to be able to be happy in these circumstances. In my opinion this is important for the happiness and health of your whole family.

Having an established mindfulness practice will help you keep your mind on what's important. For example, instead of wondering how you will survive the night, you may realize that you are snuggling the baby who you looked forward to meeting for so long.

I really like this book, and recommend it strongly. /r/Meditation is also a useful resource.

This is not something you can just read in a book and know. It's something you have to practice, a trained skill, like riding a bike. If you're interested in this, I suggest starting as soon as possible. It will be much easier to get started in the relative calm that you are now enjoying.

I'm currently trying to learn this via the book Search Inside Yourself. It's pretty good so far!

Doing mediation from 14 years but i don't think i can guide you much.

I do this many times- http://thelazyyogi.com/meditation read this blog it's a nice blog.

Mindfulness in Plain English is good start.

See the work of Alan Watts in youtube.

http://www.amazon.in/Search-Inside-Yourself-Unexpected-Achieving-ebook/dp/B0070XF474/ref=sr_1_fkmr0_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1396501654&sr=8-1-fkmr0&keywords=chad+meng+tan

It's gonna hard, it's gonna confusing and frustrating. But please understand that there is no right method or wrong method. A method which suits me might not suite you, so tou gotta search.

Whatever you choose, do it for at-least a week before discarding it.

I wish you all the best.

Edit: I am more of a Buddhist leaning kind of guy.

I have found the methods outlayed in this book to be very effective in dealing with the anxiety that obsessive thoughts cause.

Essentially the method is that you use mindfulness (simply being aware of yourself) techniques to allow thoughts that come to mind to float away. The author likens them to allowing the monsters to stay at your house, but they are not allowed to eat.

Anyways, its worth a look and it helped me. You can buy it or torrent it, whatever.

Link: https://www.amazon.com/Search-Inside-Yourself-Unexpected-Achieving-ebook/dp/B0070XF474/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1510967059&sr=8-1&keywords=chade+meng+tan

As an engineer and scientist, I found Google's approach to meditation made the most sense to me, since it was designed by and for engineers :p

It's called Search Inside Yourself : http://www.amazon.com/Search-Inside-Yourself-Unexpected-Achieving-ebook/dp/B0070XF474/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1398274369&sr=8-1&keywords=search+inside+yourself

Here's a book just about that 'logic oriented' ideology!