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We found 7 Reddit comments about Selfish Reasons to Have More Kids: Why Being a Great Parent is Less Work and More Fun Than You Think. Here are the top ones, ranked by their Reddit score.

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7 Reddit comments about Selfish Reasons to Have More Kids: Why Being a Great Parent is Less Work and More Fun Than You Think:

u/ZhuanXia · 14 pointsr/financialindependence

I'd like to see those numbers. There is no way they cost that much. I'd recommend your read Selfish Reasons to Have More Kids.

Most money spent on kids is wasteful signalling. To get politically incorrect, every study we have on enrichment programs, the importance of teachers, any of the other expensive nonsense people spend on children, shows that intelligence (yes we can measure intelligence, no I do not want to get into an argument about it) and grit are mostly genetic.

This is freeing, as it means you are not obligated to waste you money and time ferrying you children around to various enrichment activities or fighting tooth-and-nail for the best school districts. Things will work our however they are going to work out.

In terms of life outcomes, almost all your important influence on your children will happen at conception.

Feed them, love them, teach them to read and do some math. This should not cost you 1 million dollars a kid.

And you are not obligated to pay for college. If college costs are putting you off having kids think about it this way: will your future kids prefer to not exist or to get student loans?

u/bvot · 8 pointsr/Parenting

this book . I read it, but my wife didn't. I was on the fence about having more children. We had three healthy, awesome kids. Why take the chance, you know? My wife, however, is a great mother. She loves being pregnant, she loves giving birth to our children, and would probably love nothing more than to immediately get pregnant again after having our last one.

After I read this, I really felt better about going for the fourth child (and possibly soon the fifth).

u/TheTallestOfTopHats · 6 pointsr/exmormon

Statistically speaking, you likely missed out on some happiness, but you'll get a lot of happiness from your kid when they (and you) are old so you'll come out ahead. Plus, you actually don't have to be quite involved in their lives as most people think.

Kids are essentially happiness bonds, unless they die or turn out to be pyschopaths or something.

u/KingSnazz32 · 3 pointsr/personalfinance

I have four kids and wish I had a fifth. I think too many smart, thoughtful people talk themselves out of having kids, and too many people who are . . . well, other than smart and thoughtful are having them.

A child is not just a source of outgoing funds, either. Assuming you like children (and if you like nieces and nephews, you'll love your own kids even more), then they are more rewarding than anything else you'll do. If you are a good parent and have good kids, your children will also be your support in your older years (I don't mean financially), as well as hopefully provide you with the grandkids that will be even more fun, and far less work.

A book that I wish I'd read earlier that I recommend to both parents and those thinking about having kids, is Selfish Reasons to Have More Kids. There's a strong economic case in that book, as well, so it's not off topic.

u/SammyD1st · 1 pointr/Natalism

This is one of my favorites:

https://www.amazon.com/dp/B004OA64Q6

And here's a 50 minute documentary:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lZeyYIsGdAA

u/zig_anon · 0 pointsr/MapPorn

There is tons of peer reviewed twin studies. I was just trying to post an easy to read summary

The current view is now (quietly among many) much more nature that influences who we are both in IQ but also temperament

In the 1980’s many though it was all nurture including gender tendencies

What is not nature (remaining 25-50%) does not seem to be clearly nurture from parents either (assuming they are not traumatizing kids). It is more random

I first came to this when I was having kids and read this book

https://www.amazon.com/Selfish-Reasons-Have-More-Kids-ebook/dp/B004OA64Q6

It’s actually somewhat liberating in a way to watch all the other helicopter parents stress out