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7 Reddit comments about Setting Limits with Your Strong-Willed Child, Revised and Expanded 2nd Edition: Eliminating Conflict by Establishing CLEAR, Firm, and Respectful Boundaries:

u/VeggieLover · 9 pointsr/Parenting

I have two books to recommend which might help, although our daughter is only 6 and had many of the explosive/destructive bursts that you describe (they are greatly improved now).


Setting Limits with Your Strong-Willed Child, Revised and Expanded 2nd Edition: Eliminating Conflict by Establishing CLEAR, Firm, and Respectful Boundaries

Reading and implementing the techniques in this book recently stopped almost all of the behaviors that we were going crazy over. Our daughter was getting more and more abusive with name-calling, hitting, breaking things, etc and after reading this book and implementing the techniques, it is 95% gone. When it still happens, we now feel like we have tools to deal with it calmly but firmly.

The Explosive Child

This book focuses on preventing explosions and managing explosions proactively/in the moment. It focuses as well on the type of child that acts out in this way, and how to deal with it. A co-worker recommended this book to me after dealing with his son's explosive outbursts. His son's therapist recommended it to him.

Our daughter also showed little remorse for things like pushing her brother down the stairs, hitting him in the face, breaking doors, etc. One of the biggest realizations to me was that my wife and I were being permissive in our parenting approach, and the lack of firm consequences was causing our daughter to act out more. The Setting Limits book describes the three parenting styles (authoritarian, permissive, mixed) quite articulately.

u/lizerpetty · 5 pointsr/Parenting

Looks like you've got a SWC (strong willed child) on your hands. Do you want a weak willed child? There are books on how to handle a strong willed child. Here is what we do for my daughter. (She is 4.5)

When we are presented with inappropriate behavior from her. We tell her "this behavior is inappropriate and unacceptable and you will not get anything from it. Go sit on the steps, this is a time out for your inappropriate behavior" if she won't go to time out, she goes directly to her room. If she won't go to her room we take her to her room. We put her in her room and tell her to count to 50 to calm down. (It usually stops here, if it escalates) If she tries to come out of her room, the door gets locked. If she hangs on the door and bangs on the door, she gets threatened with a spanking, if she continues to bang on the door we go ahead with spanking. (Spanking is four swats on the bottom) she is told if she continues to bang on the door she will get another spanking. She usually doesn't go this far. She usually gets spanked about 2-3 times a year. We have been very consistent and most unacceptable behavior stops with a time out.

She needs to learn how to cope with her emotions on her own. You can help her do this. Counting works great for this.

I suggest reading: https://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/0770436595/ref=pd_aw_sim_14_2?ie=UTF8&psc=1&refRID=HM9P1BV18AG37RQERGBV&dpPl=1&dpID=51URtF9fnSL

It's difficult to begin implementing a discipline plan, but children need discipline. Otherwise your daughter will end up like this: https://youtu.be/bIyW_-6IILk

As for food and meals, we give our children 3-4 options for dinner and we try to get them to help cook. We usually don't have issues with eating. Good Luck.

Oh the down votes I shall get for spanking my child. I can just feel my karma go negative. I'm just no good at Reddit. In fact I bet my comment will be removed.

u/kater_tot · 1 pointr/Parenting

I recently read Setting Limits for your Strong Willed Child and it's been working great for my 2.5 year old. He's not even particularly 'strong willed,' we just don't know wtf we're doing with discipline so this has really helped. Some of the examples with the older kids in the book seem a bit restrictive but for basic limit setting and consequence based problem solving it's great.
http://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/0770436595/ref=mp_s_a_1_1?qid=1404881657&sr=8-1&pi=SY200_QL40
Three's awfully young for a kitten. I would not leave them unsupervised ever, and before your son even interacts with the cat, remind him that any hitting/chasing/ tail pulling means the cat gets 'put away' and then take the kitten away- hopefully to a toddler-free room with its food, water, and litter.

u/SeriousAsPie · 1 pointr/SingleParents

She needs firm boundaries.

My daughter is like this too. And if you're like me, you're having a hell of a time some days even getting dressed much less putting dinner on the table and dealing with all the things.

Setting Limits with Your Strong-Willed Child

This book helped me immensely. They want to know that when you say something you mean it. They will constantly test those boundaries. And your nerves. But it gets better. Sometimes she believes me when I tell her I'm going to set the timer if she doesn't stop doing X. And then I don't even have to set the timer because she already knows mom means business.

u/jinxlover13 · 1 pointr/Parenting

http://smile.amazon.com/Setting-Limits-Strong-Willed-Revised-Expanded/dp/0770436595/ref=sr_1_2?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1464493529&sr=1-2&keywords=strong+willed+child This book has taught me how to effectively discipline my strong willed terrorist as well as helped me understand where we are both coming from. 123 magic was also helpful. I rarely get past "2" these days, if I get to 2.

u/albeaner · 1 pointr/Parenting

This one has been the most useful so far, but my kids are not yet teens - I feel that is an important disclaimer.

u/jjc55 · 0 pointsr/WaltDisneyWorld

I'm not a perfect parent, but I'm working on improving. A couple points though:


  1. this discussion could be more of a symptom than the root cause of the behavior. We all, kids & parents, have a continuum of mood, from 1 being the Zen tranquility to 10 being active eruption. A small thing pushing an 8 to 10 is not about that small thing, but being at 8 to start. I noticed this more with myself than my kids and work, even on good days to get closer to tranquility.


  2. A time like that is not the time to discuss why things are happening. You give choices and tell your kids you'll discuss more fully when they are calmed down.


    What I'm reading right now:


    https://www.amazon.com/Setting-Limits-Strong-Willed-Revised-Expanded/dp/0770436595