Reddit reviews Shibari You Can Use: Japanese Rope Bondage and Erotic Macramé
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Douglas Kent, Lee Harrington, and Midori are three well respected resources.
Scarfs are not a good choice. They probably stretch way beyond what any decent cotton rope would. The lessons you learn tying with a scarf will probably not serve you at all if you ever want to tie with rope. Plus all of the tutorials are going to assume you have actual rope.
Cotton clothesline rope should be extremely cheap and available at home improvement or department stores anyway. However, I recommend you buy some from twistedmonk (30ft, 6mm hemp or cotton). They have sample packs that include an instructional DVD but those are a bit pricier.
Read this, including the FAQ (this should give you enough of a vocabulary that you can search for newbie guides on your own): https://www.twistedmonk.com/pages/where-should-i-start
Here are two instructional video playlists:
https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLGmYMyo1XjdpmMGxDOdOkWgcIzUbp-MeL
https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLGmYMyo1XjdrjXG3a19QbFoexiWd58a_g
And these books are very good for learning from the ground up:
https://www.amazon.com/Shibari-You-Can-Use-Japanese/dp/0977872726/ref=sr_1_4?ie=UTF8&qid=1482364828&sr=8-4&keywords=shibari
https://www.amazon.com/More-Shibari-You-Can-Use/dp/0977872750/ref=pd_sim_14_1?_encoding=UTF8&psc=1&refRID=B4GHP4Q20GYE1R1BYTDT
https://www.amazon.com/Jay-Wisemans-Erotic-Bondage-Handbook-ebook/dp/B005HZ6G8I/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1482365194&sr=1-1&keywords=Erotic+bondage+handbook
There are a ton of infographics. I think bdsmgeek(.tumblr.com) has links to a good number of them. Honestly, you should just get either Lee's book or Doug's book
Fitness / Health
32 / 5'10" / 153 lbs
 
Career / Financial
Payed off 1 of 4 student loans. Changed my cellular plan to reduce cost. Dedicated more of my income into one of my long term investments.
 
Studies
 
I've taken a detour from my queue to learn Shibari. It's a lot of fun, and feels meditative at times. I've also given the NMMNG audiobook another listen.
 
I felt compelled to review NMMNG again after suggesting it to my dad. I love him, but he is quite non-confrontational. He's not a total pushover, but he likes to keep everything running smoothly regardless of the long term consequences. My mom walks all over him as a result. He started implementing what he learned from it, and thanked me for opening his eyes. He's no longer afraid to rock the boat. "Let it rock", as he puts it. From what he tells me, she has no idea what to say to him now that he's actually asserting himself and his needs. I'm proud of him.
 
Social / Game
I've backslid on this and didn't approach any women this week. I even struggled to maintain eye contact with women passing by on the street, which wasn't a problem not too long ago. Best success I had was I've been having regular conversation with a 21 y/o HB7 about BDSM, and she's been showing interest. I haven't had to initiate contact with her, and she texts me almost daily. Unfortunately she lives 5 hours away, so I don't really consider it any sort of success.
 
Weaknesses
Still addicted to the Dom/sub dynamic with my adulterous wife. She cooks, cleans, blows me on command and unprovoked, always DTF, kneels at my feet, etc. She's stayed consistent even through my occasionally dressing her down about the incident. She's on board with the idea of me bringing home other women as long as she gets to remain the "head submissive". She accepted the idea of divorce, and hopes that even if that happens, she can still serve and have a relationship with me.
 
I catch shit about her every OYS. Quitting smoking is cake compared this. So once again, I'm going to sit on it and continue indulging in my "chew toy".
 
Goals
Two Knotty Boys Showing You The Ropes
shibari you can use
Here is a couple of reference book that I found really useful also, those 2 authors have a couple of additional books out also.
Yep:
https://www.amazon.com/Essence-Shibari-Kinbaku-Japanese-Bondage/dp/1942733852/
https://www.amazon.com/Shibari-You-Can-Use-Japanese/dp/0977872726/
https://www.amazon.com/dp/193116049X/
Twisted Monk is a really great resource not only for their how-to vids but also they sell ropes and kits. Different lengths and thicknesses are good for different purposes, which they get into, so once you're more than dabbling you may want to get specific ones for your set. In the meantime, I went with a generic set of ropes. We got this set of ropes from Amazon to start out with as well as safety sheers and a book called Shibari You Can Use.
We tested out a few of the basic ties on our own at first and then each other. Tying a wrist/ankle cuff. Tying wrists together. Just to get used to the mechanics of those basic steps, and also get a feel for how tight is too tight. And then we tried out a basic chest harness after that.
As for toys, at first just a simple blindfold and your hands and mouth is a good place to start. Tease with anticipation, sensations (silky vs course fabrics for example) against her skin, firm vs delicate touch. Is she into spanking? Do some of that. She likes vibrators? Restrain her and give her lots of orgasms with her favorite vibe. Or just tie her up and fuck her. Most importantly, since she doesn't want to go too fast, let her give you some ideas, maybe she can show you some vids or pictures that get her imagination going, and you can ask her to narrate what this or that scene is setting up in her mind.
Also seconding what everyone else said about making sure you establish safewords, and look into aftercare.
https://www.amazon.com/dp/0977872726/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_kJPKzb75P8TYF
That's the book I used to get started. It provides a good basic starting point and it gives you the basic ties and knowledge. After that? If you want to keep learning finding someone to teach you or a class to take is my reccomendation. There's lots of different styles and ideas.
I will also say, there is a second book in that series that was also good, but that I found less useful then the first. /shrug
I'll echo the opinion that you should learn shibari in person. Not only is it awesome to watch other people tie, there's a lot of safety information you might miss out on by just reading books.
I can't think of any single tie that works as a full-body restraint, other than the corset/gauntlet weave. It's more aesthetic than functional, but otherwise you're looking at multiple ties in order to restrain the entire body.
Some more resources:
Lee Harrington's books Shibari You Can Use and More Shibari You Can Use
Kinky Clover's Guide for Rope Bottoms
Giotto's videos on traditional shibari
Esinem's video dojo. He's one of the finest rope instructors and riggers in the world. There's a small paywall, but it's worth it.
Because I'm feeling relatively lazy, try looking up Ravix on Fetlife. He's one of the teachers local to me and he has a crapton of resources listed on his page.
The best videos I've found are Esinem and Nina's videos on shibariclasses.com (paid) and Topologist's videos on crash-restraint.com (free).
As for books, Lee Harrington's Shibari You Can Use is a good place to start.