Reddit reviews Thanks for the Feedback: The Science and Art of Receiving Feedback Well

Honestly: Thanks for the Feedback.

It helps with all kinds of relationships.

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The book "Thanks for the Feedback" is very helpful for league playing. It drops feedback into 3 categories: Evaluation, Coaching, Appreciation

First off, everyone likes appreciation. Thank people for good things they do for you and the team

Next of is evaluation: You don't know people well enough, nor have a good enough reason to offer an evaluation of people. Evaluation that isn't positive tends to make people play worse, embarrassed and steaming from it, if not downright defensive and distracted from the ensuing back and forth. So generally speaking, don't evaluate people in matches. It doesn't work quickly enough to make people change for the better, and the short term effects are almost all negative.

Lastly, 99% of people want NO coaching from someone they just met. Coaching is anything said to improve their play. Coaching about general things "Dragon Respawns at 32:33" is far more acceptable to them than "You would last hit better if you stood to the left of the minions". Coaching, when there has been no evaluation, comes off as evaluation (aka, you judging they're bad which is why you're telling them what to do). This means you can't coach unless you've been very appreciative, and the best way to coach is clear that it's not evaluation nor presented as 'the good way' to do something.

Don't say "There should be more wards", say, "Sona, can you ward Tribush in order to stop lee sin from ganking through that path". Yes, it's more words, but they are FAR more likely to work, as they offer no judgement, and even manage to come off as possibly not coaching.

If your support is too far out, say something like "I tend to farm when I'm in this circumstance. Feel free to poke of course, but it would be safer for you to be closer to my position in lane."

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This book http://www.amazon.com/Thanks-Feedback-Science-Receiving-Well/dp/0670014664 will help deal with the trolls and the snarky comments from team mates and turn things around into winning, constructive play.

There is a lot of issues with the LOL community and unsolicited coaching, and dealing with it, and taking it as evaluation and taking it very personally.