Reddit reviews The Conversation Code: How to Upgrade Your Social Skills and Your Life

This is an awesome answer. I was told the SAME thing many years ago in high school - it still motivates me to this day (almost 20 years later). Since I've been researching social skills and developing myself since then, I'll add a few points:

1. Growing yourself is the first step (do everything RodrLM outlined).
   
   
2. Next is EXPRESSING those thoughts and feelings and opinions. You have to share what's inside you. Do you always get stuck with a sweater every Christmas? It's because no one knows what to get you... you don't reveal/self-disclose enough. Self-disclosure is critical to having a "personality."
   
   
3. You may be doing steps 1 and 2 well, but if you lack good non-verbal skills, it may not matter. Non-verbal skills are more important than most people realize. The energy you put behind your words. Your movements. Your articulation and volume and inflection. All important - and luckily most non-verbal behaviors are relatively easy to improve!
   
   If you want more in-depth information about this topic, including exercises for improving, check out The Conversation Code. I know what you're going through, and I know exactly how to improve.

I second this. Best new book out there. It should added to the resources on this subreddit. [Here's the amazon page for it] (https://www.amazon.com/Conversation-Code-Upgrade-Social-Skills/dp/0989890406/ref=sr_1_2?ie=UTF8&qid=1469091583&sr=8-2&keywords=the+conversation+code)

> I second this book. It's amazing. The Conversation Code by Gregory Peart. More than 1000+ real life actionable examples. It is one of my favorite if not the top social skills book I have. There was nothing like it out on the market so he decided to write this book himself.

> https://www.amazon.com/Conversation-Code-Upgrade-Social-Skills/dp/0989890406/ref=sr_1_2?ie=UTF8&qid=1469425009&sr=8-2&keywords=conversation+code