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u/SoN-acct · 2 pointsr/raisedbynarcissists

I was doing some research yesterday and found this article

Going to check out the book they mentioned. [The Disease to Please] ( )

u/Vintner42 · 2 pointsr/Advice

No problem! You are right, the book is more geared toward men, but it is still a good book for women to read. I believe you will still get some value out of it. Another book I have heard of, but haven't read yet, is "The disease to please". It is written by a psychologist who was noticing the people pleasing syndrome in both men and women. It may be a good resource for you as well.

Regardless, what I have learned is it is a process and not just a quick and easy fix. You have taken the first step by identifying what your feelings are and how you would like to correct them. I wish you luck on your journey!

u/procell · 1 pointr/Anxiety

I Just started reading the "The Disease to Please"

and it sounds a lot of what you're feeling. (i'm only 2 chapters in)

u/sandra_nz · 1 pointr/Advice

Congratulations on the great progress you've made so far. My husband has struggled with similar problems and I know it isn't easy.

My husband got a lot of benefit from a book called The Disease to Please: Curing the People-Pleasing Syndrome.

You might think at first glance that it's not the book for you, you might not even consider yourself to be a "people-pleaser", but a lot of people who have been bullied do become people-pleasers as a way of 'keeping the peace' or trying to prevent any unpleasantness from occurring/escalating. But you need to learn how to cope with unpleasant situations, and to learn that they don't have to ruin your whole day. The book has some really good tips for this.

And, it sounds so cliche, but it will get much better with time and practice.

The other thing to do is to become more observant of how others behave. Try to do your own mini-analysis, e.g. What did that guy do when he completely stuffed up and let the other side win? He laughed, said sorry to his team mates, and congratulated the other side. I probably would have been mortified and want to leave straight away, but he was able to laugh it off. I should try that next time.