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u/hammiesink · 6 pointsr/AskReddit

If your mother has BPD, I'm very sorry for everything you have undoubtedly been through. This is one of those disorders that makes even the most experienced, educated and competent of shrinks absolutely dread the career they've chosen, so don't feel bad that you've been unable to manage. The way I've coped is to learn as much about the disorder as I can. It helps me feel less responsible for all of her madness (which is what the BPD mother instills in her children from birth). It has also helped me forgive her, understanding that she didn't choose to have this disorder and can't ever escape from it the way that we can. Some really good books that I've found to be very helpful in terms of learning about this disorder and how to cope with this are:

http://www.amazon.com/Essential-Family-Borderline-Personality-Disorder/dp/1592853633/ref=sr_1_4?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1280355017&sr=1-4

http://www.amazon.com/Understanding-Borderline-Mother-Unpredictable-Relationship/dp/0765703319/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1280355076&sr=1-1

Therapy has also been invaluably helpful. Best of luck to you, from one BPD kid to another.

u/staceyhh · 6 pointsr/exjw

JW bullshit aside, I'd like to recommend that you read this book: The Family Essential Guide to Borderline Personality Disorder. I'm not saying they are, or aren't, but I think there's a lot in there you might find useful. Holy f*ck.

u/saythereshope · 2 pointsr/BPDlovedones

I would start by asking your child's therapist to point you towards resources that they recommend.

Borderline Personality Disorder in Adolescents is a good read, as is The Essential Family Guide.

I'd sign up for bpdfamily.com boards and ask for advice from the son or daughter board.

I'd also look into your local NAMI chapter and see if they have a monthly support group for family members.

u/way2manycooks · 1 pointr/BPDlovedones

There are two books I highly recommend you (and your parents) read:

  1. Stop Walking on Eggshells, by Randi Kreger
  2. Loving Someone with Borderline Personality Disorder, by Shari Manning

    I haven't read Randi Kreger's book The Essential Family Guide to BPD, but I imagine this might even be more appropriate for you/your family given this is your sister. Randi is one of the leading authorities on the subject.

    Good luck, I'm sorry to read that you and your family are going through such a rough time.
u/Rain12913 · 1 pointr/BPD

Nobody should make diagnoses over the internet, but, based on what you've said about her here, it's my personal opinion that your sister most likely has BPD.

To answer your question: there is a very high correlation between BPD and drug/alcohol abuse (just as there is between bipolar and drug/alcohol abuse). People with these disorders often turn to substances in order to numb the emotional pain that they're feeling when they're unable to use healthier coping mechanisms. Of course, the mental illness and the drug abuse combined make each respective problem even more problematic, so it's a particularly difficult cycle. It sounds like your sister would benefit from some dual-diagnosis-oriented treatment, but I'd say that the therapeutic work regarding her personality is the first priority here.

As far as how you should conduct yourself around her: this is a very complicated issue. I would personally recommend that you get your own therapist; even though they may not have specific experience in working with family members of those who have BPD, they should be able to help you deal with some of the difficulties that have arisen in your life because of your relationship with your sister. Also, I'd suggest getting some books about this topic, here are some good ones:

The Essential Family Guide to Borderline Personality Disorder: New Tools and Techniques to Stop Walking on Eggshells

I Hate You--Don't Leave Me: Understanding the Borderline Personality

I'd recommend the first one for starters, and the second is good also.