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u/johnslegers · 9 pointsr/mbti

My late best friend was an INFP male.

In my experience (and also that of A.J. Drenth), INFP males are pretty similar to INTP males, because their Te is pretty more developed / mature than that of an INFP female. However, compared to INTPs, they do tend to be a lot more prone to what I call "manic episodes", which is when they have some feeling that is so strong they need to follow it and they pretty much lose all capacity for reason.

Compared with INTPs, INFPs also have very little impulse control and tend to be more prone to psychotic behavior. My best friend had been to prison on charges of "terrorism", he'd been to a mental institution once or twice because of psychotic episodes and he'd been in rehab for amphetamine addiction. Eventually, he died in a car crash because he's taken too many pain killers to alleviate his back pain, which he got from excessive weightlifting.

I'm not sure if I know any INFP females (maybe one of my INFP friend's ex-wives?), but my current best friend is an INTJ, and the love of his life was an INFP female. He told me this is a good example of an INFP female. He also told me that the love of his live had to go to a mental institution multiple times and had problems with drug addition, just like my male INFP friend.

So when I think of INFP people of either gender, I tend to think of people who are constantly flirting with the border between sanity and insanity, and who are very prone to addiction and impulsive behavior. However, I also think of people who live life to the fullest and who are 100% their own eccentric selves. I think of people who are both very intense and very pure, which IMO makes them very likable in spite (or maybe because?) of all the craziness and impulsivity. As an INTP, I most definitely love to get dragged along by an INFP when he/she is exploring the world.

If I'm to consider Björk as a good example of INFP females, they do come off as a lot more "floaty" / "dreamy" than male INFPs, which makes sense, I suppose, considering they have a less developed Te than male INFPs, and - like male INFPs - they have Fi as their primary function. Eric Thor refers to INFPs as the "fairy empath" type, and, based on the references that I've got, that description definitely fits, especially for females.

u/careynotcarrie · 3 pointsr/INTP

If the ebook you're referring to is INTP by A.J. Drenth, I highly recommend that one. It's extensive and well-written, and I sense a lot of personal understanding behind the content given the Drenth himself is an INTP.

u/igrewold · 3 pointsr/INTP

Get him this book:
https://www.amazon.com/INTP-Personality-Careers-Relationships-Meaning-ebook/dp/B00H7NWLJ6
And ask him to do a research for you on these:

  1. Grit (Duckworth)
    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TF4fUK5KQ0o
    &
  2. Flow (Csikszentmihalyi)
    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TzPky5Xe1-s
    Tell him you are having a hard time understanding both of them and he must help you out.
    Regards
u/arsena1 · 3 pointsr/mbti
u/earthwrldshaman · 2 pointsr/INTP

Read this book and you will get a great introduction to a) MBTI as a system and b) how our minds work and its relationship to behavior patterns/preferences.

u/BoldnessReigns · 2 pointsr/INTP

I don't like planning, because planning is decision making, and decision making is limiting your options.

You're right about meeting any demand with an automatic refusal, but there is a huge difference between a demand and a suggestion, this is what I was referring to originally as planning vs controlling.

Imagine I'm going to come up with cool ideas of fun things for you and me to do and ask you if you want to do them, does that sound bad? That's what I would consider planning for someone else.

Your Taco Bell example isn't really about making plans, its about breaking plans. An INTP would be very unhappy to change a plan that's already been decided precisely because we don't like planning. It takes so much thinking to finally come to a decision that once something is decided it is decided. If I've already been through all that to decide on Taco Bell I don't want to go back to the drawing board and start thinking about a new option, this is me avoiding going back to planning.

As for the food-related boundaries, I'm surprised to hear that is an INTP thing, and don't really understand why it would be. However, I'm afraid of new restaurants for exactly the reasons you describe. That said, I've learned to face that fear and be willing to try new restaurants more, and I definitely recommend working through that issue as it is very socially limiting.

But going back to planning vs controlling, its not 'carte blanche permission' unless its controlling. I wouldn't want someone deciding on things I didn't have a say in at all, but I would rather have someone else come up with the options, so long as I still have the ability to say no if I want. If I try to pick a restaurant myself, I'll open up yelp and see 1000 options, and think about the pros and cons of each one and alternately decide why each one can't work or is good and never really come to a decision. If I really have to pick I'll probably just end up picking the same place I've been to a million times because I can't convince myself a new option is the right one and I'll be kind of unhappy with that decision because its boring. This is not fun for me, a bunch of indecisiveness followed by doing the same thing I'd always do. If someone else has basically picked one or a few options it makes it much easier to convince myself that's a good idea and I'll actually try something new and be much happier.

As for me being INTP vs INTJ, I'm pretty sure. I've done a lot of reading on it and this book and this description describe me extremely accurately.

u/seriouslyslowloris · 1 pointr/INTP

This is a pretty good book specifically for INTPs who wan to work on personal development. I'm not 100% done with it, but it is definitely worth reading.

u/beholder2014 · 1 pointr/INTP

Yeah. I discovered the INTP book a couple of days ago: http://www.amazon.com/INTP-Personality-Careers-Relationships-Meaning-ebook/dp/B00H7NWLJ6

It shocked me right out of my "Unique Little Snowflake" self-expectations. Down to "After a lot of thoughts, INTP usually become popularizers" - which I did. Oops, there go all my internal struggles, just to end up where the book predicts.

So, don't read the book if you have a sense of self. On the other hand, maybe do read it. It may help as it also talks about the dark sides of INTPs.