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u/JP_AMA · 235 pointsr/MensLib

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u/crashitgood · 191 pointsr/LifeProTips

If you have problems throwing something away you don't need anymore, read The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up. I can't recommend this book enough.

u/abclife · 35 pointsr/FIREyFemmes

For me, it's a bit cheesey but after reading the Life Changing Magic of Tidying Up by Marie Kondo, I truly felt that my life was changed. In total, I have tidied up my place twice, the first time only my clothes and the 2nd time, doing my entire apartment. Each time, I've felt a perspective change after. The biggest thing beyond tidying your house was how that book forces to confront your past decisions and change the way you make new ones. I try to do things that "spark joy" for me and this goes beyond shopping or spending money. Speaking of shopping, after you tidy, you are much more careful about buying new things, how you're spending your money and what you're bringing home. Once I finished my tidying festival, as Marie calls it, I was able to shift my focus on to more important things like FIRE and doing thigns in my life that sparked joy.

u/Haoleopteryx · 28 pointsr/malefashionadvice

Yesterday I ended up un the negatives for saying fedoras are bad.

Come on MFA, we're crossing into self-parody territory here.

Also reading The Life Changing Magic of Tidying Up and purging things big time. I've always been drawn toward minimalism but actually getting there is surprisingly emotional. I'm way down in numbers clothing so far and my closet has gone from rows and rows of stuff to like five coathangers.

u/girls_withguns · 22 pointsr/offmychest

There are TONS of people who struggle with it. It's disappointing that she wasn't more understanding. I HIGHLY recommend, as a very first and cost effective step, reading Marie Kondo's book . It discusses the psychology and importance of a clean and tidy space. Her Netflix series is really great, but doesn't conquer the same issues as her book.

This book discusses the importance of a clean sink and the impact it has on everything else in your space! Good luck!!

u/return2ozma · 17 pointsr/LifeProTips

The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up: The Japanese Art of Decluttering and Organizing

u/mike413 · 12 pointsr/declutter

Do people really identify with it though? I watched an episode where a lady had a cabbage where the outside was rotten but the inside was still "just fine". They were way beyond normal decluttering and into mental illness.

I think the japanese book on tidying is a lot more motivating.

u/BGumbel · 12 pointsr/Weakpots

My gf got me that book about tiding up. I'm excited to get our house clean and in order.

u/OniiChan_ · 12 pointsr/subredditoftheday

The single best book (or audiobook) I recommend every beginner about minimalism is "Goodbye, Things". The writing is simple and direct. It's full of interesting insights and advice.

After that, read "The Life-Changing Manga of Tidying Up" by Marie Kondo. Why not the main book? Because the manga (comic book) is easier and more entertaining to digest and goes over her main ideas just fine. While Marie Kondo isn't a minimalist, her methods complement it immensely.

And for the love of God, avoid "The Minimalists" or anything by them. Absolutely preachy, pretentious, surface level garbage.

u/LoveSalmonDinners · 11 pointsr/declutter

Check out this book The Life Changing Magic of Tidying Up
Easy read. Its really helped me in my decluttering process !!

u/antilocapra · 10 pointsr/femalefashionadvice

I found the Konmari method in The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up to be very helpful. It was therapeutic to accept that it's okay to get rid of things that don't make you feel good (or "spark joy") when you wear them.

I had several dresses that were basically new, with the tags still on, but didn't fit quite right... I was holding onto them with a sense of optimistic potential (maybe someday I'll get them altered, maybe after I lose some weight they will work, it seems like such a waste to get rid of them). After I Konmari-ed my closet it felt like a weight was off my shoulders and I could actually see the clothes I wanted to wear!

For old clothes -- I had been keeping a lot of old shirts that used to look great, so I had almost sentimental attachments to them, but I hadn't worn them in years. The Konmari perspective is that if they felt good and worked well in the past, then they have done their job. It's okay to let them go if you don't enjoy wearing them anymore.

u/jgi · 10 pointsr/simpleliving

Absolutely. I'm glad you asked and I hope I can be helpful.

I know it can be very difficult to stop consumerism within us because we've been advertised to our entire lives. We've been told that material possession equates to success and self-worth. The more we have, the better we are. You and I can read these sentences I wrote and recognize how stupid that idea is. Yet, advertising is so good that even the knowledge that we're being advertised to doesn't always prevent that same advertising from working on us. Advertising is based on exploiting human psychology. That's why it works. Just know that it's very difficult to ignore advertising on a subconscious level. We're only human. We will fail. We will make mistakes. Recognizing all this is a good first step.

It's important to practice desiring less. When you want something, stop yourself and think about it. Think about your motivations. Why do you want it? Is there a real justification for acquiring something? Is it a true need, or just a want? If it's simply a want, well, tell yourself you want it but you don't need it and move on. Try to thwart the desire for that thing at the source. Desire for a thing is like sexual lust... it's only human to feel that way, but you don't need to act on it.

It's a constant practice, desiring less. It's difficult. Possibly the most difficult thing a human can do. But desire leads to disappointment and suffering. Desire is temporary, but if we play that desire out to its end, often times the fruits of that desire can be disappointing and longlasting. But if you don't need something, if you don't desire, you're that much more free... "Nah, I don't need that." You become unflappable. More in control. But don't kid yourself... it's hard. Keep practicing.

If you're looking to get rid of stuff you already have that isn't bringing you happiness, I recommend Marie Kondo's "The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up." It's become quite a popular book and for good reason. It really makes you think about why you have stuff and how that stuff functions in your life.

If you want to work on internalizing the idea of desiring less, take a look at /r/buddhism. It's important that if you start reading Buddhist texts that you realize that Buddhism is more of a philosophy than a religion. Buddhism's main tenant is "freedom from desire is the path to enlightenment." It's a very deep rabbit hole to go down and a lifetime of study. For a more modern take on Buddhist teaching, I love Pema Chodron. I also really love Anthony DeMello and Jiddu Krishnamurti.

Another great place to look is /r/stoicism and in particular "Meditations" by Marcus Aurelius. Aurelius was emperor of Rome, but that didn't stop him from living a life of equanimity and mindfulness. His book "Meditations" is more like a private diary, in which he reminds himself on how to live a good life.

“We need to master the art of acquiescence. We need to pay attention to our impulses, making sure they don’t go unmoderated, that they benefit others, that they’re worthy of us. We need to steer clear of desire in any form and not try to avoid what’s beyond our control.” -- Meditations, 11.37 (Hays translation)

I hope that this stuff can get you started on your journey. Just know that you don't need to be perfect. You don't need to flip a switch and completely change who you are to be a success at any of this. It's a process and it's a practice. Failure is okay. Don't beat yourself. Just try. Just keep practicing this stuff every day and it will add up. You can do it.

u/monochromicorn · 9 pointsr/DecidingToBeBetter

Use the KonMari method! I didn't realize until I read this book what 'organized' actually meant: Link

u/piconet-2 · 9 pointsr/minimalism

I know right?! I've been reading Kondo Marie's "The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up" and it's been helping me with the decluttering and putting away. And thank you, I fixed the links:

u/puppy_and_puppy · 9 pointsr/MensLib

If books/audiobooks are up your alley, Marie Kondo's book The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up was good shit.

From her Wikipedia page:

>Kondo's method of organizing is known as the KonMari method, and consists of gathering together all of one's belongings, one category at a time, and then keeping only those things that "spark joy" (tokimeku, the word in Japanese, means "flutter, throb, palpitate"), and choosing a place for everything from then on.

My family could be on Hoarders, so it hit real close to home.

u/TheOnlyCaveat · 9 pointsr/vegan

>I'm attempting to live a more minimalist lifestyle. I feel kinda burdened with clutter, and I know there are so many others that feel the same way, and want to start getting rid or donating some of it.

Ugh, I feel you! I HIGHLY recommend the book The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up. It is a short book (also available on audiobook) and it will change your life. Seriously. My home is soooooo much nicer now, even with two kids with tons of toys, our little house doesn't feel like there's too much stuff.

Thanks again for taking the time to do this, /u/VeganMinecraft!

u/CompleteWave · 8 pointsr/minimalism

Think of your goals with minimalism. What does your ideal life look like once you’ve minimized? You want to focus on relationships and that’s a worthwhile and common reason, but I’d encourage you to get more specific, and also to consider the practical reasons as they pertain to your health and lifestyle.

To give you a personal example, I focused on three things: saving money and curbing the need to ‘buy, buy, buy’, being mobile and able to travel while taking the important things with me, and to stay organized.

I work weird hours and I need to move frequently for my job, I didn’t want the hassle of moving a bunch of stuff I didn’t really need - you know, the just in case things and the never been used things. Because I’m usually sleep deprived I get scatter brained, so not having a manageable amount of items means I can’t lose them. Instead of duplicates which I’d end up misplacing I just have one of (almost) everything, and if it’s not on me it’s in its ‘home’. No more frantically running around and leaving for work I’m the morning having already lost my patience because I couldn’t find my eye drops.

I have some free time so I’ll just write you a long story:

It’s taken me years, but the catalyst was that when I first moved out I lived with a roommate who wasn’t very clean and we developed a pest problem and lice - I know that lice are not caused by hygiene, but her disorganization and disregard meant she didn’t address the problem in an effective or timely manner. I moved out abruptly to a generous friend’s place. I had a large wardrobe I’d accumulated over adolescence and most of it was hang to dry/hand wash, I sanitized anything that was dryer friendly and I put the rest in garbage bags for 2 weeks. I retrieved a single hoodie 15 days later and guess what? I re-infested myself.

I have GAD so I was at my wit’s end, I put all of my clothes in the dryer and a lot of them shrunk or started falling apart. I’d been housesitting prior to my first official move so technically I’d moved three times over the course of 5 months. I couldn’t find any of my things, I never had time to unbox everything or put it away, and I realized that my copious amount of stuff was impeding my ability to enjoy or adjust to my new space. The possessions I hauled with me were actually preventing me from feeling at home!

So I began a long process of discarding old items, by giving them away or donating them whenever possible. I also lost weight, so my remaining clothes were no longer very functional. At first I bought a lot of new things but ended up donating them again pretty often, and I started asking myself these questions repeatedly: with the things I have now, how stressful would it be if I had to move again? Why am I continuing to bring new things into the house and why do I feel compelled to shop?

I realized that having lots of clothes that only served one purpose (formal, casual, winter) wasn’t compatible with my lifestyle. Because I travel so much, I need everything to be versatile and easily washed. I realized I was buying a lot of ‘aspirational’ items, things I was anticipating I would use or bought with the intention of changing my style in some way, but I didn’t have a clear direction.

When I purchase something now i think about whether I really need it or if I have something else that serves the purpose, that I’m forgetting about. I don’t ‘go shopping’, I buy items when I’ve clearly established a need for them, and I consider what I’ll wear it with, where I’ll wear it, how I need to care for it, and ultimately the room it takes up in a suitcase. I research before I buy. Every time I go to a store I know why I’m there before I enter. I might see a new version of something and think, “I’d like that, but it’s not urgent. The one I have right now is good enough, but if/when the time comes I’ll upgrade to this.” Because I choose my things carefully I’m always satisfied and don’t really feel temptation. Impulse buys never happen unless it’s a gift.

I’ve noticed I’ve become much more resourceful, this is a minor example but a few days ago I went to use a tote bag a friend had given me, and it’s got a clear window on one side that I wanted to cover. I took a scarf I had and tied it to both handles, and secured it with a hair clip so it’s covering the window. It sounds trivial but a solution like that probably wouldn’t have occurred to me before, I would just think ‘I’ll get another tote bag’. Now I can use my free one and it looks really cute.

Instead of trying to impress others I impress myself by solving problems effectively, when I decide not to buy something because I spot a pitfall I give myself an inner high five - I’ve totally changed the way I see my things and where I get my excitement from, but that mental change has taken almost three years. After the whole lice/weight loss fiasco I got to a point where I had less than a dozen items and almost all of them were from the men’s section of value village (I’m female). I’ve literally rebuilt from the ground up.

Financially I have found freedom because I own everything I need to own, I only need to spend money on things when I need to replace or mend something, so hardly ever. I’m able to live comfortably with very few items because I don’t need a large wardrobe right now, and if my work setting changes I have the money to invest in new pieces - no need to worry about ‘just in case’. Instead I can take time off of work and contribute to baby showers, I sent my mother and grandmother a gift for Mother’s Day as it’s the first time I’ve been out of my home province this time of year. I know those things aren’t unusual but I have a good fund to draw from to do so.

My goal when I finally started rebuilding my wardrobe and overall collection of life tools was to reach a point where I had everything I needed, as I stated above, and only needed to maintain. That’s what I tell people if it ever comes up and it’s the honest answer, it’s also easy to understand and relate to.

I still like to have nice things, but instead of something just being trendy, I have items that are useful, aesthetically appealing, and over time they gain a sentimental aspect that I rarely ever developed before - when you use things often and have them for over a year you get that ‘favorite sweater’ feeling, only there’s just one sweater so it’s your favorite by default 😉I think it is important to value the things you have, you just have to value them for what they give/do for you, not because you think other people will value them.

This lifestyle/way of thought has been great fir me and my stress level. Just knowing where everything is has been a weight lifted. Not only do i not lose my keys, I know where my clothes are - drawer, laundry, on my body. I just have my shit together.

Hopefully reading this will be helpful.


u/seven_types · 8 pointsr/RedPillWomen

This isn't quite a tip for daily housekeeping as much as it is a strategy for overall tidiness long-term, but I'm reading The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up on my Kindle right now and I just did the first stage of decluttering my clothes - and it's already made a great difference in how easy it is to stay organized and clean! I haven't finished it yet, but another good part about it is that it emphasizes gratitude for the objects in your daily life and it's helping me practice being more appreciative of everything. :)

u/zacharydanger · 8 pointsr/declutter

This book. Seriously.

u/calenlass · 8 pointsr/ABraThatFits

I also feel this way about gift cards, but my opinion has shifted a little since I did the KonMari purge a couple of years ago. I'm much pickier about what I bring into my house now (with bras being no exception), and when I choose a particular brand of makeup or model of toaster oven or type of laundry detergent, only to be given something "similar" by my sister at Christmas, I very much appreciate the thought, but now am left with something I won't use and have to figure out how to get rid of AND am still without what I actually wanted. In that case, I'd rather have a generic gift card, but then I'm faced with the same opinion I've always had. The trick is to avoid making the gift card the object of the gift.

My husband and my mom understand the pickiness (he because he lives with me, she because she did the purge too), and if they gave me a gift card and said "let's go bra shopping", I would understand their intent, that they knew how complicated it was, and that it would be about going together. Spending the day shopping with them becomes the gift, with the gift card just a vehicle.

My husband has successfully surprised me with a bra once (and not just bedroom lingerie, that's a different topic), and it was another color of a bra I already owned in the same size. Since you know about the Aerie Sunnie bra and her size, I think that will work out wonderfully! However, I do think u/branita's idea is something you should hold onto for the future. I think it's perfect for this sort of thing, because the gift card isn't the gift, the experience is. It's still plenty romantic and shows how much thought and effort you put into the plan, and becomes about you doing something together, with a nice bra as a side bonus.

u/CuntJuggler · 7 pointsr/minimalism

This is really good advice-- helps a LOT to spend the time in advance to find furniture that fits exactly.

If you have the time, read this:

Will really to reduce the trauma of throwing stuff out

u/di0spyr0s · 6 pointsr/getdisciplined

If you struggle with stuff I highly recommend Marie kondo's book, the life changing magic of tidying up

Otherwise! Keep it up! Your space will feel sooo much better afterwards!

u/LBluth21 · 6 pointsr/BabyBumps

As a lifelong mild hoarder myself, this book was kind of life changing. It really helped change my outlook on "stuff" and using her method of decluttering worked way better than all the other tips I'd tried. The basic principle is that you keep only stuff that you actually take pleasure in owning and get rid of the rest. You tackle things in categories instead of room by room. So for an example we gathered up every single piece of rain gear we owned. Instead of hanging onto every random umbrella we would stumble across, when we saw everything together we got rid of the 4 crappy umbrellas we never wanted to use and kept the 1 large and 1 compact umbrella that work very well. She also has a lot of tips on dealing with the psychology of letting go of your stuff (saying goodbye to it, recognizing that you're letting go of the object, not the person/memory associated with it). It's really quite amazing.

But be warned, it is quite an undertaking once you get going. You need to dedicate real time to accomplishing her categories. And go in the order in the book! So start with clothes and easy stuff and keep the video games and anime for the last category (which is stuff that involves more emotions) for when you're more on a roll.

u/johninfante · 6 pointsr/productivity

If you want to hire someone, you probably want a life coach. If you're looking for someone who will help you on many of these angles, that would be a life coach. Someone with a more detached, professional view of your life who can provide motivation, a sounding board, accountability, etc.

Now, seeing as you are broke AF, I'm not sure if a life coach is affordable. So if you want to DIY this, I have a couple of suggestions.

  • I think the Life Changing Magic of Tidying Up might be a good recommendation to catch up on housework and get your physical spaces organized.
  • For your broke AF-ness, try You Need A Budget (YNAB). Students get one year free.
  • For all your other professional and personal goals, I would recommend a combination of Getting Things Done and Getting Results the Agile Way.

    The value for you in Getting Things Done (GTD) is the initial collection, processing and organization phase, along with the workflow habits it can build. That initial process of gathering up all this stuff that has accumulated in your life over the past year you've been unable to work and deciding what you're going to do with it should be helpful in getting you moving forward again.

    But where GTD kind of falls down in my opinion is in deciding what you are going to do and providing structure in how your organize your tasks. And I think both of those are provided much better in Agile Results. That system has a much more intentional process of laying out a vision for your year, month, week, and day that makes working through all your goals and the accumulated backlog easier.
u/Burrito_Capital · 5 pointsr/onebag

Not a pilot, but will still be looking at your blog for the writing. Your review of the levels of learning was excellent too!

Keep on doing what you do, thanks!

Edit: Buy your GF this book to help her along her journey toward minimalisim.

u/achanaikia · 5 pointsr/hometheater

Check out this book. It's amazing. :)

u/acb94 · 5 pointsr/DesiTwoX

I feel like the best type of organization is easy and intuitive.


  • if you always take your earrings off and put them on your bed stand instead of in your jewelry box, put a jewelry tray on your bedstand.

  • If you always organize your junk drawer but it's a mess two days later, use [organizational buckets](,!pgE-v3LzGuGBQBFgV(ebw~~/s-l300.jpg) instead of trying to keep things lined up on their own. That way you can still toss your stuff in the buckets (i.e. be messy), but in an organized way, if that makes sense.

  • if you always search for things like scissors, tape, etc. in one place but keep them somewhere else, consider moving those items to the first place you look (intuitive) - makes it so much easier to find.

  • personal example: finding batteries in my house was always an annoying process of checking every single junk drawer. Now we have a battery box where we store every type of battery. Whenever we need one, we know exactly where to look. Whenever we buy new ones, we know exactly where to store them.

    In the past I've tried being extremely specific and keeping things meticulously organized/lined up - only to have it become a mess two days later.

    I think it's easier if you lean into your messy habits - and use them as a guide to develop ways to stay organized.

    Also, for tossing clothes you could try two things:

  1. the hanger method. Hang all your clothes backwards in your closet. After wearing something once, hang it forwards. At the end of the season/year, whichever clothes are still hanging backwards should be donated.

  2. from the book, the life changing magic of tidying up, konmari (like you mentioned!): Ask yourself if an item brings you joy. If your immediate answer is yes - keep it! If you have to think about it, consider getting rid of it. An old sweater your mom gave you might bring you joy, even if you don't wear it anymore - keep it! A new pair of jeans you bought a year ago but don't like to wear may not bring you joy - toss it! Also practical items can bring you joy too! Paper towels can bring you joy in cleaning up a mess. Dishwasher soap can bring you joy in getting your dishes clean faster. An old apple slicer - while practical - may not bring you joy because you never use it, and it's getting kind of rusted on the sides. Follow your joy! :)
u/Devilled_Advocate · 5 pointsr/malementalhealth

Oh man, here's the book for you.

Basically it's about assessing your belongings and surrounding yourself with only things that make you happy.

u/wishywashywasfulness · 5 pointsr/ENFP

I just got this book, which mostly emphasizes dramatically de-cluttering your life and only keeping things you really love/need. Less stuff means less stuff to clean!

I've done it so far with my clothes and it's been HUGE. Every day I look at my new, tiny little wardrobe full of only things I love and want to wear and I feel so much peace. It's easier for me to do the little chores associated of hanging my clothes too because I'm invested in that space and how nice it feels to have it "right". It's also not nearly as overwhelming because there's so little to organize.

u/Mellenoire · 5 pointsr/loseit

I've really enjoyed "The Joy of Less" and "The life-changing magic of tidying up". I find that when I have less clutter IRL, my mind feels less cluttered and it's easier to stay focused on my goals.

u/SARASA05 · 5 pointsr/HomeImprovement
u/ckk524 · 4 pointsr/minimalism

This is very common, but I found Marie Kondo's book to be very helpful. I appreciate the joy that the item gave me, and the special times etc, but I don't physically need to hang onto it.

u/LadyMizura · 4 pointsr/femalefashionadvice

It's this awesome practice outlined in this book by Marie Kondo. Honestly it's an organizing / tidying up book but it's so spiritual for me! Once you start you can't stop and I promise it works if you do it her way. I love it!

u/mzel · 4 pointsr/moderatelygranolamoms

I recently read Marie Kondo's book The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up: The Japanese Art of Decluttering and Organizing and I'm in love. The message, in short, is to keep only things that you truly love, and discard everything else.

There's a lot more to it, but that is the jist. I'd say read the book, get inspired, purge the towels, and then everything else. I was so inspired reading it I couldn't wait to start cleaning :)

u/NlTROUS · 4 pointsr/declutter

An article that summarizes the book pretty well. You can read the novel if you want some motivation to start cleaning.

Tips: Start with the clothes, and in an order from clothes->novels->paperwork->accessories.

The order of the clothes:

Tops (Shirts, sweaters)/
Bottom (Pants, Skirts)/
Hangable stuff(Jacket, suit, coat)/
Accessories(Scarf, Belt, Hat)/

US Amazon:

UK Amazon:

u/RadioPixie · 3 pointsr/konmari

Konmari is a nickname for Marie Kondo, author of The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up -- here's a link to purchase the book on Amazon (or check your local library!). She has a second book called Spark Joy but you're meant to read TLCMOTU first because you need to reduce the amount of things you have before deciding how to store and organize it (which is what the second book covers).

u/the_other_tent · 3 pointsr/InfertilityBabies

Ok, go to Ikea and buy a Pax . The Pax unit is expensive, but damn can it hold a lot of crap. If that absolutely won’t fit, buy the Bully bookshelves that go to the ceiling. You can get either professionally installed, including assembly and earthquake. Yeah, it’s more money out of your pocket, and technically you can find cheaper solutions, but the joy of having an organized house, especially with a baby about to arrive, is worth it.

Edit: oh yeah. Get rid of the books if you can. I love the book The Lifesaving Magic of Tidying Up by Marie Kondo. Changed my relationship to my stuff, and I’m so much happier now with less clutter.

u/hazel_basil · 3 pointsr/LifeProTips

I just read this book: The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up: The Japanese Art of Decluttering and Organizing. I highly recommend it. It's very Japanese and she's pretty intense, but her basic premise is that we who are cluttered remain that way because we're focused on what to get rid of instead of what to keep. She talks about the emotions surrounding the "I might need it someday" problem and how to work with the sentimental value of items. The key, for her, is understanding the relationship you have with your stuff in order to permanently declutter.

I was completely inspired by her, and I'm starting her method myself this weekend. It's a short book and an easy (and extremely compelling) read. If you do read it, I'd love to hear what you think.

u/tobitobiguacamole · 3 pointsr/financialindependence

If you enjoyed the decluttering process, I'd highly recommend the Kon Mari method (

It's all about getting rid of the things that don't actually bring you joy anymore. I did it last year and got rid of about half of my things, and I'm really happy with the results. I got to say goodbye to 90% of the random papers I had been saving, more than half my clothing, and a bunch of other random stuff. Now, for the most part, the things I own are things I really like.

There is an emotional weight to clutter and having things you don't want/care about around you that you don't realize until you remove them from your home.

u/elizadaring · 3 pointsr/IWantToLearn

totally agree with u/b0wtiebill

Only keep the things that spark joy. If you have access, I highly recommend watching the Marie Kondo episodes on Netflix (she also has a book!). It will really help to understand first that you're not alone in being sentimental with your stuff (me too!) and second, you might not be as bad as you think.

You can do it!

u/iamanatta · 3 pointsr/minimalism

Minimalist philosophy is vague, so here are some books that cover a few areas. No one agrees on what the philosophy means so some will take issue with each of these I'm sure.

Contemporary Minimalism: Goodbye, Things

Getting Rid of Stuff: The Life Changing Magic of Tidying Up

Traditional (somewhat related): Walden

Design (again, not perfect match, but similar): Wabi-Sabi

Do it yourself guide: Clear one area (desk, countertop, bed side table) then enjoy the emptiness. That'll give you enough of a taste to explore more.

edit: typos

u/marijuanaperson · 3 pointsr/Mariners
u/mycatisachicken · 3 pointsr/minimalism

I recommend Marie Kondo's book:

Read and see if her philosophy resonates with you.

Pick up each item you own. If it doesn't give you joy, trash it.

It's been very helpful for me in de cluttering. I focusing on owning things I love that also have purpose.

u/Caplooey · 3 pointsr/ADHD

for learning/cognitive related i recommend checking out:
Thinking, Fast and Slow by Daniel Kahneman,

Peak: Secrets from the New Science of Expertise by Anders Ericsson

and the various Cal Newport books (he also has a blog),

Thomas Frank from College Info Geek is also cool.

i personally prefer actionable coaching over talk therapy as it helps me get shit done rather than sit around and introspect which i already do enough of.

there is a /r/Stoicism

The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up: The Japanese Art of Decluttering and Organizing by Marie Kondo, check it out

Brene Brown for self compassion, talks on Youtube, you could check out.

The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck: A Counterintuitive Approach to Living a Good Life by Mark Manson is another good one.

u/stepmomstermash · 3 pointsr/stepparents

It's all about decluttering and living a minimalist lifestyle. Everything has a home and therefore gets out away each time. When you are finished with an item, such as clothes that are too small or outdated, you thank them for their service/for bringing you joy and then you let them go (trash or donation). To start with you go through all your belongings via categories. It takes a while to do but I loved it. We cleared out 3 huge bookshelves of stuff and are actually fairly well organized.

Here's the book off Amazon

u/cutoffroots · 3 pointsr/AskWomen

I read The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up and it was awesome for getting my living space in order despite having been written by someone I'd consider insane. The best advice I got from her was 1. to not have tolerance for ambiguous possessions (i.e. stuff you know you won't use and just leave there to take up space for no reason). I purged everything I wouldn't ACTUALLY use and donated it or gifted it. That was great for cutting down immediately on clutter and mess. 2. I assigned a proper place to each possession I had left after the purge. 3. I listened to her tips on efficient storage, so everything fit really well which was just incredibly satisfying to see.

So she recommends making the first tidying up a big event - like you take a whole day and go through everything and get your space just how you want it. Then, you have a goal to aspire to in the future for tidying up - and you'll love your tidy organized space so much you'll want to keep it that way. Now I just clean once a week. It's easy since I know where everything goes now and have a mental sorting strategy with clear rules of what I keep and how.

u/Shortsonfire79 · 3 pointsr/malelivingspace

For OP: There's this book the Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up by Marie Kondo. It basically tells the reader to purge. The method is what helped me, though.

She writes that you should categorize your stuff in such a way that you purge things with low sentimental value first ending with things like pictures, handmedowns, etc. The thought process here is that you purge old clothes, unused appliances, movies, etc first so that you get in the groove of getting rid of stuff. By time you get to old pictures and memories, you have a general idea of how things go and don't dwell on stuff that you might look at two years from now.

I think the book was worth a read. I read it between moves and it helped me get rid of a ton of my crap. It also helped the way I fold my laundry which saved a lot of space too. TBH, I only read about the first half up to the purging section, then skimmed the rest. It got a little repetitive by then and I already had the gist of the book.

u/CrimsonCuntCloth · 3 pointsr/minimalism

Thanks for sharing your story.

As far as book recommendations go: (Marie Kondo)[] gets a lot of praise, although I haven't actually read her myself (There was an interesting episode of the Tim Ferris podcast featuring her that was some good listening, and I like the systematic approach to decluttering).

Slightly tangentially: stoic philosophy fits well with minimalism, with other related ideas about how to live. Both Seneca's Letters and Epictetus' Handbook are good introductions.

“It is not the man who has too little, but the man who craves more, that is poor. ”
― Seneca

u/tablescan · 3 pointsr/personalfinance

Furnishings aren't a purely financial decision. You also have to consider comfort and style. You may be spending a lot of time with this furniture. And you may not want your place to scream "college student" or "bachelor pad".

You can still get comfortable and stylish furniture cheaply the way everyone else is recommending. But you may want to be a little picky and maybe even pay full price for some things if you'll get that much appreciation out of it.

I'll also caution that just because you have space for something and you can get it cheap (or even free!) doesn't mean you should take it. Space has a tendency of filling itself up with stuff. You should read The Life Changing Magic of Tidying Up before you buy anything.

Also, I find the product reviews at The Sweet Home are worth considering to help cut down on the analysis paralysis of having to buy so many different things. Of course, don't overdo it and buy stuff you don't really need!

u/Colinmacus · 3 pointsr/minimalism
u/LoomaHome · 3 pointsr/DesignMyRoom

(Heads up: I think photo 18 is the unedited version of photo 7, so if there was stuff you were trying to hide...)

To be honest, the first thing you need to do is downsize your possessions. Beach themes rely on largely clean lines and open spaces, but you just have so many things currently that it's going to be hard to pull off a beach theme (or most any theme, tbh).

Spend some time to pare down on your possessions ("The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up" by Marie Kondo has helped tons of people, if you need help), then I think you can start trying to figure out decorating themes.

u/somanyjellyrolls · 3 pointsr/proED

Hey! First, the purging thing. I highly recommend getting this book! Set aside a day, read it while you're going through all your belongings, and follow her suggestions. It's SO helpful and makes the entire process streamlined and easy.

Looking for an apartment can be overwhelming, but I know you can do it :) I've had 3 different apartments in the past 4 years, and the whole process was really foreign to me at first too. I can PM you some tips and things to look out for so I don't clog up this thread haha.

As far as making friends go, I'm still struggling with that. I was lucky that my best friend decided to move with me (1000 miles from our hometown!), but I've tried to make some new friends too. I mostly "hang out" with coworkers because I don't know how to meet people either. You could try signing up for things and meeting people there? Sign up for a gym and take a free class there, or maybe try one of those Paint Nites where you drink and paint! Usually by the end people are looking at each other's paintings and chatting and having a nice time :) I hope this helps a little!

u/icecreamishere · 3 pointsr/AskWomen

I think for me the most important rule is don't have clutter - it's a lot easier to keep your surroundings clean if it's not full of unnecessary junk. I dust off surfaces, change sheets and vacuum once per week, it takes no more than 10-15 minutes, if that - it's just so easy when everything is in place. I'm not a minimalist or anything, but I just don't have more stuff than I use. I have roommates and we do have a cleaning lady that takes care of the common areas, so this is only my room, but it was the same when I lived alone - don't have unnecessary clutter, wipe down surfaces after I'm done with them and vacuum once per week. Clean or put dishes in dishwasher immediately (life happens, so I have a 24 hr turnaround rule for myself here), a sink full of dirty dishes is disgusting and gives off an immature college kid who has never lived on their own-vibe. But yeah, most importantly, don't own and let unnecessary shit occupy space in your life. You can be the tidiest person in the world, but if you have a lot of useless shit, your place will look dirty because dust will coat itself everywhere no matter how much you try to stay on top of it.

And on a mental note, your home is the space where you live, relax and fuck, not a storage unit for unnecessary junk that you don't use, right? :) Buy or borrow Marie Kondo's book where she explains the process of decluttering and how doing so will make it easier to keep your surroundings clean and organized, and how that in turn will help you (in theory) keep your shit together. Besides, I obviously can't speak for all women, but fuck it, I love guys that keep a tidy and clean space, and the opposite can easily be a dealbreaker depending on severity (like seriously - everybody poops, but seeing lots of skidmarks in the toilet bowl isn't going to make me very turned on or make me want to come back again any time soon no matter how great a guy is otherwise...)

u/shimmertree · 3 pointsr/declutter

Your library will have a copy.

u/chorizobisque · 3 pointsr/suggestmeabook

I like The Life Changing Magic of Tidying up by Marie Kondo. As an inherently messy person this book changed my life. Most self help books follow a "change your thinking change you" mentality but this book is more of a "Change you actions and environment then it changes you" perspective. I uncluttered my life and became way more responsible, pro-active, and disciplined.

u/chowchowthedog · 3 pointsr/RedditForGrownups

> Now I'm 33, and cleaning the house in absolute silence early on Saturday mornings is one of the most peaceful and zen-like experiences I get all week.

I knew someone wrote a book about this: not sure whether it is the exact book, but still

u/redpillobster · 3 pointsr/metacanada

You have really great focus, decent analytical ability and decent writing skills. If you stopped wasting your time on Reddit and put your life in order, you might actually find something more fulfilling than trolling subreddits where you don’t fit in.

I used to be a lot like you. I’m much happier now. I recommend you start where I started:

Good luck!

u/AlphaTrumpsfapping · 3 pointsr/BettermentBookClub

For the lazy

The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up: The Japanese Art of Decluttering and Organizing

u/DoUHearThePeopleSing · 3 pointsr/AskMen


Used to be far less, but I spent a month or two learning how to clean properly. What helped:

and Dyson Absolute vacuum (cordless - no cords = no irritating setup = pleasant).

I think the problem many guys have is that instead of teaching them how to clean properly their mothers and girlfriends just guilt them into cleaning.

Give me a good tools, help me prepare a good process and I'll be the one pushing you to clean!

u/uftone1 · 3 pointsr/ADHD

My "trick" is simple- get rid of as much stuff as possible. It's hard to have a cluttered messy place if you don't have much stuff.

I used this as my guide:

u/LeviPerson · 3 pointsr/simpleliving

Simple living starts at home, so, The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up.

u/cabinfervor · 3 pointsr/minimalism

I just bought a coffee table off Craigslist from a lady who works as a physician's assistant and lives in a really nice apartment downtown. She told me that she was reading this book and that she was getting rid of everything that she didn't absolutely love and moving into a studio apartment. Given her luxury apartment (and her job/lifestyle in general) I was really surprised and impressed.

u/[deleted] · 3 pointsr/ADHD

I'm 33% done The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up: The Japanese Art of Decluttering and Organizing.

However, I haven't picked up the book in a while, and I also live in a small apartment with my gf, so it makes it hard to get all on board and schedule and plan everything.

u/MattRix · 2 pointsr/ADHD

This is a really good book I just read about getting rid of stuff you don't need: (it's a new york times bestseller etc). It says it's about "tidying up" but really it's about how to choose what stuff to keep and how to only keep the possessions you actually really love. It also has a bunch of cheesy/corny stuff in it, but the good parts outweigh that. (it's also a pretty short book, so that's nice too :P)

u/FF0000panda · 2 pointsr/DecidingToBeBetter

Sorry for the Amazon links, but these books are phenomenal. My goals for 2016 are 1) learn how to find my own happiness 2) get away from needing stuff and 3) read more. I got this set of books as a way of kick-starting my year of self exploration, and if I read your post correctly that's kinda what you're looking for, too.

u/lafleurrrrrr · 2 pointsr/BravoRealHousewives

This is the main book that's the important one. This one is the companion one that was released later that I'm unsure of and I'm receiving tomorrow.

u/infantwhore · 2 pointsr/JordanPeterson

This is great! Have you read “The Life Changing Task of Tidying Up”? If not, you may be interested in it. It helped me immensely. here

u/chock-a-block · 2 pointsr/ADHD

If you didn't know about Marie Kondo, you might find her book helpful.

It is very popular and probably in your local public library, so you don't even need to buy it. Because buying a physical book means more clutter...

u/hkodu · 2 pointsr/minimalism

For those of you who are interested in this:

Amazon UK

Amazon US

u/larkasaur · 2 pointsr/minimalism

Marie Kondo's book is inspiring.

u/sub_zero23 · 2 pointsr/LifeProTips

I would recommend this book to everyone. Life changing. A purge takes a while but my wife and I have subtly changed our buying habits after reading this. We try to buy only things we LOVE rather than just any ol good deal

u/explodingcharmbomb · 2 pointsr/OkCupid

All of the above. But first on the list is the gym thing. Trying out a new one tomorrow, and hopefully it's a good fit.

Also, staying neat? Reading this so I can continue my procrastination of actually cleaning.

u/RedSunBlue · 2 pointsr/AsianMasculinity

Well you got the classics: The Art of War, Dao De Jing, The Book of Five Rings, Hagakure and a bunch more that are slipping my mind at the moment.

Other books that come to mind are The Lean Startup by Eric Weiss, a methodology for quick and iterative improvement of a product inspired by the Toyota Production System and more loosely around the Japanese idea of "kaizen".

The Life Changing Magic of Tyding Up by Marie Kondo, a Japanese "cleaning consultant", looks interesting as well.

u/hellrunner · 2 pointsr/rva

I just got this book yesterday.

u/ihaveafewcomments · 2 pointsr/Liferesetbutton

Find this book at your local library, online, etc.
It addresses more than just a storage and cleaning method but a lifestyle change.

u/sunnypreposition · 2 pointsr/Random_Acts_Of_Amazon

Have you read [The Life Changing Magic of Tidying Up] ( by Marie Kondo? I found a lot of tips in the book.

u/barsoap · 2 pointsr/Stoicism
  • There's no permanent fix for that and caffeine isn't the enemy. Not having proper wind-up and wind-down routines probably is. For starters, set yourself a set time (11pm?) at which point you're going to start to wind down, no matter what. Exorcise "I'm awake, thus, shit needs doing" from your mind, that's not an absolute truth at all. Focus on stuff that doesn't activate you, deliberately be a potato, then, and only then, drop into bed. While doing that, avoid any light with too much blue in it. Do about the reverse when getting up, but gently enough, don't jar yourself out of bed. Speed comes over time with skill.

  • Procure this book

  • Get a hobby, join a club. Ever tried volleyball? No? Then try it. If not, then something else.

  • As a dropout I probably shouldn't be giving advise, there.

  • Head over to /r/electronic_cigarette
u/Ftove · 2 pointsr/suggestmeabook

This might seem out of left field but check out The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up

I'm not into self-help books at all, but this one has honestly changed my life.
It gets a little hokey at times but it is a quick read will help you establish self-discipline and structure by getting rid of things and staying organized and it will make you feel a lot better about your home and your life.

u/Linux_Enthusiast · 2 pointsr/getdisciplined

Just to piggyback on this, there's a fantastic book about the affects of tidying by Marie Kondo, called the Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up. Fantastic read, it changed my views on a lot of things. It's definitely worth the read if you have the time.

u/suchathrill · 2 pointsr/datingoverthirty

Sounds good. You read Marie Kondo's book? (Just checking.)

u/heronmarkedblade1984 · 2 pointsr/daddit

Honestly? Throw away about half what you own... I know it sounds crazy but, it's amazing how little work it takes to clean your house when its not full of....stuff. I went through and purged... yes purged our house last year And honestly it was like taking the biggest xanax ever created. The book ill link is what got me started, the author is Japanese so there's some odd cultural things that i refrain from(I have not said thank you to my socks) but the meat of the book is great. Cant recommended lt highly enough
The life changing magic of tidying up.

u/ankylosauruss · 2 pointsr/declutter

I just read this book and spent all day yesterday taking the advice into practice (with my own modifications). I'm still processing through some areas, but my house has never been less cluttered. I never thought I would be able to accomplish so much so quickly, and really feel like managing the clutter in my house is a manageable task. In just a day, I was able to get through almost every space. I still have about half the kitchen and a few "miscellany" cupboards to sort through, and a dozen bags to take to Goodwill.

The basic advice I had heard before: only keep things that "spark joy," but it took actually reading the book and the repetitions of advice and explanations for the hows & whys to sink in. But the basic concept is to take everything you own out of where it lives, assess each item individually to decide what to keep (on the basis of whether or not it "sparks joy," i.e. does it make you happy to own), and then put it back neatly (look online for the KonMari method to folding). Take everything out by category, such as clothes (literally take all the clothes you own and put them on the floor), then books, then bathroom items, etc., rather than going by room. Think about how you actually want to use items and arrange them accordingly.

The most useful take home for me was to make sure every item in your home has a "place." Don't have junk drawers or room for miscellany where things can just pile up and get lost. Actually know where everything is in your house and know where everything goes, and appreciate every item in your house. It's amazing how powerful that has been for me.

u/ImJacksLackOfBeetus · 2 pointsr/KotakuInAction

> I'm not even sure where to start sorting myself (and my place!) out

Peterson won't tell you exactly how to clean up your place but many people have had good luck with Marie Kondo to get in the right mindset for that. Maybe that's a good place to start in the meantime. There's even a frikkin manga version because why not (which I may or may not have ordered a second ago >.>).

It most likely won't tell you anything you haven't heard before but sometimes it can help to hear it in the right words for it to finally click. There are also free 'cliffnotes' on peoples blogs if you look for it, but I think it loses its impact that way.

Other than that I can recommend Bite-sized Philosophy if you don't have the time to listen to Peterson's complete lectures.

This won't give you the same structured approach as the Self-Authoring Suite, the idea is more to keep yourself surrounded with the ideas and concepts that Peterson promotes. I'm the kind of person that has to be surrounded by a new idea constantly and hear it again and again for it to completely sink in, perhaps this will help you too.

u/arsenicand · 2 pointsr/PHBookClub

So I read the book The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up by Marie Kondo--an extremely helpful book, if I do say so myself-- and her rule for tidying up books is to dispose of every book you haven't read up to this point.

It sounds extremely drastic, but it somehow makes sense: if you haven't read the book up 'til now, there's a big chance you won't ever, because the time it was relevant was the moment you picked it up and bought it. There are, of course, exceptions to that rule.

I cheated in my own tidying up process. I separated books which are essential to me, those I feel like I will never read and donated those, and those I will keep until the end of the year to read. The last ones are mostly quick reads, not classics, which I feel will be enjoyable reads nonetheless. So I guess, starting this week, I'll pick one up and read those. Watch out for the weekly reviews. :D

u/Marionberri · 2 pointsr/TFABGrads

I am so sorry your life is so stressful right now :(

This book kinda has some "woo," but if you can get past that, I would highly recommend it:
It sounds perfect for your situation and is very inspiring, which is nice haha. There is also a subreddit, although it is not a replacement for the book. /r/konmari

Big hugs from California heading your way ❤

u/FieryTwinkie · 2 pointsr/ADHD

[The Life Changing Magic of Tidying Up? ]( Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up: The Japanese Art of Decluttering and Organizing

Also, I recommend r/Decluttering for some good advice and resources.

u/makesmethinkofyou · 2 pointsr/muacjdiscussion

You should read this book :) it's quite neurotic but has lots of good tidbits in it about letting things go.

u/greenwitchhaven · 2 pointsr/witchcraft

Not a witchy book, but I really liked The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up. The premise is that you work by category, making sure you physically touch every object, and only keep what sparks joy. I think that this is a great way to eliminate things that carry latent negative energy. Like that sweater you never wear because it itches or the color is a little off, but you spent a lot of money on it and you feel guilty about not wearing it or wanting to throw it out. Moving is a great time to reevaluate what you own and how it fits your ideal life.

u/roborbbrobor · 2 pointsr/LifeProTips

try this?

I'm not sure if that's what you're looking for but it's a good book on organizing.

u/purell_man_9mm · 2 pointsr/DecidingToBeBetter

I'd suggest The Life Changing Magic of Tidying Up. The book contains a full plan for a super effective system that describes a) how to get rid of things you don't need and b) how to organize the things you do need.

I was a minimalist before reading this book to the point where friends made fun of me. I still managed to get rid of 3/4 of my possessions after reading it.

For me the book helped me get past a lot of my psychological hangups around holding onto things, buying too much, and not letting things go. After using the strategy in the book a few times over 2-3 years, a lot of items I previously saw as necessary I later had no issue getting rid of. The author's strategies for organizing the things you do keep work great too.

The book is only as good as your willingness to actually do the steps though. Having this issue with an SO is trickier. It's a tremendous amount of work to get past your own hangups and implement a system that works, let alone convince someone else. You could try going through the book together and doing the steps together (the book has 7 stages of getting rid of stuff, maybe do one per week independently with your own things); not sure how well that would go in practice though. Good luck!

u/shirokuroneko · 2 pointsr/aspergers

I used to have pretty bad OCD & OCPD symptoms, combined with ADD, so I have to be careful with how many organizational strategies I implement. It's a bit of a tightrope walk between really poor executive function and seemingly excellent but actually poor executive function. Usually what happens after I implement any organizational strategy is that I'll be very into it at first, and burn out fairly quickly (aside from putting things back where they sort of belong).

On the topic of organizational books, I've enjoyed Marie Kondo's before. Is that book something that you've looked into before? If you haven't, I think you would enjoy it as you seem to get a kick out of organizing (and who doesn't, really). She offers a new method of folding clothes that is pretty genius. Overall it's a little too tightly wound for me, but some aspects of the author's suggestions were interesting and changed my perspective in a positive way. For example, taking note of the feeling one has when picking up an item to decide whether or not to throw it out - rather than keeping it because of thinking it might be useful one day.

u/smug_weasel · 2 pointsr/ADHD

"You can do anything, but not everything." - David Allen

I'm also battling Martha-Stewart-level expectations. And it turns out I'm terrible at predicting what's going to make me happy, or how long it's going to take me, or how hard it'll be to master.

Here are some things that helped me pare it down:

  1. This video about the Eisenhower Matrix. A simple exercise to help find your priorities.

  2. This book by Marie Kondo about decluttering your space and your life.The whole process was great, but she’s got a bit towards the beginning about visualizing the life you want to have. It’s lovely.

  3. This blog series about de-stashing from the super smart, super talented multi-craft blogger at The Craft Sessions.

u/carnedelpie · 2 pointsr/InteriorDesign

[Remodelista: The Organized Home: Simple, Stylish Storage Ideas for All Over the House] (

Ikea--Find it Part 2
& Find it Part 3

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u/wakasm · 2 pointsr/boardgames

I feel like someone read this

u/ifeelnumb · 2 pointsr/JUSTNOMIL

Do you need a good passive aggressive Christmas present for her? It basically details why you shouldn't hold on to your parents stuff.

u/-BigSexy- · 2 pointsr/OrthodoxChristianity

The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up: The Japanese Art of Decluttering and Organizing by Marie Kondo

This book was a god send. Never seen so many trash bags out the door before.

u/Corgi_Metal · 2 pointsr/Guitar

The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up: The Japanese Art of Decluttering and Organizing

I did this. I'm happier now. The gear was only a small portion of it.

u/boobubum · 2 pointsr/LifeProTips

Try this book. My girlfriend swears by it and it has even helped me. It feels really good to declutter, you just need to do one thing at a time.

u/Better_Bit · 2 pointsr/AskWomen

I'd really really recommend this book by Marie Kondo. In it she details how she completely declutters and reorganises, and it's SUPER useful. I've been really inspired by it, and it even has a (not very active) subreddit - /r/konmari.

I also basically put on the shows How Clean Is Your House or Hoarders or Obsessive Compulsive Cleaners off youtube and the fear makes me scrub harder. Ditto being subscribed to /r/NeckbeardNests. The fact is at some point clutter and uncleanliness becomes embarrassing and even potentially dangerous. I really got started when I realised the dust pooled behind my bed head was causing my boyfriend-at-the-times asthma to go crazy - He ended up losing 30% of his lung function to emphysema for unknown reasons a couple months after we split. I guess I'm also a social person and the thought of having my guests somewhere where they feel revolted isn't a nice feeling.

I'm not perfect, but I unbelievably better. Make a chores list, set an amount of hours per week for cleaning. I like to think a full sized house needs 4 hours of cleaning over the week - roughly 30 minutes a day. Just to do things like clean the toilet bowls or the kitchen hob or sweep. Whatever it is, list it, remind yourself of the consequences, bask in the glow of a job well done, reward yourself, enjoy!

u/DrunkBotanist · 1 pointr/Random_Acts_Of_Amazon

I recently picked up Spark Joy, which I didn't realize was actually an illustrated companion to this book.

Both are focused on the "konmari" method of cleaning. One of the reviews summarizes it well:

>In a nutshell, the konmari method involves getting rid of anything in your life that doesn't spark joy. Starting with clothes, you go through each item and decide what stays or goes based on whether or not it sparks joy when you hold it. Joy is the only criterion: 'If it makes you happy, then the right choice is to keep it confidently, regardless of what anyone else says.'

The idea is to only surround yourself with things you love. Getting rid of the unnecessary is liberating.

u/junglizer · 1 pointr/rawdenim

I've been reading this lately. Although I am quite a fan of the Dresden Files, and have been reading the similar series, The Iron Druid, while waiting for the next Dresden book.

u/zengeki23 · 1 pointr/minimalism

It depends on you. For me, Minimalism is a tool to helps me simplify my life and to focus on what is important by removing the "Things" that clutter my mind and my space. The "Things" could refer to physical things such as items that you don't need, things that you haven't used in a while, and the things that you hoard for no apparent reason. The "Things" could also refer to the amount of information you consume as well.

To ask "What is a minimalist Lifestyle?" one must ask "Why do you want to live a minimalist lifestyle?" Is it for financial reasons? Are you going to crisis? Are you moving? Always question the idea with "Why?" and once you have it, then try to simplify the "Things" around you that are holding you back.

Example: For me, I had credit card payments and medical bills to pay, and minimalism helped me minimize my spending habits, and focus on paying those bills. later on, I started questioning all my stuff, and started removing the things that I didn't need or didn't bring joy or value to my life anymore. It wasn't all sudden but it was all worth it.

Here are some wonderful sources that might give you an idea on minimalism:

u/random_pattern · 1 pointr/minimalism

Tidy up with Tidying Up.

u/SleepingInTheFlowers · 1 pointr/simpleliving

My wife was profoundly influenced by "The Life Changing Magic of Tidying Up". Might be worth a read.

u/happybabo · 1 pointr/Random_Acts_Of_Amazon

This book because the author talks about decluttering and getting rid of things you don't need especially if you have a lot of things around the house. I'm a hoarder so I would like to have tips of what I need and don't need.

u/fingers-crossed · 1 pointr/LosAngeles

I'm about to do the same myself, just about to finish reading this book on the subject after stumbling across it at an AirBnB. I already hate clutter so I think it will be really fulfilling.

u/TheKingOfTCGames · 1 pointr/Assistance

when i was severely depressed the only thing that helped me was a prescription of amphetamines+SSRI (citalopram for me) and cognitive behavioral therapy (either from a therapist or just do it solo if you have no healthcare). basically you force yourself to keep a normal schedule even if you think its pointless or you don't want to do it. eventually the two in combination forces you into a positive feedback loop where you stop being and feeling useless.

wake up at 9 am, eat something, take a look at 6 pieces of mail, call your mom etc etc go to sleep at 11 pm. it doesn't matter how little you think its doing. by forcing yourself to do something it stops any inertia that stops you from doing nothing which eventually snowballs into breaking out of the cycle.

read this shit. and make sure where ever you are staying isn't a shit hole, become a task rabbit, start lifting, job hunting whatever. just do something that forces you to move or think or feel.

so do something stay off reddit/social media/games , and force yourself to do things even if its something like going to the gym that might not help you immediately, the drugs help with that.

also if you are desperate for cash you can always secondary market your adderall to some college student.

if you are math/science/computer inclined (truthfully, dont lie to yourself this shit isn't easy) there are programming bootcamps that are paid for by future wages.

offload your pets if you need to, move in with someone you know and try to get a job, a psych ward is not what you need unless you are actively suicidal, just set yourself into motion.

u/saturn_v · 1 pointr/everymanshouldknow

Strangely, I found the KonMari book to be the yin to GTD's yang. For me it covered critical aspects of organization that David Allen didn't really get into.

I'll have a look at the other book you suggested. Cheers.

u/duckingcluttered · 1 pointr/Random_Acts_Of_Amazon

You should definitely check out this book. The people in that sub told me about it and it really is life changing as corny as it sounds :) Very readable and relatable

u/Picturerazzi · 1 pointr/OCD

I would recommend "The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up: The Japanese Art of Decluttering and Organizing"

It's a terrific read about learning to let go of things that once made you happy but now don't belong in your life. It helps a lot. I just was able to throw away this pair of old sweats that I loved but needed to toss because of holes. I've learned how to let go of possessions without having a mini panic attack.


u/srarahcha · 1 pointr/raisedbyborderlines

thanks! i just started, but i've found it so helpful so far. it's very satisfying and inspiring. here's a link to the book:

u/CalJerk · 1 pointr/personalfinance

I think prime is worth the convenience and for prime video.

we generally dont spend a lot of money on crap we dont need anyways and some products break after the warranty period, so we find ourselves buying more from Costco or other places with better return policies... which is sad because I work on Amazon every day to help companies with their accounts.

I actually found this book to be far more impactful on my spending than anything else:

We buy things we really need or really love and rarely anything that doesnt fit those two criteria, which I think was my greatest takeaway from this book

u/Blondeambertion · 1 pointr/bipolar

Having a lot less stuff has helped me maintain a cleaner home. This book/method helped me so much.

u/remembertosmilebot · 1 pointr/getdisciplined

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Marie Kondo, called the Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up


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u/addcream · 1 pointr/minimalism

this book, The Life Changing Magic of Tidying Up, is surprisingly good -- kooky, but good (she anthropomorphizes objects a lot, but's kind delightful) -- and her main goal, as it turns out, is to support and encourage you to get rid of your things. category by category she convinces you that you never use it or even look at it, so why do you have it? highly recommended:

also some excellent and simple organizational ideas that don't require buying organizers

u/mydarkstar_uk · 1 pointr/stopdrinking

That's a lot to handle but kudos to you for having the gratitude for all of the good stuff in your life too!

If I can make a recommendation re: house clutter. This book ( really changed my thought process around the stuff I keep in the house and why. End result was 20+ bags that went to GoodWill. I couldn't even tell you what was in those bags because I haven't thought of or needed those items since.

u/redroab · 1 pointr/HomeImprovement

Will the scraps spark joy?

The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up: The Japanese Art of Decluttering and Organizing

u/mnemosyne-0002 · 1 pointr/KotakuInAction

Archives for the links in comments:

u/DabossyDebussy · 1 pointr/loseit

It's about organizing your house and life. Once and for all. All at once approach. Analyzing if things bring any value, utility, or joy to your life currently. Thanking and saying goodbye to things that don't. I've only read the first section. Really like it so far.

u/spookthesunset · 1 pointr/NeckbeardNests

I mentioned this in another post, but I highly recommend getting this book. Really makes you rethink what you should toss and what you should keep. It is a positive way to look at all the "stuff" you have in your life.

u/slash178 · 1 pointr/NoStupidQuestions

This book is great for learning how to downsize and declutter.

u/GlenBaileyWalker · 1 pointr/AskMen

Read The Life Changing Magic of Tidying Up by Marie Kondo. It will change your life.

u/coffee_for_dinner · 1 pointr/femalefashionadvice

I think the first step in starting to change your style would be to start a Pinterest mood/inspiration board and start pinning photos of looks or general style that you think you'd like. Once you have enough photos you'll start seeing certain items, themes and moods repeating there. Once you've got that down, go through your entire wardrobe and get rid/sell/donate any clothes that don't fit your new preferred look or that you just aren't into anymore (I personally really liked doing KonMari on my wardrobe). Once you have a half empty wardrobe with only the bare essentials, you can start slowly building up your new look by buying new items. Always stick to your style board's vision and don't make purchases like "oh but this top has cute cats on it!!". Those purchases comes after you've built a functional wardrobe that gets you through work, free time and being at home. By then you will have such a good sense of your style and wardrobe that you can buy the cute cat shirt and know that it will go with the majority of your wardrobe.

This was the way I approached my style revamp, but it's obviously down to the individual and whatever works for you. I was in a very similar position as you two years ago, hitting 30 made me want to purge the teenage years' influences from my wardrobe and replace it with something that reads a bit more adult, but still me.

I have a board on Pinterest for simple outfit formulas that show a kind of distilled version of my aspirational style. Maybe some of this is relevant to your style preferences as well? There's lots of flats, jeans, cashmere knits, warm coats, cigarette trousers and sensible boots. Add some sexy perfume, a classic watch and some Chanel nailpolish, heh. I suck at summer style but this is my inspo/mood board for that.

Also, looking at your photos I think your style is already quite nice. It's cute and girly but not juvenile if that's what you're worried about. But if you feel in your heart that it's time for change, then embrace it and enjoy the journey!

u/pigdon · 1 pointr/enoughpetersonspam

Cleaning one's room has much better (non-cultic) gurus and advocates anyways.

For instance, instead of ending up with your windows lined with newspaper and your ceilings with Soviet era propaganda like JBP, why not just read Marie Kondo, whose book has been famous long before him?

u/pinapepina · 1 pointr/minimalism

I too am starting to change my lifestyle! I've been getting rid of a bunch of stuff on my own but just recently started reading this book - >

u/proxygateway · 1 pointr/femalefashionadvice

I highly suggest reading KonMari's The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up. She has a bit about "thanking your items for their service to you" and the enjoyment they brought when you wore and bought them. It really helped me clear out my closet!

u/jchiu003 · 1 pointr/OkCupid

Don't tempt me. I'll be right there. I love organizing and decluttering. I hear Philly is really nice this time of year, but seriously, check out this book by Marie Kondo. She's crazy and extreme, but it helped me get rid of a ton of stuff that I did not need.

u/8bitmullet · 1 pointr/intj

My ex-roommate and I applied the author's system in this book with great results, though I would not recommend reading it. Just find a synopsis or summary somewhere, there's like 5 major takeaways you don't need 200 pages to extract.

u/alwaysdickfingers · 1 pointr/personalfinance

This is sort of random and you got much better advice in other comments but I'm going to throw it in as an addition anyway:

Read the book The Life-changing Magic of Tidying Up. It's a book about how to organize your home, and therefor your life by surrounding yourself with things that spark joy. Shifting your focus off of money by going through your apartment and getting rid of clutter and stressors will help make you feel better and give you something else to "obsess" over. But most importantly it will make you more aware of what makes you happy. When you know what sparks joy for you, it will be easier to "allow" yourself to spend money on the quality necessities without feeling like you're blowing money. The book helped me with overspending on things I don't need but were "good deals" that just wound up causing me stress by overcrowding my home.

I think you may have traded the "thrill" of buying new stuff/nice car/etc for the "thrill" of accumulating money... sort of like an addiction in both extremes.

The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up: The Japanese Art of Decluttering and Organizing

u/robertramey · -3 pointsr/cpp

This paper is mercifully short. It's transparently true. C++ is too big. Every time some shortcoming is noted, the solution is to add something more to the standard. That might address the original complaint, but it creates another ripple of complaints/enhancements that the committee has to consider. The current process isn't scaling. It's growing exponentially.

Current System: Marxism. It's very similar to the the old style soviet economic system where everything is decided by one central committee which may parcel out aspects to subcommittees. Implementation of these facilities is delegated to vendors who are generally participate on the committee. Nothing moves until everything gets done. The idea is that by doing things this way the results are going to be rational and consistent. It doesn't turn out that way and it takes years to accomplish. By the time it's done, it's pretty much irrelevant.

Proposed Alternative: Capitalism. The committee limits its efforts to

  • language syntax and semantics
  • library functions required to interface with the operating system - C already has all those defined. Other examples might be co-routines, semaphore or mutex, etc. They would be "primitives" not meant to be used by applications but rather expected to be used in the crafting of application libraries.

    These define the "rules" and are analogous to the rule of law under which capitalism operates.

    Application Libraries: Marketplace. Libraries which depend only on the language as defined by the committee as above would be called "conforming" libraries. These would be guaranteed to compile and execute their defined behavior on all conforming compilers. Libraries which depend on other conforming libraries would also be conforming libraries by composition. Examples of Application libraries would be:

  • Networking
  • Ranges
  • STL
  • Futures, Threading, etc.
  • Serialization
  • Coroutines for applications,

    The committee's role would evolve from its current one of designing the facilities to be implemented by vendors, to setting the (language and primitives), moderating disputes (resolving ambiguities in language), and letting the rest of the language evolve in accordance to application developers demand. It would move from being a player to an umpire.

    This would change the landscape for C++ software development

  • The committee itself would be have a much, much narrower scope. This scope would grow at a much smaller rate that it has been growing.
  • Application libraries would proliferate almost out of control. This is already happening with GitHub and other services.
  • Most such libraries are unusable due to bad design, non-existent documentation, bad coding practices, or some other problem.
  • Users would pick among available application libraries - rejecting most of them.
  • Agreement to deprecate libraries would not be necessary. People would just stop using obsolete libraries.
  • New libraries would become available much sooner. Obsolete libraries would be replaced much faster. Currently popular libraries would be under pressure to stay current, relevant, and effective.
  • If some mechanism for separating for portably separating library interface from implementation (perhaps like llvm or maybe modules) could be invented, fee based libraries could become available. This might compensate library writers such as writers of other creative works are. This would fund libraries which users would find more usable. This would create an explosion of C++ development.
  • Actually this is already happening. Ranges, Networking, Serialization are available. The are constantly evolving to maintain competitiveness and they are always under pressure to stay relevant. This is a good thing. Committee participation is a waste of everyone's time.

    The only thing really necessary to implement this idea is for the committee to recognize this and just terminate efforts which are redundant. For each thing on Bjarn's list, ask yourself. What will happen if we don't get involved in this? If some one needs it, can he easily build it himself? If a lot of people need it, can some library writer build it? What value will we actually add? Think of it as the C++ equivalent of tidying up.

    Robert Ramey