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u/ckn · 8 pointsr/sex
  1. Lots of foreplay. Get him to build you up with oral, finger play, etc.
  2. Change positions often
  3. Use your keigals and loosen or tighten things up when he is starting to go off.
  4. Get this book, http://www.amazon.com/Multi-Orgasmic-Man-Sexual-Secrets-Should/dp/0062513362 it has "exercises" for him OR Get this book for the two of you http://www.amazon.com/Multi-Orgasmic-Couple-Sexual-Secrets-Should/dp/0062516140

u/SBIII · 7 pointsr/marriedredpill

>• Fix the son’s shitty behavior

Fix your own shitty behaviour first. This shit is unnaceptable..

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>me (or the wife) getting angry and shouting, or slapping him

Your son is 5. He's a ball of energy. He's going to run around like a madman, screaming and laughing - that's what 5 year old boys do.. I know - I have one the same age. Most of the time I let him at it. I have the ability to zone out and let him run wild.. he's letting off steam, enjoying himself and being himself. As long as he doesn't break anything or hurt himself, I'm happy to see him being a 5 year old boy.

My wife doesn't have that ability & the noise / energy gets to her sometimes. When that happens, I'll pick him up, throw him around a bit play fight - whatever.. just engage him and play with him for a bit until he calms down.

Sometimes he gets out of line when he doesn't get his way.. throws things, slams doors, etc. That behaviour, I won't accept. For that, he goes on the naughty step and stays there until he recognises why I put him there and apologises. I'll always make sure that he knows what he did wrong and understands why he is being punished. I always remain totally calm but firm when this happens.

I never shout at my kids and I never slap them. This type of punishment is pointless and detrimental. Once you lose control like this, you have lost. If you use physical punishment (slapping) or verbal punishment (shouting), what lessons are you teaching them? That it's OK to shout and slap? That you can only control them with violence? All you are doing is demanding respect. You need to learn how to command respect, not demand it.

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>Also, small gifts for when he does behave well.

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You want to reward good bahaviour but do it by giving him your time and attention. By giving him gifts as rewards, all you're doing is teaching him to expect stuff when he behaves.

This is no different than your wife... remove time and attention for shitty behaviour, reward good behaviour with time and attention. You don't give your wife a gift every time she sucks your cock.

Or do you?

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>So when we finally do start fucking, it’s been like a week or more since the last time I came and I last like two minutes max. This is the other piece of advice in TWOFSM that I find hard to wrap my head around. I’ve heard of the breathing stuff and ‘circulating the energy’ before and I’ve never been able to do it and the more I try the more frustrated I feel.

The advice in TWOTSM is good but it doesn't go into enough detail - try this book.. it's excellent:

https://www.amazon.com/Multi-Orgasmic-Man-Sexual-Secrets-Should/dp/0062513362

u/Theungry · 7 pointsr/AskMen

Long story short, you need to take his brain space away from his dick and onto other parts of the body.

Ejacutlation is psychosomatic, and there is a trap that's easy to fall into where you're concentrating on not ejaculating, but in so doing, you're bringing all your focus to your dick.

Does he like pain at all? Biting and scratching are a great way to put his mind elsewhere.

Asking him to keep kissing you or touching you can help a lot too.


Another approach is to suggest for him to practice endurance when he masturbates. Try bringing himself to the edge without going over, backing off and repeating for as long as he can. There is a specific muscle (pubocoxygeus) that controls ejactulation, and it can be strengthened in this way and others.

If you want to buy him a great book on controlling his ejaculation you could get him "The Mulitorgasmic man"
http://www.amazon.com/The-Multi-Orgasmic-Man-Sexual-Secrets/dp/0062513362/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1370288881&sr=8-1&keywords=multiorgasmic+man

Edit- one last note is that depending on his anatomy, it can help to be a little rough with his dick (a really tight squeeze here and there with the hand) before you actually get in there and start playing nice. That will desensitize it a little bit. YMMV on that one, but i thought it was worth including.

u/esaruoho · 6 pointsr/AskMen

>Male orgasm feels a lot like a 3-second sneeze.

FTFY: Male EJACULATION feels a lot like a 3-second sneeze.

If you, however, learn to separate ejaculation from orgasm, you can have "dry orgasms" which can, at best, become full-body orgasms and be far more rewarding / nourishing / interesting / worth striving for rather than merely having a 3-5 second ejaculation.

P.s. Most men will never research this and will just laugh at it and go "fuck this, I wanna cum - none of that tantric newage mumbo-jumbo shit, this is how I roll, can't teach an old dog new tricks" -- and then fight about it.

p.p.s: http://www.amazon.com/Multi-Orgasmic-Man-Sexual-Secrets-Should/dp/0062513362

u/[deleted] · 6 pointsr/sex

Sadly, this is probably a result of the negative stigma attached to masturbation. As a result of this we tend to grow up masturbating quickly with the mindset of ejaculating as fast as possible. In the end you have essentially trained your body to get off super fast. It's difficult to re-learn, but it's possible. This helped me a lot.

u/nacreous · 3 pointsr/sex

Hmm. What about a different kind of challenge for him? There are books on these techniques and you can Google as well as I can. The link is to just one of many web pages about the topic.

u/priegog · 3 pointsr/sex

It was many years ago... But I think I (quasi-legally) downloaded an ebook on the subject, let me google around a bit... Yup, I'm about 90% sure it was this book, but I'm pretty sure that as with everything on the internet, the info is bound to be on random and free sites as well. The book dabbles a bit on weird eastern concepts; you can go ahead and safely ignore that. The gist of it is learning all the phases that you go through before ejaculation (that normally happen in maybe less than a second), and realising that orgasm can be achieved before getting there. As I said, very conceptually similar to edging, but this also incorporates kegels to allow you to somehow "hold it"... As I said, I don't remember the theory too well, but the technique itself I learned and continue to use it without thinking much about it. OK, it's not a "technique"; more like having learned all that stuff and putting it to use (to get there you WILL be using some techniques, though, mainly while masturbating).

As for hard, it isn't really that hard, you just have to have a little self-restraint. Because you SPECIFICALLY need to STOP stimulating ever closer to orgasm/ejaculation, and TBH taking the decision to do that instead of saying "fuck that shit, I'm cumming, I can do that some other day" is the hardest part, but it becomes easier, lol. As for how long it takes... I honestly don't exactly remember, but a few weeks... you start to see progress from the very beginning though, so that's always helpful.

u/listentojo · 3 pointsr/PrematureEjaculation

Try reading “The Multi-Orgasmic Man” by Douglas Arava. It´s nos t a desease but an issue one can control. Stay positive bro, I had the same issue and after reading this book I´ve gotten more comfortable and my performance has improved.

Amazon / The Multi-Orgasmic Man

u/pearlhart · 3 pointsr/sex

Educate them! I didn't know about this until a partner told me. And I was able to adjust my expectations.

Then, do something else to fill the time before you can go again if she is ready to go. There are plenty of other sex related things that don't require your penis. Use your hands, use your mouth, use toys, and use all three together. Have her get herself off. Make out, dry hump. Whatever feels good.

You can try learning to delay orgasms so you can make the most of the time you do have. And you can also learn to orgasm without ejaculation, called injaculation, as well as the already-mentioned karezza and tantra.

I found the Multi Orgasmic Woman and Couple books incredibly useful. Perhaps it's worth a shot to look into the man's version?

u/TantraGirl · 3 pointsr/sexover30

There are several books on the subject, but I don't think you need one.

We learned about tantric sex from u/ShaktiAmarantha, and she described the learning process for Bud. He bought one of the books (Chia & Abrams), but he doesn't recommend it. Instead he suggests going to Shakti's website first:

Understanding the Male Orgasm - in depth!

Multiple Orgasms for Men - the start of a five-part series of articles.

Jack & Lita: Male Orgasm and Ejaculation Control – describes a guy learning two different ways to have an orgasm without ejaculation.

If you think you need more help than that, then get one of the books Shakti reviewed in the Multiple Orgasms series.

It's not hard, but it does take patience and a lot of persistence.

Good luck!

u/digitalsmear · 3 pointsr/AskReddit

The Multi-Orgasmic Man - Also well worth the investment.

u/The_Commodore · 3 pointsr/AskReddit

I recommend The Multi-Orgasmic Man. It's excellent.

Also, the length of time does not matter so much for me if that's not all there is. Lots of foreplay, oral and hand sex. Lots of build up, and you can lengthen the time you can have sex.

Also, have you tried a cock ring? This was a solution for a partner of mine.

u/harmonylion · 3 pointsr/AskMen
u/sureidoit · 3 pointsr/AskMen

I don't have any erection problems but I've been getting into the whole Zen/Tao thing and found this book about multiple make orgasms about a year ago. Also check out prostate orgasms using a Aneros device. The book and the Aneros will change your life.

Most guys have no clue about prostate orgasms but after reading the book and working through it and using the Aneros for about a year I can have orgasm like pleasure for as long as I like. I also don't feel worn out at the end of a session, it's like I've been recharged.

u/kodemizer · 3 pointsr/Buddhism

Everyone is of course different, but as a male who's libido is just starting to slow, I've found limiting the frequency of orgasm to have huge impact on the amount of energy I have throughout the day.

While it's generally focused towards men, limiting orgasm in order to achieve vitality has a long history in Taoist circles, and there are many known techniques taught for heightening sexual pleasure / arousal while limiting organism. As a discipline it is generally known as Karezza.

A great book that explores this is The Multi Orgasmic Man (http://www.amazon.com/The-Multi-Orgasmic-Man-Sexual-Secrets/dp/0062513362).

On Reddit, there is /r/nofap, which is a community dedicated to this sort of thing (although I find the culture there much to macho for my liking).

Personally, I simply feel much more vital when I limit the frequency of my orgasms, but everyone's body is different, so your mileage may vary. I'm happy to answer any questions you might have about this.

Some more reading:

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Taoist_sexual_practices

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Coitus_reservatus

u/Parasamgate · 2 pointsr/taoism

/u/damnedlies says it well. The way I have heard it described is those who cultivate dao for egotistical reasons or who use their power for personal gain (which is really just more ego).

For example Mantak Chia is considered left-hand because he teaches ways to help you fuck better. Daoists don't cultivate so they can have better orgasms. They cultivate to strengthen the body so they can stay on this plane of existence long enough to achieve their higher purposes.

u/SciK · 2 pointsr/NoFap

I read it in this book, for example, and other people seem to ask the same question, but not everyone agrees.

u/LittleMouseCat · 2 pointsr/sexover30

I am a (nearly) 42 year old man and have been practicing a few different techniques to enhance my pleasure and achieve multiple orgasms. I am by no means an expert or master at any of it, and with some techniques I've only been successful a couple of times since I first started about 3 years ago. Every person is different and some men are more capable of one technique versus another, some will be great at all of them, and some won't achieve any (or much) success with any of them. I'm not sure your or your partners philosophical leanings but there's a bit of ancient philosophical belief involved in some of the info I will link to, I'm more of a logic / modern science based person so I have had to look past the more spiritual aspects of some of these. For example, things like Chi energy and Chakras are discussed by a few people as being keys to enlightenment / pleasure, being more science grounded I prefer to think of Chakras as highly sensitive nerve clusters vs some mythic, magical parts inside the body. That said, whatever you choose to call them the techniques do work, and some of these techniques will work for men and women. Also be warned that some of the links below are NSFW.

The first thing to know about having multiple orgasms as a man is that you need to not ejaculate. In fact as a male if you want to get to a point where you can feel pleasure at random times throughout the day, don't ejaculate for a few weeks or more while still engaging in sexual activity. You will likely get to a point where the lightest breeze on your penis / testicles / perineum (and possibly nipples or anus) will give you pleasurable chills throughout your body - and if you practice some of the techniques below you won't even need any touch to feel that pleasure but will be able to generate it by just thinking about it (more on that below).

There are some men who can have multiple ejaculatory orgasms but it's a very rare thing, and even those men generally have a refractory period (it's just extremely short - like only a couple of minutes). I've read / seen a video by a guy (NSFW http://www.can-fap.net/preview/fundraiser_preview_intro.shtml NSFW) who says if you have an intact foreskin / frenulum / rigged band that you may be able to have multiple ejaculatory orgasms by only stimulating the frenulum and / or rigged band, but as I am circumcised I can't confirm this from my own experience and I haven't seen many others post about it. I can say that even though I only have a small amount of my frenulum left that I have been able to have some mild but pleasant orgasms from lightly rubbing it, though they were non-ejaculatory and took a lot of time to build up.

A couple of other important things to keep in mind: It is likely that any of these techniques will take many months to learn let alone become proficient at. Some of them are also primarily meant for solo pleasure, though once learned they can be integrated into sexual activity with a partner (but might not be something a partner does to you). And some of them are very much in your head, so might require a change in how you think about sex and orgasms.

Mantak Chia wrote a book called The Multi Orgasmic Man (https://www.amazon.com/Multi-Orgasmic-Man-Sexual-Secrets-Should/dp/0062513362) that is probably the most detailed method I've seen. If you don't want to buy the book there's a synopsis of the technique described here https://www.menprovement.com/multi-orgasmic-man/ (Semi-NSFW) and another here http://www.whitelotuseast.com/MultipleOrgasm.htm (Semi-NSFW). The techniques in this book can be done solo or with a directly partner (though I would suggest he learn on his own first - which is going to be true of a few of the techniques). In a nutshell the man learns to recognize the different stages of arousal and stops masturbating (or penetrating) just before the point of no return, allowing his arousal to wane slightly / redirecting the arousal away from the penis. The pleasure is then continued to the point of no return again before stopping, and that process is repeated multiple times until he is able to reach orgasm without ejaculating, which in turn can result in having a long (multi-minute) extended orgasm or multiple shorter orgasms. I've failed at this hundreds of times over the past few years but have on two occasions managed to achieve an extended orgasm while masturbating and it's pretty incredible. When you get it right it's like your brain and body flip a switch and you can just keep stroking while feeling a strong, warm, tingling sensation throughout your entire body but without the feeling that you are going to ejaculate.

Prostate massage is another very good way to achieve more intense penile orgasms as well as multiple and extended prostate / full body orgasms (https://www.aneros.com/ Semi-NSFW. Also be sure to read the forums and wiki, there's a lot of good info there). In my opinion this is probably one of the most pleasurable things a man can learn / experience. Again, learning this is generally a solo adventure but once learned it can be added to partner activities, either by his using a prostate massager during sex or by you massaging his prostate directly. Different guys have different sensations from prostate massage and unfortunately not everyone is able to achieve high levels of pleasure through it, though most are able to at least intensify traditional orgasms with it. There is debate whether the lack of success is due to physical reasons or mental reasons (I'm inclined to say a little of both), as you do have to open yourself up to not only stimulating your body through your anus (something most straight guys seems to fear) but also because the prostate for most guys at first is very insensitive to the point that many guys don't feel anything in the beginning and give up. You have to spend a fair amount of time (from weeks to months) regularly practicing and focusing on the feelings that are there, however small they may be, and in time your prostate starts to become more sensitive to touch and your brain starts making the connection that it feels good, and when it all comes together the results are amazing. Also unfortunately even for those who do become successful with prostate massage it can be hit and miss, some days there's just no pleasure to be had. I'm speculating here a little so bare with me, but I actually feel like learning prostate based pleasure is the closest a man can get to understanding how a woman experiences pleasure, both in the sense of orgasms and from an in the mood / not in the mood perspective. It's pretty rare for a man to not be able to get an erection or have an orgasm from penile stimulation, but sometimes, no matter how much you try to physically pleasure your prostate nor how great it's felt in the past (or how many orgasms you had just yesterday), some days your body / prostate just isn't feeling it. I've had many sessions that felt nice but the feelings just don't lead anywhere, and I have learned to accept that as part of my body's sexual response. On the other hand, I've had full body orgasms that lasted upwards of 45 minutes thanks to prostate massage and were by far the most pleasurable feelings I've ever had in my life. And awaking your prostate has another benefit for some, that being the ability to feel prostate pleasure without any physical help (fingers or toys), but by simply focusing on the sensations of your prostate. This is amplified by one of the first things I mentioned, that being to not ejaculate for extended periods of time. When your prostate has been awakened and you go a couple of weeks without ejaculating you can feel an ache in your prostate which can translate into having orgasms by simply closing your eyes and basically just letting it happen. Over and over and over.

Here's a technique that can work for men and women as it involves meditation - http://anniesprinkle.org/energy-orgasms/ (NSFW). I've tried this technique as well as a simpler form of meditation where I just set my intention ("full body pleasure") and try to clear my mind while listening to specific styles of music (Gamma Mediation is good). Thanks to my over-active brain I've struggled with meditation in general but on those occasions I've gotten it right it's been similarly pleasurable to prostate massage, with some orgasmic trances lasting 20-30 minutes (although not quite as intense feeling, more of a super peaceful with a side of full body tingling sensation).

One other technique I'm aware of but haven't tried myself is the Key Sound Multiple Orgasm technique ( https://multiples.com/ksmo-technique/ ). I don't know all of the details involved in this but do know it involves vocalizing different sounds to increase / enhance your pleasure. It also involves the same concept of separating orgasm and ejaculation that Matak Chia teaches and I would guess involves some meditation / mental techniques as well. This is another method that can work for men and women.

u/Brolonious · 2 pointsr/bodyweightfitness

https://www.amazon.com/Multi-Orgasmic-Man-Sexual-Secrets-Should/dp/0062513362

TL DR - it's all in the breathing. That and the Kegels.

u/Trollomatic2000 · 2 pointsr/sex

Might want to read "The Multi Orgasmic Man"

u/desertwarrior · 2 pointsr/NoFap

Hey man, now that you've come a long way, I would stop worrying about releasing the pressure once in a while. Nofap was about getting healthy, not denial.
Rather than punishing yourself for your "failure", learn how to control your orgasms. Did you know that it is possible to separate ejaculation from orgasm, so you can start choking your bishop again, without the nasty side effects?

I recommend this article
http://oeith.co.uk/2012/01/17/deconstructing-the-male-orgasm/

and this book:
http://www.amazon.com/The-Multi-Orgasmic-Man-Sexual-Secrets/dp/0062513362

u/culofiesta · 2 pointsr/sex

Neither did I when I was 20. Sex is a messy free for all until your late 20s or early 30s.

If you want to know more about men read this- http://www.amazon.com/The-Multi-Orgasmic-Man-Sexual-Secrets/dp/0062513362. Give it to your man to read too. You'll both learn a lot.

u/biggestsexorgan · 2 pointsr/sex

The book that describes the technique that took my sexuality to coitus reservatus.

... edit ...

> I neglected to include it. I'm 29.

And at 29, it's hard to advise. There's a moment where long term starts to feel more important. Then less again. :(

u/Surferforlife · 2 pointsr/depression

I just started with changing small emotions. If you are craving pizza, change it so you want some other food. Just keep working your way up to controlling more difficult emotions. When you need something more difficult try practicing Tantra or some other art that teaches you to control powerful emotions "orgasms in this case" can help give you insight into controlling other powerful emotions or you can even use these emotions to weaken or fight other emotions. This book has some practice exercises in it that helped me tremendously, but you could probably find the exercises online without buying the book.

I believe DBT uses more vocal points or a type of counter arguing with yourself to see other perspectives allowing you talk yourself out of a perspective or thought patterns. Which I find works excellently in junction with just changing the emotion by thought. As it helps with those stubborn or deep rooted emotions that can be difficult to control. But there are a great many tools you will find that can add you in controlling your thoughts and emotions, but it may take time to find the ones that work best for you.

u/ollivierre · 2 pointsr/TrueQiGong

I suggest you reading this book

I also suggest this book
I usually watch Elliot hulse and he once mentioned this book in one of his videos when he talked about sexual energy and deep breathing.

I am coming from Nofap as well and been experimenting with different things. I have been on and off for a while now. I also have been doing lots of reading on Nofap and YBOP.

I recently was fortunate to come to the full realization that I have an addiction to porn (I knew that I did already but there was something blocking the full acceptance of this problem). I said wait a minute. If it is an addiction then let me see the what the experts say in OTHER forms of addiction. So I started reading about rehab and recovery programs related to alcoholism and trying to apply that to my own case. Yes the nature and the origins of the addiction are different but I believe the adaptive response introduced by the brain is similar.

I am reading now a book called healing the addicted brain; the revolutionary,science-based alcoholism and addiction recovery program.

You can check that as well. Hope this helps.

u/thoraway6969 · 2 pointsr/nsfw

Dudes: It DOES work. There are two different muscles (or sets of?) that control each.

The secret is hold the "cumming" ones and not the orgasmitron ones.

Exactly what you're talking about: http://www.amazon.com/Multi-Orgasmic-Man-Sexual-Secrets-Should/dp/0062513362

u/ianivy · 2 pointsr/promos

Possibly better

Notedly, the PUA community is full of great info.

u/DiscreteOpinion · 2 pointsr/relationship_advice

Totally. Aside from the fact that no one should ever let themselves feel like they can't speak freely about their own feelings, fantasies, desires and curiosities with their partner; in my experience it's actually quite common for couples to be interested in sharing porn and being open about masturbation.

I could share several anecdotes, but I have to go to bed soon and I don't want to get myself all worked up! :D Suffice it to say that talking about masturbation, and even performing (even simultaneously) can be a hell of a turn-on.

Also, masturbation is a good thing. (Heh, I meant to make that statement more clear, but it works as-is. :P) I've read many times things like; vibrators and orgasms strengthen the uterine wall and that can ease labor, and, certain muscles need to be strong to even had an orgasm and vibrators can help strengthen those muscles to help women have more intense orgasms - or orgasms at all!

As far as good reasons for male masturbation... Read this book. There is a couples and womans version, also, but I've only read the mens version so far. If it's done nothing else for me, it's saved me money on socks and paper towels. ;)

u/johnblend · 2 pointsr/NoFap

Kegel exercises!!!

There are books on this subject. I have heard positive things about taoist lovemaking books. Its all about having long sessions without having the physical release.

http://www.amazon.com/The-Multi-Orgasmic-Man-Sexual-Secrets/dp/0062513362

u/toocoldfornudity · 1 pointr/sex

There are also some helpful mental strategies you can explore! Check out this book!

u/Colonel26 · 1 pointr/sex

The book you want to read is "The Multi-Orgasmic Man". this book is a short read, but it's absolutely incredible........it explains the physiology of it step by step and tells you exactly how to do it. It helped me get there and after some practice I can pretty much do it at will, it's amazing:
http://www.amazon.com/The-Multi-Orgasmic-Man-Sexual-Secrets/dp/0062513362

u/BhagavadGuitar · 1 pointr/sex

This book will truly change your life if you do all the exercises. You can probably find a free pdf version online somewhere.

u/gollumullog · 1 pointr/sex

search for tantric yoga on google.

Not a ton of complete, or how to, information on the net, but there are plenty of books in book stores, most cities have tantric yoga groups.

http://www.amazon.com/Multi-Orgasmic-Man-Sexual-Secrets-Should/dp/0062513362 <-- good somewhat western view of this

http://www.amazon.com/Jewel-Lotus-Consciousness-Complete-Systematic/dp/1887472673 <-- out of print, but good if you can find it.

u/armchairepicure · 1 pointr/AskReddit

depending on how much work and practice you are willing to invest, i would suggest tantra breathing and some light reading. You would be surprised how simple breathing exercises practiced during the day can improve stamina when performing the act. It helps you focus, without distracting from the task at hand (like when you realize you need to piss desperately but are already aroused, and doing a superman over the bowl just isn't going to cut it).

u/NixonInhell · 1 pointr/sex

Sounds like you could use a copy of this: http://www.amazon.com/Multi-Orgasmic-Man-Sexual-Secrets-Should/dp/0062513362

It has techniques that keep you going as long as you need to. It'll take some practice but the alternative really sucks.

u/creeker7gen · 1 pointr/reiki

If youre a man, this book is from a Taoist Chinese perspective: http://www.amazon.com/The-Multi-Orgasmic-Man-Sexual-Secrets/dp/0062513362

u/Bman331 · 1 pointr/NoFap

Thanks guys. I'm INTP on the MBTI assessment. I always score incredibly highly on introversion, but that doesn't really play out in real life, I always seem to be out doing things. I think that may be because I work from home so I get to recharge a lot of energy before meeting other people, but I do enjoy being social, just not all the time.

I'm only here because of the course which I bought online. There was a bonus on Erectile Dysfunction which led me to yourbrainonporn.com and here. I purchased it online, it does a lot of tantric stuff mixed with some psychology about sexual shame. I think a lot of technical details are taken from Mantak Chia's Multi-orgasmic Man - http://www.amazon.com/The-Multi-Orgasmic-Man-Sexual-Secrets/dp/0062513362. I've seen other people here recommend it and I know it's cheaper than the online course, but my guess is that it's not as complete.

This is the main page for my course - http://www.jimbenson.net/becoming-a-multi-orgasmic-lover/

and this is the video just in case you have trouble finding the order link - http://multiorgasmiclover.com/?hop=bensnblest

Costs $67 I think. I would recommend it, though it may be best to wait until you allow yourself to masturbate again. Interestingly the course has a very different type of masturbation to what we're typically used to. It is referred to as self-pleasuring, done to no porn and no fantasy, just focusing on the pleasure, and trying not to ejaculate, so it is edging. Which many people here have advised against, which is why I'm waiting the 90 days before actually doing that part of the course.

u/Wrongthingtotakeaway · 1 pointr/sex

I usually pull the orgasm up (no semen), or I blast in the face/tits/stomach/back/neck. I don't plan to have kids until I'm 40 to 45, not gonna get into a habit of creampies 'till then.

u/shliam · 1 pointr/AskReddit

http://www.amazon.com/The-Multi-Orgasmic-Man-Sexual-Secrets/dp/0062513362

Book did wonders getting my time up. A little spiritualish at times, but has got some pretty great stuff otherwise. You can also probably torrent it somewhere too.

Also, Yoga.

u/shredwarlock · 1 pointr/NoFap

Haha, unfortunately, what I meant when I said "tantra" is probably the thing that every person who is serious about tantra hates having to patiently explain over and over and over. "No, it's more than just having sex for a really long time." I'm familiar with Asian philosophy in general terms (community college class on it 7 years ago!!!) but as far as tantra, I meant more like non-ejaculatory orgasms and sexual energy practices. The writing in this book is cringe worthy at times (the author thought "sexual Kung Fu" was a better term than "tantra") but the edging techniques and approach to orgasm and ejaculation as different things is revolutionary for those who are new to these concepts. http://www.amazon.com/The-Multi-Orgasmic-Man-Sexual-Secrets/dp/0062513362

u/Lexwulf · 1 pointr/sex

Check out this book: https://www.amazon.com/Multi-Orgasmic-Man-Sexual-Secrets-Should/dp/0062513362

My marriage got transformed when I stopped cumming everytime during sex. Now I can get my hands off my wife. Worth giving it a shot.

u/avelsdjur · 1 pointr/Meditation
u/SuboptimalZebra · 1 pointr/relationship_advice

This suck to hear!

The challenge is two-fold:

Your brain is used to the massive dopamine rush of porn, which over shadows the small dopamine rush you get from a single girl. It’s like eating doughnuts your whole life then trying to eat celery. The latter is healthier for you, but compared to a sugar high it’s bland.
[edit.. forgot to add] Dopamine receptors will take anywhere from a couple weeks to months to fully heal so give it time.

  1. Stop porn (easier said that done, so keep reading)

    Next comes your anxiety around all this. My hunch is you feel anxiety because you believe you are a shitty human for having a porn addiction and are unable to ‘perform’ for your girl. This leads to shame, the belief that you don’t have a problem, but that you are a problem... and I could be wrong! But if not let’s keep going...
    The solution starts with asking why? What does porn give you? A rush? A high? Satiation? Numb or calm your mind and body? Then ask why do you need those things? I also used to struggle with porn addiction and was using it to numb and calm my mind so I could sleep; my body was always in fight/flight mode due to life circumstances. Calming my body was part one of the solution and released my need for porn... point being, figure out what porn gives you and fix that.

    The next part is love and acceptance of your demons. You have a porn problem. You’re not a shitty human. We all have issues and that’s okay. Last month I picked up a pack of smokes cause of stress. Last week I hurt one of my gf’s cause I was triggered and basically ghosted her for a few days cause I didn’t know to communicate. Instead of beating myself up over it I decided the love the part of me that’s struggling and having a hard time. (And in doing so I stopped smoking and had a heart to heart with her last night)
    Love and acceptance doesn’t mean being happy about it... it’s kind of like when a dog shits on the carpet. You don’t tell it “you’re a piece of shit dog!” Instead you say “aw he doesn’t know any better. Let’s work on this together.”
    When you start accepting that you aren’t perfect and that’s okay, it’ll lift a huge amount of performance anxiety and shame. You’re a work in progress and this is one area you need to work on, and that’s okay! 1% better every day. That’s the goal!
  2. Love and acceptance

    Lastly here’s one more, and it’s the hard one. Have you told your girl? If not, that will only make your performance anxiety worse. There’s a wall between you two and she knows it. Come clean with her and ask for her help. You want to be an amazing bf to her and hate feeling like this is getting in the way. This won’t be an easy convo but it’s essential. The moment you two can come together with love and acceptance it will create room for you to grow and removes a ton of shame. And if you have set backs, tell her about those too. In addition, tell a close buddy and ask for support. Also seek out groups like the subreddit in the above comment. Social support is everything and will define your success.
  3. Tell her. Get a support group.

    In addition to, be willing to accept that sometimes it won’t work and have a laugh at it. Your penis is not you. Some days they work, some they don’t.
  4. Your penis is injured, not broken.

    Lastly (actually lastly), look at the rest of your life. Are you stressed? What’s your social life like? Work? Hobbies? Do you smoke and drink a decent amount? Much like getting a beach bod you don’t solely do bicept curls all day long. Instead you do lifts that hit every muscle. Your treatment plan is to attack this from every angle too!
  5. Stop or decrease porn use (until stopped)
  6. Practice love and acceptance of your demons
  7. Tell her and get a support group (counselling even!)
  8. Your penis is injured, not broken
  9. Get a hobby, ideally social that gets you into flow
  10. Eat healthy (whole foods. Keep it simple)
  11. Get proper sleep and a regular bedtime (ease up on caffeine and use melatonin if you need assistance... and look up sleep techniques PRN)
  12. Exercise
  13. Sort out any other stress in your life as best you can.

    Idk how many of these you are or aren’t doing, so take what you like and leave the rest. And fwiw you got this bud!!! It’s gonna be hard but I believe in you! Best of luck brother, you got this!

    Tl;dr:
    Porn’s not the problem. It’s why you use it that is.
    Stop beating yourself up and accept your demons (we all have them and that’s okay)

    Ps.
    Literature and references:

    the Multiprgasmic Man - The tools in here will help a ton and get you pointed in the right direction for healthy sex and erections.

    Mark Manson - Self discipline A lot of what I mention comes from Mark’s teaching.
u/DevilTheGod · 1 pointr/NoFap

Here's a possible solution to the "sex" thing but the relationship thing that's on the two of you and the type of people you are...There are sexual practices that involve full on sex without ejaculation, you can pleasure her more then you've ever had and retain your semen =P

https://www.amazon.com/Multi-Orgasmic-Man-Sexual-Secrets-Should/dp/0062513362

u/guygizmo · 1 pointr/TwoXChromosomes

I was going to come here to post this. The first step for a guy to learn to control when he cums is to learn when he's about to cum. Once he has that, he can control the pace and intensity of sex so that he's always on the verge of orgasm.

If you really want to get crazy, there's also this:
http://www.amazon.com/Multi-Orgasmic-Man-Sexual-Secrets-Should/dp/0062513362

u/TurboBox · 1 pointr/AskReddit
u/HerbivoreStyle · 1 pointr/taoism

The idea isn't to cease having orgasms; but to cease ejaculation. The two are not the same, although for many men they always happen together. Read about "sexual kung fu" and multiple male orgasms--it is possible to orgasm without ejaculating. See here: http://www.amazon.com/The-Multi-Orgasmic-Man-Sexual-Secrets/dp/0062513362

Surely you notice how tired and exhausted you feel after you cum? That is your life force being shot directly out of you

u/baronfel66 · 1 pointr/NoFap



>I also notice after I have sex with a girl, my urges to watch porn increase tremendously and I usually wind up relapsing. Anyone have any input?

This is very common, we call it the chaser effect. Increased cravings after sex, particularly sex with orgasm. Be aware of it so it doesn't take you by surprise.

You can reduce it greatly by not orgasming during sex, but this is easier said than done. Check out this book for techniques
https://www.amazon.com/Multi-Orgasmic-Man-Sexual-Secrets-Should/dp/0062513362

u/Zaahh · 1 pointr/sex

I recommend reading The Multi Orgasmic Man . It has the best kegel exercises as far as I'm concerned.

u/OverTheNeptune · 1 pointr/AskReddit

This was an issue for me when I was younger. I have a few tips that work for me.

-Just relax. The more comfortable you feel, the less you're going to be worried about finishing early. Remember, sex should be fun.

-Foreplay might help. Ask your wife for a massage before having sex.

-Sex doesn't have to be a steady in and out movement the whole time. Take breaks. Slow down, change positions, take deep breaths when you feeling yourself getting more excited.

-Sometimes, focusing on your breathing can help you get better control.

-I think there's a point during sex where your penis sort of acclimates to the feeling of a vagina. Once you reach this point, it's much easier to control your climax. Start sex slow and wait until you sort of get used to the feeling before doing anything too fancy.

-Read a book! I found this one helpful.

http://www.amazon.com/Multi-Orgasmic-Man-Sexual-Secrets-Should/dp/0062513362

Hope that helps!

u/heycharles · 1 pointr/NoFap

Before nofap, every time i would have sex, with my girlfriend (and ex-girlfriends) i never felt a bit nervous, i've felt EXTREMELY nervous. I suffered a lot PE and after nofap i am much better now.
One things that really helps is to control you expiration and inspiration to be slow and deep instead of fast and short.
I will suggest to read this book, they have this tip about you respiration and other exercise to know more yourself. It worked for me.

http://www.amazon.com/The-Multi-Orgasmic-Man-Sexual-Secrets/dp/0062513362/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1370373963&sr=8-1&keywords=man+multiple+orgasm

(they have a kindle edition, wich is great because the title is a little bit controversial and people can make judgement. I'm saying that because i live with my parents and i have the book edition and so the book needs to be well hidden to avoid unnecessary explanations)