Reddit Reddit reviews The New I Do: Reshaping Marriage for Skeptics, Realists and Rebels

We found 4 Reddit comments about The New I Do: Reshaping Marriage for Skeptics, Realists and Rebels. Here are the top ones, ranked by their Reddit score.

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4 Reddit comments about The New I Do: Reshaping Marriage for Skeptics, Realists and Rebels:

u/myexsparamour · 8 pointsr/DeadBedrooms

Maybe you could continue to live together as co-parents but end your sexual relationship, allowing both you and your wife to take other lovers. Or, you could live separately but in adjoining homes.

Have you seen the book The New I Do? It describes some creative solutions that people are finding for their marriages, rather than try to fit themselves into the square hole that doesn't work for many of us. You seem like a highly intelligent person with lots of resources, so I'll bet you and your wife could come to a workable agreement.

I'm sorry, but the physical incompatibility you describe does not sound fixable to me. When a man doesn't smell right to me, it's a dealbreaker.

u/parrot1 · 3 pointsr/DeadBedrooms

This is a classic and long-term DB. I just thought about sharing with you a new book, [The New I Do: Reshaping Marriage for Skeptics, Realists and Rebels] (http://www.amazon.com/The-New-Do-Reshaping-Marriage/dp/1580055451), by Susan Pease Gadoua and Vicki Larson. There are others listed on the right as well.

If you're seeking to opt out or open up your marriage, such info could be helpful. If you stay you could have a discreet and open marriage. You're being 57, married for 25, your sexless situation is beyond repair. You could stay though for the kids.

The book challenges readers to consider alternate marital agreements in a world where married people are in sexless marriages, more couples are having children out of wedlock and about half of all marriages end in divorce. “Rather than continue to encourage people to cram themselves into an old model that isn’t working for many — about one out of two marriages ends in divorce — we want to acknowledge what’s already happening and encourage you to think about new ways to marry,” the authors write. It offers up seven models of alternate marriages for modern couples to consider. Reading the reviews on amazon could be enough.

u/NapoleonCoaching · 2 pointsr/relationship_advice

Companionate marriages can work very well if everyone involved is open and honest about what they want and why they want it. I would strongly recommend a sexually and/or romantically open marriage if you do decide to move forward with this. It also sounds like you both bring a lot of joy and value to each other's lives, so even if you don't get legally married (or even if you "break up" for good) there's no reason not to stay close friends.

Check out "The New I Do" by Susan Pease Gadoua and Vicki Larson. There's a great chapter in there on companionate marriage, as well as tons of info on how to make different relationship structures work in today's world.

u/CameBackChanged · 1 pointr/DeadBedrooms

Your description reminded me of something. This isn't it -- the book I was thinking of is still stuck on the tip of my tongue -- but it turned up during my googling, and according to one review, there are even 7 marriages in it: https://www.amazon.com/New-Do-Reshaping-Marriage-Skeptics/dp/1580055451/?tag=wwwbelladepau-20