Reddit reviews The Other Side of Desire: Four Journeys into the Far Realms of Lust and Longing

I highly recommend reading Daniel Bergner's "The Other Side of Desire" to better understand how complex fetishism can be, and how it defies simple concepts of sexuality. It's not a matter of "gay" or "straight" at all. Like if you were turned on by, say, the color red. When you saw the color, you get aroused. It doesn't matter if its the red lipstick of a lady, or the red shirt of a dude. It's the color itself that matters. And an exhibitionist may have a similar response. They might be straight (wants to have sex with the opposite gender) and still be turned on by exhibition regardless of the gender of the person seeing them. Make sense? Most people don't have a fetish, so it can be a difficult idea to understand.

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If you're interested in this topic, read the book "The Other Side of Desire". It gives a very interesting perspective on sexual fetishes and conditions, one of the accounts being from a pedophile. While I in no way console pedophilia, hearing his account really forces you to reexamine your own notions of what that sort of person is like.