Reddit reviews The Path to Nibbana: How Mindfulness of Loving-Kindness Progresses through the Tranquil Aware Jhanas to Awakening
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I just read The Road to Nibbana which focuses on metta. It adds a sort of relaxation step that you apply to anything that comes up. Maybe that would help.
A shorter and cheaper book covering the same technique is this.
Edit: also I sometimes find it helps a lot to dive right into any major bad feeling that comes up, and then relax. I think I've seen that suggested somewhere. But take anything I say with a grain of salt, I'm not exactly advanced and I've never worked with other meditators.
Hmm,actually something that can have a similar and even more potent effect than what you have witnessed is found in this book,You need only to understand some of the essential concepts then there is an actual outline you can follow and actually practice. Plus if you can do a intensive 10 day retreat where you practice the instructions like for 10hr/ day you might just have the breakthrough you want way faster than if you would just practice every day for one hour. https://www.amazon.com/Path-Nibbana-Mindfulness-Loving-Kindness-Progresses-ebook/dp/B06WRPZZQF/
Sharon Salzberg talks about this in one of the first chapters of her book. She mentions a week of retreat dedicated exclusively to metta to herself and getting out of it with seemingly nothing to show for it. This was followed by some kind of home accident accompanied by a thought on the lines of "damn you are soooo clumsy, but I love you any way".
She emphasizes that you don't have to feel anything for metta to be doing its work. The metaphor was patiently planting seeds and watering the garden.
I had a lot of resistance adding metta to my practice, but kept trying to find something that worked for me. I read not only her book, but Loving Kindness in Plain English and another one that was freely available online (I can get the reference if you want it). Nothing clicked until I read Banthe Vimalaramsi's [take on it] (https://www.amazon.com/dp/B06WRPZZQF/ref=dp-kindle-redirect?_encoding=UTF8&btkr=1).
This is very much due to /u/Share-Metta and other SE users very wholesome trumpeting of its benefits. I'm really glad I took their word for it as metta is now my favorite part of the practice. :)