Reddit reviews The Selfish Pig's Guide to Caring

There's probably some on Facebook but best thing I ever read, as a young carer for my mum, was this book: The Selfish Pigs Guide to Caring. It sounds super bad with the title but it's actually great at talking about how selfish it can feel to be "selfish" as a carer and take time for yourself. There might be some more recent books too.

Does fibromyalgia have a charity or an "official" association near you that does things like carer support? We have one for my mum's disease and they did carer retreats that were great. Even just a general chronic pain one?

Alternatively, if he can't find any support groups he's comfortable with, don't underestimate the benefit of good friends or a normal therapist. Make sure he takes some time to himself every week, whether it's a beer with his friends, going to play a sport, or even just going to Starbucks and chilling with a book and a coffee.

And if he's struggling with anxiety about the future, either counselling with a therapist that's just for him where he can feel free to vent or if there's disability service organisations around you, maybe going into them and getting some information about what the processes for claiming for services or support care are. I know here in Australia, if a person counts as "disabled" based on certain criteria, a social worker or a disability advocate can help them get things like a home cleaning or carer that can take some stress off of your husband.