Reddit reviews The Surrendered Wife: A Practical Guide To Finding Intimacy, Passion and Peace

Here you go.

I married at 18 and have been married for 10 years.

Your husband sounds beaten down and depressed. Besides the obvious good diet, plenty of sleep, sunshine, etc be mindful that he is going through a lot. It's really hard living with a person like this and it's really hard being this person. Just keep trying to show that you love him and support him.

Femininity attracts masculinity. Submission attracts dominance. The best way to help him become this person is to make space for him to become this person and make him want to be this person.

> I know part of the problem is that he feels emasculated and unappreciated at his job.

Make sure he feels masculine and appreciated at home. Thank him a lot. Not just verbally. Show your gratitude for all that he does for you.

I suggest reading the MMSL Primer and The Surrendered Wife

I think there might be some books out there by women orbiting the manosphere, but I don't know any. The Surrendered Wife is a good book to read, and she also has The Surrendered Single.

Hi there, I'm a girl who lurks.

The men here will, no doubt correctly, advise you about not discussing RP with your wife and not announcing your intentions (both via the mantra 'acta non verba' and because it seems there is consensus that it generally doesn't help for her to know what you're doing--and especially not in the terms used in the books tailored for a male audience and which can be used against you).

I just thought I would chime in with a RP-compatible book that contains none of that, in case it might help: http://www.amazon.com/Surrendered-Wife-Practical-Finding-Intimacy/dp/0743204441

Tricky question! "Self improvement" is important, but it's not as big a thing in the female spaces of the pill-o-sphere. Most of the books we discuss in RPW are more to do with relationship skills, and possibly fall outside of 'self improvement' per se. By their nature, they're more suited to women who are already open to the ideas of male/female nature, complementary relationships, etc. It depends what you think your wife is open to.

"Surrendered Wife" is probably the best bet, IF you don't think the title/cover will turn her off AND the Christian basis isn't going to be problematic. Make sure you get the actual book, not the one that's a series of stories of women putting the principles into action.

Outside of TRP, a book I've found super valuable that's more about self-improvement for women who aren't necessarily focused on it is "The Happiness Project" by Gretchen Rubin. Specifically because I think a lot of the problems in relationships comes from women not caring for themselves properly. Combine it with a beautiful planner/journal and pen (Kikki K is my favourite brand) and you have a gift that is very "I love you and want you to be happy" but also "here are tips to make your/our life better."

Hope this helps!

You "accidentally" did one of the things that The Surrendered Wife suggests to fix marriages. I think you might enjoy the book.

Have you read the Surrendered Wife by Laura Doyle? If not, I highly suggest you read it ASAP. I can’t recommend it enough! Best of luck! :)
https://www.amazon.com/Surrendered-Wife-Practical-Finding-Intimacy/dp/0743204441/ref=nodl_

>I want to serve him, in a way I never have. Emotionally, Intimately, Fully and Completely. ALL WAYS.

If you're serious about the submission and the Submission, you might enjoy https://www.amazon.com/Surrendered-Wife-Practical-Finding-Intimacy/dp/0743204441

I've not read the book, but here it gives advice on the very topic you're addressing.

> They are taught from birth that they are given a place in life from a higher power (to be a submissive, loyal wife and to raise her children within the narrow guidelines given by the church) and to question that place is disrespectful and a he'll worthy sin.

Women have children, not men. That is a God given trait. Women will always be the bearers of children - not men. Unless society finds a way to grotesquely thwart the system and raise babies entirely in incubators outside of a female's body... the natural order is that women have babies.

There was a book that came out years ago called, The Surrendered Wife.

http://www.amazon.com/The-Surrendered-Wife-Practical-Intimacy/dp/0743204441

This book made a huge controversy on the role of women in the home and how they should support and respect their husband. There are women who are willing to follow the guidelines in this book, there are those that won't. But that doesn't mean the ideals in the book are wrong - it comes down to trust, respect and yes... love and servitude as a woman.

You see men all the time become silent/docile creatures after being put down so much by their wives that they found its better to just shut up than try to have an opinion... or... to lead their household.

These ideas have been totally destroyed since women can't just respect and listen to their husbands. It's a huge part in mutual understanding between both parties.

Point being, these guidelines aren't inflicted and knocked into women... they're believed because they WORK.